I'm new to Breast Cancer but not to Cancer.

Hi,
I am new to Breast Cancer and just found out December 23, 2010 like the nurse said not a Christmas gift you want. So far I haven't told my family because of Christmas other then my husband and my daughter who had Breast Cancer at 46. I am 68 as of October.

I had skin cancer many years ago then 14 months ago found out I had Bladder Cancer but with surgery and chemo it is still gone for now a 30 to 60 percent of it coming back but now they found breast cancer. Like my daughter and I say when they called each of us back for more tests then won't tell you the results by phone but send you to see a surgeon right away you know before they said it when you get there.

I am lucky this time in some ways I have a biopsy December 29th then will know what I am facing so far the surgeon thinks it is Invasive ductal carcinoma but he thinks it may be stage one but can't say anything but thinks. Will get a biopsy the 29th then face what they find out from that. The bad news is my husband won't be much help though we have been married for 50 years now he has just been diagnosed with begining dementia alzeimers type so is scared of whats happening to him and doesn't seem to be able to concentrate when he goes with me though he says he is there for moral support.

I was in our Walk and Roll here last year and was at two survivors dinners one local and once an hour away at my cancer doctors.

The support thing worrys me though I saw a sign for a support group at our local hospital and can contact the people here I worked with on the Walk and Roll but wanted to ask quesions please? How do you do the POA thing when you have three kids and two live far away the one who lives here works a lot and drives an hour and a half each way he his wife works the opposite shift she is days he is nights. Have to do something as I worry my husband won't be able to make decisions when needed. My daughter is a nurse in california and I am in Illinois but she has had this kind of cancer and is a hospice nurse. My main thought scaring me is I want to survive this if I can and enoy my life like I do now so it is scary doing a new POA, new legal papers on who will decide for my husband on his problems with alzeimers when he isn't able to if something happens to me it is all so scary. I went through the anger now am ready to fight it to live and enjoy my family, friends and hobbys for more years. 68 to me isn't near as old as some of my friends and the are still enjoying life so am I.

Thanks for any help or ideas or just support.

Pris