When will it end???

kayebadoe
kayebadoe Member Posts: 81
edited March 2014 in Lymphoma (Hodgkin and Non-Hodgkin) #1
I got a clean Pet Scan and I am happy don't get me wrong. BUT and its a big one. When will all the $hit end???? My husband is like a 5 year old. He can take care of his bodily functions. Thank God, but he can't do the things he could before. Ok so I am officially a ****. My husband has gone thru 3 brain anurisms since 1993. 6 times in the hospital since april, 5 surgeries. I have had cancer. Thru it all I have taken care of him, even when I was so sick and tired I could hardly get out of bed. I have babied him, and waited on him hand and foot. When is it my turn to be babied???? When will I be taken care of??? We have been married 41 years and I have taken care of him all these years, catered to his every need, and when it is my turn, I have to take care of him again. I am so tired of it. 4 years ago we sold our house and moved in with our daughter who wanted to "take care of us". Our names are not on the mortgage. She has been in foreclosure 4 times. We have bailed her out 3 times. Thousands of dolars, not counting the money and time we have put in the house. So now she has missed another payment. We know we will have to write off the 100.000. we have put in this house, and move. Oh how I hate moving. Now with everything else happening I have to pay off charge cards and save to have a down payment on a house and move from Arizona to Indiana (our home town), by myself draging him along. Oh jeeze I bore myself.................. sorry all I just needed to vent.

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  • nhldaughter
    nhldaughter Member Posts: 67
    #2
    sorry :(
    I'm sorry to hear your frustration! I have been married for only 3 years and I often want to slap my husband for being a baby, can't imagine 41 years!!! I deeply feel for you and know that you perfectly have the right to be full of this crap! BUT, your scan is clean!!! I don't even know details, but I am so happy for you. I always think, crap will come and go and one can manage, even if it sucks! However, if your health "goes" then that's it! So while it may seem very frustrating just think, your scan is clean and these things... you WILL be able to manage. Roya (FNHL-2-3A-10/10)
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #3
    nhldaughter said:

    sorry :(
    I'm sorry to hear your frustration! I have been married for only 3 years and I often want to slap my husband for being a baby, can't imagine 41 years!!! I deeply feel for you and know that you perfectly have the right to be full of this crap! BUT, your scan is clean!!! I don't even know details, but I am so happy for you. I always think, crap will come and go and one can manage, even if it sucks! However, if your health "goes" then that's it! So while it may seem very frustrating just think, your scan is clean and these things... you WILL be able to manage. Roya (FNHL-2-3A-10/10)

    DIAGNOSIS
    Roya,
    Shouldn't it be (FNHL-2A-3-10/10)? I MAY BE WRONG. JOHN (FNHL-1-4A-5/10)
  • allmost60
    allmost60 Member Posts: 3,178 Member
    #4
    Life's challenges...
    Hi Kaye,
    I'm so sorry you have been going through all of this. One thing I have learned since dealing with my own cancer is that lifes daily challenges don't cut us any slack because we have cancer.Pipes break, kids act up, bills still have to be paid, and sadly enough some spouses don't always do their part to make the situation easier. The only thing we seem to have control over is how we re-act or handle each situation. My heart goes out to you and I will pray you find a way to deal with all of this. God bless you Kaye.
    Love...Sue (FNHL-2-3A-6/10)
  • Tracie1981
    Tracie1981 Member Posts: 125
    #5
    So sorry...
    I know exactly how it feels to have so much to bare and feel like noone is really there to help. Its definitely quite intimidating, frustrating and down right pathetic the things you sometimes have to go through because of the inconsideration of the people who supposedly are there for you. Or atleast are supposed to be there. I honestly dont quite understand but somehow its just human nature for most people to worry about themselves first and foremost, which in some situations is ok but there has to be some sacrifice especially when it comes to marriage and family matters. I think we have all in some sense been where you are and I am truly sorry you are having to go through this right now, I hope your days get a little easier. Take care and God Bless :)
  • kayebadoe
    kayebadoe Member Posts: 81
    #6
    Tracie1981 said:

    So sorry...
    I know exactly how it feels to have so much to bare and feel like noone is really there to help. Its definitely quite intimidating, frustrating and down right pathetic the things you sometimes have to go through because of the inconsideration of the people who supposedly are there for you. Or atleast are supposed to be there. I honestly dont quite understand but somehow its just human nature for most people to worry about themselves first and foremost, which in some situations is ok but there has to be some sacrifice especially when it comes to marriage and family matters. I think we have all in some sense been where you are and I am truly sorry you are having to go through this right now, I hope your days get a little easier. Take care and God Bless :)

    Thank you guys
    For being so understanding. Sometimes I feel like such a **** for feeling like this!
  • allmost60
    allmost60 Member Posts: 3,178 Member
    #7
    kayebadoe said:

    Thank you guys
    For being so understanding. Sometimes I feel like such a **** for feeling like this!

    Nope...
    Nope Kaye, your not a *****, your human, and it's ok to say "your fed up"! You are beating cancer, so you will beat this also. You will figure it all out because you are strong.
    Take care and God bless you...Sue (FNHL-2-3A-6/10)
  • nhldaughter
    nhldaughter Member Posts: 67
    #8
    COBRA666 said:

    DIAGNOSIS
    Roya,
    Shouldn't it be (FNHL-2A-3-10/10)? I MAY BE WRONG. JOHN (FNHL-1-4A-5/10)

    hmmm
    hmm, Jon, I think I do mean the way I signed. She has stage 2, grade 3A.
  • miss maggie
    miss maggie Member Posts: 929
    #9
    It can end
    Hi Kaye,

    It's just not fair. I sometimes wonder if everything that happens to us is our fault. It may be too late to change our families ways, but it certainly is not too late to change ourselves. We have to learn to say the word NO. Remember that word NO. Sorry for me venting. I just feel so bad for your situation. Just take care of yourself and do what you have to do. Maggie
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #10
    nhldaughter said:

    hmmm
    hmm, Jon, I think I do mean the way I signed. She has stage 2, grade 3A.

    ??????
    Roya,
    Don't know what happened. It kept printing my response over and over. Don't know if it was my computer or something got stuck at the site. John
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #11
    nhldaughter said:

    hmmm
    hmm, Jon, I think I do mean the way I signed. She has stage 2, grade 3A.

    ??????
    Roya,
    Don't know what happened. It kept printing my response over and over. Don't know if it was my computer or something got stuck at the site. John
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #12
    nhldaughter said:

    hmmm
    hmm, Jon, I think I do mean the way I signed. She has stage 2, grade 3A.

    ??????
    Roya,
    Don't know what happened. It kept printing my response over and over. Don't know if it was my computer or something got stuck at the site. John
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #13
    nhldaughter said:

    hmmm
    hmm, Jon, I think I do mean the way I signed. She has stage 2, grade 3A.

    ??????
    Roya,
    Don't know what happened. It kept printing my response over and over. Don't know if it was my computer or something got stuck at the site. John
  • merrywinner
    merrywinner Member Posts: 626 Member
    #14
    COBRA666 said:

    ??????
    Roya,
    Don't know what happened. It kept printing my response over and over. Don't know if it was my computer or something got stuck at the site. John

    LOL!!
    Too funny John!!

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