I'm new to Breast Cancer but not to Cancer.

Ritzy

Pris42 said:

Thank You all So Much
Thank you for all the encouraging words on this battle with cancer. My daughter calls it the club none off us wanted to belong to but do.

I had the skin cancer then bladder cancer but my husband was OK then now he isn't and support from him witth beginging dementia and family members who haven't had any illness or surgery, or anything sometimes think oh surgery and you'll be ok easy as that. It is early so far it looks like and I hope it is as easy as that and radiation but you don't know this early.

Tomorrow the surgeon is asking the radialogists to look at a spot in the left breast also and let him know what they thinlk. He scheduled me for suregery this Thursday three days from now so it will be done quickly. He went through the whole thing of what to expecct if and if they found it in the lymph nodes what to expect and so forth and have my folder with information so am ready and armed for thursday I think but wish my husband was able to be as my support system like he was but think that will be from friends and other family who are away from the area. I will be reading the messages on here and hope to be encouraging to others who come to this after I do so I have been through what they might be facing.


Thanks again so much will know a couple od days after this Thursday hopefully on surgery and raidation only or chemo too so will be back

I am praying for everyone else here too and sending Hugs and good thoughts and good health to all.

Thanks again for the help and I will be reading the posts and posting I'm sure.

God Bless,

Pris

Good luck with your surgery
Good luck with your surgery this Thursday Pris. I am sending prayers and positive thoughts.


Sue

Tina Blondek

Nice to Meet You
Hi Pris
Your cousin, ZinnieMay told me to look you up and send you a reply. I met her through the boards and on the chat room. We really have fun in the chat room, you should come join us! My story is that I was a caregiver for my dad. He was dx 11/08 with esophageal cancer. I joined csn in 11/09. I have found this to be absolutely wonderful. I have made many friends. I have been able to relate and help a lot of people from my experience. My dad fought for 16 mos, then it went to his liver. He passed away in March 2010. I come to this site almost everyday. It helps me to help others. From your story, you are for sure a strong woman, and a fighter to say the least! Keep up the battle and keep us up to date! See you soon!
Tina in Va

Pris42

Ritzy said:

Good luck with your surgery
Good luck with your surgery this Thursday Pris. I am sending prayers and positive thoughts.


Sue

Thank you again Sue you are all so helpful I don't feel as alone
I do my preop tomorrow, and then surgery the next day the 6th. I have to have the wire inserted in the breast to guide them to get it all easier, and then the surgery they said about three hours. I have two lumps or tumors to remove. I am starting to get very worried now though when I left the surgeons office last nght I just wanted to get on with it as soon as possible which is what the surgeon wants too so made itquick so I don't have to worry as long. He thinks maybe I will get by with lumpectomys and radiation, but isn't sure till everything is checked of course. Do others feel like they just want to get the surgery done and on to whatever the next step is then start getting a little, or a lot panicky as it gets closer to time? It sounds like 8:30 to 1:30 maybe it sounds so long to be there and have them doing things but maybe itt is normal. Anyway thanks for the support it is nice to know some who have been through this before to encourage you though I wish nobody ever had to have cancer again. My grandaughter and I plan to walk in our Relay for Life here if treatment permits we did it last year. She is just 8 so can't be on the team but walks with me for hours and even did the survivor lap with me the team told her to since she helped with everything that day anything anyyone needed she was there and wants to do it again this year. I signed up now hope to be able to do it. Did you sign up or ask for someone in the outreach program? I didn't but my daughter said maybe it would help or maybe they would help stay with my husband some while he waits since it will be awhile.

survivorbc09

Pris42 said:

Thank you again Sue you are all so helpful I don't feel as alone
I do my preop tomorrow, and then surgery the next day the 6th. I have to have the wire inserted in the breast to guide them to get it all easier, and then the surgery they said about three hours. I have two lumps or tumors to remove. I am starting to get very worried now though when I left the surgeons office last nght I just wanted to get on with it as soon as possible which is what the surgeon wants too so made itquick so I don't have to worry as long. He thinks maybe I will get by with lumpectomys and radiation, but isn't sure till everything is checked of course. Do others feel like they just want to get the surgery done and on to whatever the next step is then start getting a little, or a lot panicky as it gets closer to time? It sounds like 8:30 to 1:30 maybe it sounds so long to be there and have them doing things but maybe itt is normal. Anyway thanks for the support it is nice to know some who have been through this before to encourage you though I wish nobody ever had to have cancer again. My grandaughter and I plan to walk in our Relay for Life here if treatment permits we did it last year. She is just 8 so can't be on the team but walks with me for hours and even did the survivor lap with me the team told her to since she helped with everything that day anything anyyone needed she was there and wants to do it again this year. I signed up now hope to be able to do it. Did you sign up or ask for someone in the outreach program? I didn't but my daughter said maybe it would help or maybe they would help stay with my husband some while he waits since it will be awhile.

Praying your surgery went
Praying your surgery went well today Pris. Update us when you can.


Hugs, Jan

Angie2U

Gabe N Abby Mom said:

Hello Pris,
I'm so sorry you have the need to find us, you certainly have a lot on your plate. You will find many here who can offer support and advice.

To answer your specific question regarding the POA....I'm a bank manager for a large national bank and can only speak about the POA issues from that perspective. Also, I'm in CA and there are likely some legal differences for you in IL.

So generally, I would say pick one person to be the POA and name a secondary in case the first is unable to perform the duties you need. Second, I would pick the most capable person, the one who will understand your wishes and abide by them (this doesn't need to be a family member). Then ask that person if they are willing/able to perform the duties you require. You may want to consider separate POA's...one for medical issues and one for financial/legal issues. Do not worry about the distance, so much can be done now long distance...especially if your funds are in a national bank. If your funds are in a smaller regional bank or a regional credit union it is a little harder for the POA, but still very doable. Third, I would recommend a small joint account(liquid, checking or savings)for you and the POA. This will give your POA some financial flexibility while the legal/banking issues are resolved. Finally, you may want to consider hiring a fiduciary to handle your financial issues, your local bank should be able to recommend someone if you want to go that route.

I really want to stress that you select someone you trust, someone who will leave everything alone until the appropriate time. I have seen many families destroyed over POA financial issues (and sometimes downright theft). I'm not saying that to add to your fears, because you're right this is scary. And trying to think through all the 'what if' scenarios is a daunting task. Clearly though, you are a strong woman and I believe you are up to the challenge.

I hope this helps. But if I've only brought more questions to mind, please feel free to send me a private message (click on the CSN email link to the left).

Sending you strength and courage,

Linda

Wishing you good luck and
Wishing you good luck and sending prayers, strength and hugs!