How do you handle it?

davexx
davexx Member Posts: 55
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Was told by hospice today my wonderful wife of 52 years has days to hours left.She hasn't eaten in 2 weeks.Trying to keep her comfortable.That's all we can do.I still can't beleive this day has come.Don't know what to think or say.How do you cope.dave

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  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #2
    So sorry!
    Dave,
    So sorry to hear that your wife only has a little time left. Just be there for her & let her know you love her. It's not going to be easy to lose her. I lost my husband in March and still have a hard time going on without him. We were married 46 years.
    How long has she been sick? Be strong and you'll make it. Hope you have relatives and friends who can give you support. I'll say a prayer for her! "Carole"
  • zinniemay
    zinniemay Member Posts: 522
    #3
    I wish I knew
    Dasave I wish I had the answer, Words are so hard to find. I want to help but words are not easy to find to comfort someone at this time. Just know we are thinking of you and praying for peace for you and your wife. I wish I could hold your hand and say all the right words but I fear there is no words that would be right.
    I am Sorry that we can not be there to help you thru all that is happening.
    Jennie
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #4
    we are there
    Dave,

    In our hearts and minds we are there with you, holding you up and lifting you and your wife up to God.

    Look to Him.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Gentle hugs for you.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #5
    Not Easy
    Dave, I am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my husband of 42 years in October of last year. Those last few days and hours are hard and you cope as best you can. I don't think there is any right or wrong way or any easy way. Some how we get through it. I was lucky to have strong family support and our pastor was also there part of the time. I think that made it a little easier. I hope you have some support, too. I held my husband's hand, told him I loved him, and told him it was alright to let go when he was ready. That was the best I could do. I know you will do your best for your wife. Prayers. Fay
  • davexx
    davexx Member Posts: 55
    #6
    grandmafay said:

    Not Easy
    Dave, I am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my husband of 42 years in October of last year. Those last few days and hours are hard and you cope as best you can. I don't think there is any right or wrong way or any easy way. Some how we get through it. I was lucky to have strong family support and our pastor was also there part of the time. I think that made it a little easier. I hope you have some support, too. I held my husband's hand, told him I loved him, and told him it was alright to let go when he was ready. That was the best I could do. I know you will do your best for your wife. Prayers. Fay

    Thanks for thoughts.
    Wife rebounded a little today.Hoping for more time.dave
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #7
    davexx said:

    Thanks for thoughts.
    Wife rebounded a little today.Hoping for more time.dave

    Me, too
    I hope you have more time, too, Dave. Remember to take care.

    Gentle hugs.
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #8
    davexx said:

    Thanks for thoughts.
    Wife rebounded a little today.Hoping for more time.dave

    Welcome
    Hello Dave and welcome to you and your wife. I love your profile pic. What a cute bunny! God bless you both and give you the peace you will both need at this most difficult time. I know hospice is helping you deal with this. Hospice is wonderful. Cherish each day, each moment. Give each other lots of love. Dave know that you have been a wonderful husband, a wonderful caregiver. You have done the best you can. Your wife knows this. I was a caregiver for my dad. He passed away in March from ec with mets to the liver. I have been where you are. Tell her how much you love her. Give her your blessing. Know that you will be together again and spend eternity together. Until you meet again....
    Tina
  • kimmygarland
    kimmygarland Member Posts: 312
    #9
    Tina Blondek said:

    Welcome
    Hello Dave and welcome to you and your wife. I love your profile pic. What a cute bunny! God bless you both and give you the peace you will both need at this most difficult time. I know hospice is helping you deal with this. Hospice is wonderful. Cherish each day, each moment. Give each other lots of love. Dave know that you have been a wonderful husband, a wonderful caregiver. You have done the best you can. Your wife knows this. I was a caregiver for my dad. He passed away in March from ec with mets to the liver. I have been where you are. Tell her how much you love her. Give her your blessing. Know that you will be together again and spend eternity together. Until you meet again....
    Tina

    ((Hugs))
    Hugs to you Dave, the others have given such wonderful words of advice. I agree with Tina, cherish each moment of each day you have. Don't leave anything unsaid. Thinking of you all.

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