Moms with young kids

I have a 14 year old son and
I have a 14 year old son and a 9 year old daughter. From day one, I have been open and honest with them. The social worker at Kaiser helped me find age appropriate information for them to read, and I took them to my chemo class.

At first, I was very worried about them. How were they feeling? Are they scared? But they have been so resilient. I have found my daughter be more compassionate than I realized, and she is staying "snuggly" longer.

One day I gave my son some material to read. As teenagers do, he got some attitude about reading it. When I pushed he finally said, "Mom, you're trying to protect me from YOUR cancer. But you can't do that. It's YOURS, and you can't protect me from that."

I doubt this helps, except to let you know that whatever the age, we all have concerns for our families. And that you will find support and compassion here.

Hugs to you,

Linda

Evoling_butterfly said:

Hi Nancy
I am 31 yrs old with a six year old...My son had one concern; he didn't want people to laugh at my bald head.. After I reassured him they wouldn't, he wanted to show everyone my head ...

Hi Nancy, and welcome!
I am 43 and have 3 children 25, 22 and 9 and two granddaughters 6 & 3. My youngest daughter has good and bad days. I find notes where she has scribbled "cancer sucks" "it can kill you" Makes me feel so bad for her. Her school has been great, giving her a little lee way and the counseling staff sent home some books for her read. This year the kids in her class had to make "about me" posters and her lead in was "My mom has cancer, it scares me".

My 3 year old granddaughter will ask me things like "do you have cancer today Gammie?"

Poor kids, I think its so hard on all of them, regardless of their age.

Were all here for you if you need anything.

sal314 said:

Hi Nancy
Glad you came on over! I"m 44 and have a 10 yr. old son and 5 year old daughter. I was diagnosed 9 years ago with stage 2 BC. My son was about 15 months old when I was diagnosed. My daughter was a total miracle baby. I had one ovary and had gone through chemo. The fertility doctor told us I had a less than 3% chance of having a baby with my own eggs. Well, God had other plans! She is our little "special" angle. She has Down syndrome, but is anything BUT a downer!! LOL. She's the joy and clown of the family who always makes us laugh!!

Anyway...I know it's hard to go through cancer with little one. So many different worries and emotions. You just have keep a positive attitude, keep fighting and enjoy the life you've been blessed with!!

Sally

Hi Nancy! I have never
Hi Nancy!

I have never posted here before but Moms with young kids....well, thats me! I was diagnosed almost 3 weeks ago - so I am still waiting on all sorts of results to see whats next. My oldest daughter turned 3 in July and my youngest turned 1 in August. I am 31 and was starting to wean my baby when I found the lump.

Lumpectomy is scheduled for Friday. Sentinel Lymph Node Biopsy tomorrow. MRI showed clean nodes so I hope that rings true in the biopsy. So far I know its invasive, small (1.1cm), ER+/PR+/HER-....I think thats all good, right? Oh man I have a lot to learn!

Just wanted to say hi...to all of you out there!

~ Heather

Hi!!!
I am 41 and have two children. The princess is 10 and my rapscallion is 6. They are what kept me going. They gave me the strength I needed to fight. I had 2 surgeries, chemo, and radiation. My kids kept me going thru it all!!

Hello,
I am 34yrs old i have
Hello,
I am 34yrs old i have a 6yr old son a 5yr old girl and a baby 2yr old girl. Yea its hard because they are too little to understand and i cant take care of them as i would like because im too tired at times. I have breast cancer and just started the chemo treatments