Chef Trek

Chefdaddy said:

What a day!
Hi Hondo,

Yuppers, this is the final week! Yippie!!! It actually ends on Monday, the 29th.

The day started off very scary, as radiation's machine had broken down earlier, and by the time I got out of there and home to change into dress clothes and drive back down town in heavy late afternoon traffic, I was almost late to court. That would have been very bad.

When my crazy ex saw me enter the courtroom she couldn't stop staring at me, as I'm now 60lbs lighter, burnt swollen lips, big radiation sores on the back of my neck, radiation burns on both sides of my throat and surgery scars on my neck. (real hunk huh? lol)

She then came to my part of the table that faces the judge and started putting her hands on me, and started crying, asking me if I had cancer, was I sick? I kept telling her to take her hands off me and go sit down. This went on for nearly five minutes and finally the judge entered the courtroom and she had to go back to the other end of the table.

Then the judge started staring at me and said "I'm going to ask you a personal question".
I responded with "Do I have to answer it in this arena?" He said "No, but I"m going to ask it anyway and if you do not want to answer it then just say that you decline to answer".

He then said, "You look very different from almost 2 months ago, are you ill?" I said "I've been under the weather lately", he smiled at me, knowing I wasn't going to give him a strait answer if I could get away with it. He then asked, "Are you well enough to go through todays hearing?" I said "Yes". and that was the end of that. But the ex, who was so tearful and concerned a couple minutes before, immediately started bashing and blaming me for everything. The judge caught her lying and then put her under oath.

In the end, the judge ruled against her motion in trying to get the previous judges Order of no parenting time, and no contact reversed.

I'm so glad this is over. For her to get another chance at this in court in trying to get the "No Parenting Time or Contact Order" overturned, she would have to Ex Parte a judge and convince him to go against what todays judge ruled today. I don't see that happening any time soon.

After the judge made his ruling, she started yelling at him, saying that she was taking this to the media. I was really hoping that he would hit her with contempt, but he knows she's nuts.

Other than truly fearing that she might appear with a loaded gun and shoot my butt, I feel like a big load has been taken off. The kids were very happy when they found out the final results.

Now, I can finally concentrate on making it through this final week.

Thank you for your never ending words of encouragement.

Your friend,

Mike

Chefdaddy said:

Help! Need some quick advice!
Hi my friends,

This won't be very long, as I'm in a lot of pain. On Friday, the radiation nurse decided to use tape to hold down these clear wet moisturizing pads that was covering all the open sores and burns that are all around my neck and throat. This morning, when I tried to take them off, the tape removed several layers of grey cooked skin and now, most of my throat and neck is raw, bleeding and extremely painful.

My daughter tried putting Lidocaine over the sores to give me a little break from the pain. But it was only temporary.

These clear pads keep scabs from forming and it seems it's not healing because there is no scabs forming. The nurse said they don't want scabs because they crack and bleed. I think that's better than having open sores that the lightest brush of air hurts like heck.

I don't know what to do, last Thursday, I woke up stuck to my pillow, the sores had glued me to the pillow case and it took me along time to painfully break myself free.

It's hard enough dealing with the increased mouth and throat pain this last two weeks of radiation, but this is almost too much.

If there was a way for me to do a "self-induced" coma until they healed, I would!

The shingles are nothing compared to this.

Please, if you have any advice I could sure us it.

Oh Stacey,
My radiation starts at 11:00am, thank you!


Thank you everyone.

Mike

Chefdaddy said:

Help! Need some quick advice!
Hi my friends,

This won't be very long, as I'm in a lot of pain. On Friday, the radiation nurse decided to use tape to hold down these clear wet moisturizing pads that was covering all the open sores and burns that are all around my neck and throat. This morning, when I tried to take them off, the tape removed several layers of grey cooked skin and now, most of my throat and neck is raw, bleeding and extremely painful.

My daughter tried putting Lidocaine over the sores to give me a little break from the pain. But it was only temporary.

These clear pads keep scabs from forming and it seems it's not healing because there is no scabs forming. The nurse said they don't want scabs because they crack and bleed. I think that's better than having open sores that the lightest brush of air hurts like heck.

I don't know what to do, last Thursday, I woke up stuck to my pillow, the sores had glued me to the pillow case and it took me along time to painfully break myself free.

It's hard enough dealing with the increased mouth and throat pain this last two weeks of radiation, but this is almost too much.

If there was a way for me to do a "self-induced" coma until they healed, I would!

The shingles are nothing compared to this.

Please, if you have any advice I could sure us it.

Oh Stacey,
My radiation starts at 11:00am, thank you!


Thank you everyone.

Mike

micktissue said:

The nurse is a ****
Never, ever put adhesive anything on burned skin - EVER!. Let the Dr know and ask never to work with that nurse again until after she attends nursing school.

I have a similar issue with bleeding around my surgery scar and the nurse SPECIFICALLY said ABSOLUTELY no adhesive around burns. Instead I got this stuff called silver sulfadiazine Cream and they lather that on *unless* I'm being radiated. This stuff is pretty good and is far better than ripping dead skin off a burnt neck. Wow sorry that happened to you Mike.

Best,

Mick

Chefdaddy said:

Help! Need some quick advice!
Hi my friends,

This won't be very long, as I'm in a lot of pain. On Friday, the radiation nurse decided to use tape to hold down these clear wet moisturizing pads that was covering all the open sores and burns that are all around my neck and throat. This morning, when I tried to take them off, the tape removed several layers of grey cooked skin and now, most of my throat and neck is raw, bleeding and extremely painful.

My daughter tried putting Lidocaine over the sores to give me a little break from the pain. But it was only temporary.

These clear pads keep scabs from forming and it seems it's not healing because there is no scabs forming. The nurse said they don't want scabs because they crack and bleed. I think that's better than having open sores that the lightest brush of air hurts like heck.

I don't know what to do, last Thursday, I woke up stuck to my pillow, the sores had glued me to the pillow case and it took me along time to painfully break myself free.

It's hard enough dealing with the increased mouth and throat pain this last two weeks of radiation, but this is almost too much.

If there was a way for me to do a "self-induced" coma until they healed, I would!

The shingles are nothing compared to this.

Please, if you have any advice I could sure us it.

Oh Stacey,
My radiation starts at 11:00am, thank you!


Thank you everyone.

Mike

Hondo said:

Mike

As you go for your last treatment today I just want you to know you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Skiffin16 said:

Mick's Reply
Hi Mike, the silver sulfadiazine is good stuff, it's used specifically for burn patients....

Thinking of you today, and hoping you are near the end of this regime', onward and upward buddy.

John

Hondo said:

Daddy Mike


I was wondering how you are doing knowing your last treatment was Monday. It will take a few weeks for things to start to heal as the body needs to purge out all the bad stuff they have been giving you to kill the cancer.

Take care my firend

Hondo said:

Mike
I tried to call all week-end long but did not get an answer; let me know how you are doing