Ketziah35

Family matters, oh don't ya just love em.....I got em as well.....I got a mom that likes to be a controlling **** when she doesn't get her way...and uses one sibling against the other to try and accomplish her needs....OOPS, DO WE HAVE THE SAME MOM ??? My thing is when I feel like I have done all I can do I simply walk away and remove myself from the situation. You have 3 things to do about this, any of which will work so take your pick or....we have to grin and bear it...

My resolutions are....
(1) write out how you feel about each and everyone of your family members on a piece of paper and don't leave out any expletives or anything...then take it out and burn it....your frustrations leave with the smoke.....
(2) Tell them all in a nice but firm family conversation how you feel exactly and why, and so what if they get mad at you, maybe they will get a little taste of what you have put up with for so long.....
(3) Completely remove yourself from the situation, until they either call you asking whats wrong ( as though they don't know ) or until hell freezes over, whichever comes first.

Its now time for you to take care of #1, and thats not mom, its you, and its not being selfish, its self preservation. Do not allow them to take you down with the ship, and do not feel bad when they ask for something from you that anyone of them could do for themselves. DO NOT ENABLE THEM TO BE COMPLETELY RELIANT ON YOU ...Its time they quit relying on you and take matters into their own hands, sometimes TOUGH LOVE is a ****, but it sure does work.....everytime.......Love to you and do something special this New Years, Only for Yourself, indulge in something just fitting for you that really makes ya smile.......Happy New Year Sis...........Clift......(Buzz)