Just to clear things up....

pinkkari09 said:

Thank you Pinks.....I don't
Thank you Pinks.....I don't know how I would have gotten this far without all the excellent advice on this site, your experience, strength and hope have brought me through chemo, I love each and every one of you...I don't belong to any support groups in my area, my Mom/Best friend have passed and my husband, well, I wont go there. So long story short, I NEED all of you I have some amazing friends but they don't understand like someone in my shoes does. BTW, I have been told several times that "for someone with cancer and going through chemo, you look amazing" those comments are precious, that tells me I'm doing ok.
Peace and Love to ALL,
~Kari~

kari
kari

I didn't see anywhere on theses posts that you can't vent/cry/chat/express your self or whatever else... if someone doesn't like what you had to say DON"T READ IT or better yet if you already read it and didn't like it then ignore it there are plenty of posts to read on here... kari I hopethis doesn't refrain you from coming back on here and "talking about how you feel" take care hun xoxoxoxoxoxo

susie09 said:

Keep on
You just keep on venting and expressing your feelings anytime that you want on here! People should think before writing or speaking, but, some don't. And, that is too bad. So, don't let rude or insensitive remarks ever hurt you or stop you from posting on here! Keep venting sister!

♠♣ Susie ♠♣

well said susie!!!
I agree xoxo

I understand.......
I know how you feel......about 3 months ago, I was BLASTED by four people, and they know who they are, for saying that radiation treatments are easier than chemo......I hesitated to post anymore, but decided I wouldn't let them have the last say.....there are WONDERFUL women on this board who truly DO UNDERSTAND.....so, please don't stay away.....we need each other!
Peace be with you

Please Stay
Everyone has a right to vent. We've all had people, friends and family, say stupid things to us because they don't know what to say or how to say it. We are here for you!
Hugs - Pat

I haven't read the original post
But stuff like this happens sometimes. Chen is right, things are sometimes taken the wrong way, or an expression gets misinterpreted. A lot of us are in a vulnerable place, so feelings do get hurt. I'm sorry that you felt dismissed. Keep posting your feelings because chances are that many others feel as you do. We all complain that's for sure. I have this woman who works in the office with me who has said to me literally 20 times or more: "your hair looks soooo good. You are soooo lucky." It makes me feel awkward because I don't feel very lucky, and I don't like my new short do. However, she is trying to be nice so I just smile and say thanks. But yes it bothers me. And this is the place to air such annoyances. Hugs.

Mimi

Kari please don't apologise
If what you said offended anyone then they are the one with the problem. You (we) have every right to come in here and vent. That is what this site is for. So vent all you want and please don't hesitate. It might keep us from bursting into a million little pieces and I doubt that anyone could put us back together like Humpty Dumpty.

Hugs
Jadie<3

Dot53 said:

Hey Kari
I was glad to read this post from you although you shouldn't have to defend yourself here. When I joined this site in November I was terrified and looking for people in similar situations to talk to. In one of my first posts I asked for help and information on mastectomy aftercare. One lady wrote that she was going out and too busy to respond and that I should go back and read the other posts to get my questions answered. It made me feel like my question was redundant and it totally put me off and made me not want to come back, so I understand how you feel..

Please keep posting I want to hear how you are doing.. even though I am somewhat of a newbie with only 30 or so posts.....

Dot

Kari, thank you for this thread
Kari, this thread has really helped me, so thank you -- I somehow felt like I was probably the only one here who had ever had a negative response to her post, and now I see from these responses that it's happened to others, too.

Several months ago, I posted about how difficult chemo was for me, and one response to my post talked about how lucky I was that I had access to medical treatment, and implied that I shouldn't be complaining. I was so hurt and angry, and felt so alone when I read it.

But, like in your case, that was only one response out of many empathetic, postive responses, so I decided to focus on all the support and kindness and just tune out the one person who, like Claudia said, might have been having a bad day herself.

Please focus on all the positive energy we're sending you Kari, and how important you are to us, and try to let the rest of it just float away.

Traci

chenheart said:

Dot~ this is exactly what I was talking about!
This is EXACTLY what I meant by our written words not always being what was perhaps meant by the one posting! Of course I don't know, but in my mind, I am hoping that the one posting didn't want to ignore your important question. I am thinking that while she didn't have the time right then, she wanted you to know that there were others who could be there right then for you. ( Of course I could also be wrong!LOL)

These boards make me appreciate a lot of things, not the least of which is the brilliance of best-selling authors with universal appeal~ how incredible it must be to have the right words at the right time. I want to be that person! Alas, I am not....

Welcome to the club you never wanted to join~ we are an amazing, all too human group of Kindred Spirits!

Hugs,
Chen♥

Chen
Me either, but your posts are always kind and eloquent.... that's all any of us are looking for kindness, understanding and camaraderie while going through this terrible experience....

My father always told me "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything"...

Thanks for responding..
Dot

Calleen said:

I'm sorry
I offened you Dot because I'm pretty sure I am the one who posted that to you.. I was in a hurry that night but wanted to send you something to read.. I have posted things on here in the past then I would sit impatiently waiting and waiting for responses from anyone hoping for some kind of relief.. It's a very very frightning experience to go through and I sometimes have felt like no one cared about my issues..Our sensitivity levels are so raw and our minds are full of fear... so I just wanted to say something to help you and didn't have the time at that moment to answer in the way I should have.. I thought if you looked back at some of the older posts while waiting for others to respond it might help you..

I feel very humbled and if I have offened anyone else please accept my sincere apology...

Calleen.....

So much has been said. As
So much has been said. As Chen so eloquently calls us, we are all kindred spirits, walking a very difficult walk. Our emotions are raw, our bodies are worn, but we are survivors, warriors and wounded healers. We all have "those days" and I pray we not judge but accept each other exactly where we are at. It warms my heart that so many of us have responded so positively to something that appeared negative. Our hearts are definitely in the right places. May God Bless each and everyone of us as we walk towards health.