I am so disappointed

and tired of being lied to. 6:30 Monday is when surgery is scheduled to replace the tissue expander with an implant. At pre-op I learned that I'd be going home after 3 hours for surgery and 'up to 2 hours' for recovery. I called the nurse and asked if this was true whereupon she smugly informed me the only reason I wouldn't be staying overnight is because my 'insurance doesn't cover it.'

It covered an overnight stay for the far less involved lumpectomy. So, I called my insurance and learned otherwise. What I found out is that the doctor/nurse needs to make a request and receive prior approval for an overnight stay. A request wasn't made so therefore no, I wouldn't be staying overnight. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Now, if it's the hospital's practice such surgery is outpatient or maybe from experience they know a request will be denied and so don't bother making a request -- well to me, that's entirely different than saying out of hand that the only reason I'm won't be staying overnight is because it's 'not covered.'

Really, it was just her attitude about it when she told me and later that she whined to the doctor that I'd called and said what I learned. I've put up with a lot of things a lot of times but lying to me by ommission of fact at this point isn't one of those things nor one of those times. I'm seriously thinking of just ignoring everything and everybody from here on out including the surgery on Monday. Since my aunt died about 3 weeks ago from 4th stage breast cancer I find I just don't have a tolerance level for much of anything.

The bizarre thing is I don't even think that I want to stay any longer than absolutely necessary in hospital; the last time I spent a few hours there I caught a nasty cold. Yeah, I realize it's just a simple miscommunication, but the culmination of everything...

Any ideas on how to cope with everything?

Thanks for reading through my extra long rant!