Boyfriend just dumped me... it hurts worse than the cancer worry

I am so sorry that you are
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Life can suck. But he definitely doesn't deserve you. A real man would not begin to behave the way that he has to you. Please know that I am here for you and you may pm me if you need me.

I know this is easy to say
But as a guy, I know this for a fact: the world is full of guys, but you have only one life. First things first. Grab your life back from the beast, and you'll find yourself an upgrade: the world is full of guys, and not all of us are turds like your ex. As much as it hurts now, you dodged a bullet!

Joe

roseann4 said:

Love isn't conditional.
I think Joe has given you some good advise, but you still need to go through the grieving process. BC has shown all of us which people are there for us through the good and the bad. In the long run, that's a gift. In the short run it really sucks. Do something loving for yourself today even if it is as simple as a hot bath or watching a good movie.

Hugs.

Roseann

I know you are deeply hurt
I know you are deeply hurt and dissapointed. sometimes in the bad times people show their true colors. It doesnt seem fair, you have to have cancer and the loss of an important relationship. Joe is right, stay the course, fight the beast and dont waste your time on the turd. I do what roseanne has said, I try to live in the moment and do things that make me happy. today is all we have, dont waste it on an idiot who doesnt deserve you. Mnay Hugs it sucks ! Better days are coming!

Kathy
I can only imagine how much it hurts and believe me, if thoughts could somehow translate into reality he would be black and blue from all the kicks, slaps, and punches we would all be wishing on him. I'm glad you have your daughter to help you through this. He obviously couldn't have said the marriage vows because he has already failed the "in sickness" part. Please concentrate on getting well and feel good about yourself. Just like the rest of us, you didn't ask for cancer but nonetheless you are dealing with it and you are now a PINK WARRIOR. You have friends here!

HUGS!!!
Jamie

carkris said:

I know you are deeply hurt
I know you are deeply hurt and dissapointed. sometimes in the bad times people show their true colors. It doesnt seem fair, you have to have cancer and the loss of an important relationship. Joe is right, stay the course, fight the beast and dont waste your time on the turd. I do what roseanne has said, I try to live in the moment and do things that make me happy. today is all we have, dont waste it on an idiot who doesnt deserve you. Mnay Hugs it sucks ! Better days are coming!

Roseann and Penny are absolutely right
By all means, do something nice for yourself TODAY. My beloved Moopy has been through all of this once, and we're waiting for a test next week to determine whether the damn thing has come back. It ain't much fun. But with prayer, and strength, and the loving support of our CSN family, we are hanging in there.

The Moopster and her big sister are having a chick flick marathon today, while I'm treating myself to shrimp and football. The pups will have treats and a nice long walk. We can't control what's going on next week, but we're doing our best to enjoy today.

Good luck and God Bless!
Joe

jamiegww said:

Kathy
I can only imagine how much it hurts and believe me, if thoughts could somehow translate into reality he would be black and blue from all the kicks, slaps, and punches we would all be wishing on him. I'm glad you have your daughter to help you through this. He obviously couldn't have said the marriage vows because he has already failed the "in sickness" part. Please concentrate on getting well and feel good about yourself. Just like the rest of us, you didn't ask for cancer but nonetheless you are dealing with it and you are now a PINK WARRIOR. You have friends here!

HUGS!!!
Jamie

What a Loser
Gee, that stinks, sorry Kathy, I'm with Jamie, its a Good thing our thoughts can't be translated into reality.
We are all here for you.
Keep stong, and better to lose him now than waist your time and find out down the road what a loser he is.
Hugs Karie

Aortus said:

Roseann and Penny are absolutely right
By all means, do something nice for yourself TODAY. My beloved Moopy has been through all of this once, and we're waiting for a test next week to determine whether the damn thing has come back. It ain't much fun. But with prayer, and strength, and the loving support of our CSN family, we are hanging in there.

The Moopster and her big sister are having a chick flick marathon today, while I'm treating myself to shrimp and football. The pups will have treats and a nice long walk. We can't control what's going on next week, but we're doing our best to enjoy today.

Good luck and God Bless!
Joe

He is not worth the tears
He is not worth the tears but they will flow anyway for what could have been and your image of him. It will fade. I think the one day thing is appalling and karma will get him in the end. Life has a way. Joe is right. Do something nice right now for yourself. And I say move stuff out late tonight with as many people as you can get to help and as much noise and mess as you can generate. Seriously, you owe him nothing, absolutely nothing. Down the road you will realize how lucky you are to have dodged the bullet by marrying this guy. But it doesn't help right now. Just try to take this a day at a day and focus on you and your health and your needs. Prayers for you.

And Joe, I am happy to hear that you and your gal are doing stuff to ease your minds right now. The only thing that would make it perfect is a nice piece of jewelry for Moopy. No, she didn't put me up to this. But flowers, candy, ice cream, cake, and bling can help any situation. Okay, I will butt out and not try to cost you some cash but think about it.

Stef

I am so sorry, but like the
I am so sorry, but like the others have said he isn't worth your tears. And remember this, what goes around comes around, would you have left him if he had testicular cancer?

I am so sorry for your loss,
I am so sorry for your loss, rotten or not. I know how you feel and the same thing happened to me after my mastectomy. It has been a couple years and it was worse than the cancer diagnosis. I completely stayed away from him, no calls nothing. Then this past November he contacted me and I seen him. I can tell you, I am so over him. I am grateful that he is long gone. You lose so much with cancer and I would have had problems in the sexual department anyway. Positive life radio also helped me feel better about myself. I wish you all the best, you can contact me at jjmax40@hotmail.com.

Hugs Koda

ladyg said:

I am sorry
that the man you thought was the love of your life turned out to be such a jerk. Better you found out now than later. This just means that "Mr. Right" is still out there. We are here for you so come and vent any time you need too.

Hugs,
Georgia

I'm sorry Kat
This guy clearly wasn't your equal. He realized he was to weak to handle what you are going thru, and cut out. Sometimes God has to move the people who aren't good for us out of our lives to make room for the ones He's sending to us as a blessing. I believe that is what happened to you. I promise you, you will find love again. Take care, and be kind to yourself.

Jennifer