Surgeon called, surgery scheduled

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  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143 Member
    #22
    Dawne.Hope said:

    thank you!
    thank you all for your encouragement and your support.

    just wanted to update you on a change of plans.
    a couple of hours after I posted this thread, the surgeon's office called me. Her assistant asked me, "Are you sure you don't want to do reconstruction?" (When I called the day before I told them that I didn't want to. I thought that I needed to get back to my normal routine of lifting weights and Pilates as soon as I could. I didn't want to wait for months to get back into it).

    When she asked the question "Are you sure ..." I broke down and started crying again. She asked me if I wanted to talk to the surgeon later. I muttered 'yes' and she said that the surgeon would call me later in the day.

    She did call and it was an enlightening conversation. She said she didn't want to coerce me but she wanted me to know all the facts. I won't go into it here, but it was a helpful conversation. Stuff I didn't know.

    So ... all of this to say I've rescheduled the surgery and now it is going to be Feb. 24th and I will have immediate reconstruction. I never thought I'd do it, I never thought losing my breasts would be such a big deal, but it is. And while there is still sadness in my heart, I don't feel completely broken-hearted about the whole situation. There is a lightness now in my heart, where before they were was only heaviness and sadness.

    Thank you all so much for walking with me through this journey. I know there are going to be ups and downs but know it helps so much to have you all here to support and encourage me.

    Love you,
    dh

    Right decision
    Dawne, I think you will be happy with your decision. You've thought it through intelligently, spoken to the experts, and listened to your gut. All the right elements, in my opinion. Good luck with everything.

    Mimi
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    #23
    Dawne.Hope said:

    thank you!
    thank you all for your encouragement and your support.

    just wanted to update you on a change of plans.
    a couple of hours after I posted this thread, the surgeon's office called me. Her assistant asked me, "Are you sure you don't want to do reconstruction?" (When I called the day before I told them that I didn't want to. I thought that I needed to get back to my normal routine of lifting weights and Pilates as soon as I could. I didn't want to wait for months to get back into it).

    When she asked the question "Are you sure ..." I broke down and started crying again. She asked me if I wanted to talk to the surgeon later. I muttered 'yes' and she said that the surgeon would call me later in the day.

    She did call and it was an enlightening conversation. She said she didn't want to coerce me but she wanted me to know all the facts. I won't go into it here, but it was a helpful conversation. Stuff I didn't know.

    So ... all of this to say I've rescheduled the surgery and now it is going to be Feb. 24th and I will have immediate reconstruction. I never thought I'd do it, I never thought losing my breasts would be such a big deal, but it is. And while there is still sadness in my heart, I don't feel completely broken-hearted about the whole situation. There is a lightness now in my heart, where before they were was only heaviness and sadness.

    Thank you all so much for walking with me through this journey. I know there are going to be ups and downs but know it helps so much to have you all here to support and encourage me.

    Love you,
    dh

    DH, thanks for updating us.
    DH, thanks for updating us. Getting the reconstruction done as well sounds like an excellent choice to me, too. You sound happier and confident, and that makes all the difference. So glad to know your heartache has eased.

    Please keep in touch. We are cheering you on and look forward to hearing about your new, perky, harmless boobs!
  • Jeanne D
    Jeanne D Member Posts: 1,867
    #24
    mimivac said:

    Right decision
    Dawne, I think you will be happy with your decision. You've thought it through intelligently, spoken to the experts, and listened to your gut. All the right elements, in my opinion. Good luck with everything.

    Mimi

    Dawne ♥
    ♥

    My two cents worth says that I think you will be very pleased with the decision that you made. I know it was a tough one for you, but, only you could make it. I will be sending you gobs and gobs of luck and lots of prayers!

    Love, Jeanne ♥</♥</font>
  • pinkkari09
    pinkkari09 Member Posts: 877 Member
    #25
    Hi Dawne, I just want to say
    Hi Dawne, I just want to say I know and feel your pain, I lost my Mom a year and a half before I was dx so the whole time I've been going through this I have been really wishing she where with me physically. I know she is watching over me and that gives me a warm fuzzy feeling :) I miss her so much!! She was my best friend. It's hard but we are strong and we have each other and we can do this. I was so happy to have read this thread, my surgery is going to be scheduled soon, bilateral with expanders and then I have to have 35 rad treatments. I wish you the best and I think you have made a well thought out decision. Remember, Moms NEVER leave us, she's right by your side as you go through this. Take Care,
    HUGS
    Kari
  • geochick
    geochick Member Posts: 18 Member
    #26
    Dawne.Hope said:

    thank you!
    thank you all for your encouragement and your support.

    just wanted to update you on a change of plans.
    a couple of hours after I posted this thread, the surgeon's office called me. Her assistant asked me, "Are you sure you don't want to do reconstruction?" (When I called the day before I told them that I didn't want to. I thought that I needed to get back to my normal routine of lifting weights and Pilates as soon as I could. I didn't want to wait for months to get back into it).

    When she asked the question "Are you sure ..." I broke down and started crying again. She asked me if I wanted to talk to the surgeon later. I muttered 'yes' and she said that the surgeon would call me later in the day.

    She did call and it was an enlightening conversation. She said she didn't want to coerce me but she wanted me to know all the facts. I won't go into it here, but it was a helpful conversation. Stuff I didn't know.

    So ... all of this to say I've rescheduled the surgery and now it is going to be Feb. 24th and I will have immediate reconstruction. I never thought I'd do it, I never thought losing my breasts would be such a big deal, but it is. And while there is still sadness in my heart, I don't feel completely broken-hearted about the whole situation. There is a lightness now in my heart, where before they were was only heaviness and sadness.

    Thank you all so much for walking with me through this journey. I know there are going to be ups and downs but know it helps so much to have you all here to support and encourage me.

    Love you,
    dh

    I have been there
    Dear Dawne,

    I am so sorry about your Mom. How hard this all has been for you!
    I wanted to let you know that I had a double mastectomy and tissue expanders in Sept. I know what you're feeling. Remember that your breasts do not define you. They are not your heart. They are just tissue. The doctors can do an amazing job recreating them. I am sure that you'll agree soon!

    Love from GA.
    Stay strong. We're here for you.

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