My love is gone

so sorry
i am so sorry patty.. i kept checking to see when you would post again.. i wish i could take your pain away.. i wish i knew what to say to you.. i feel like i should know what to say i lost my mother in aug and i never could figure out why all the people around me never said anything.. no i know.. i have been crying all morning. not really sure why but your story really have been on my mind alot latly.. my heart truely goes out to you.. i know how numb you feel.. i remember not knowing what to do when my mother was not there for me to take care of anymore... i pray for you to have peace.. if ever you want to talk to me i am almost always here... if there is anything i can do for you just say the word

thinking of you
Heather

Sympathy
Patty,
I am sorry for your loss. You will hear those words often in the days ahead. I certainly have. The dying may have been hard, but the living is even harder. I always considered my husband to be my rock, the strength in our family, but during our fight with cancer I learned that I had strength, too. I know you have shown great strength throughout this time as well. Now you will find the strength to move forward. Know that many of us have followed your story and continue to hold you in our prayers. If it's any consolation, I have lived here in this same house for 33 years. I have friends and family nearby, but I still feel alone much of the time. Take time before deciding where to go from here. Blessings and hugs. Fay

grandmafay said:

Sympathy
Patty,
I am sorry for your loss. You will hear those words often in the days ahead. I certainly have. The dying may have been hard, but the living is even harder. I always considered my husband to be my rock, the strength in our family, but during our fight with cancer I learned that I had strength, too. I know you have shown great strength throughout this time as well. Now you will find the strength to move forward. Know that many of us have followed your story and continue to hold you in our prayers. If it's any consolation, I have lived here in this same house for 33 years. I have friends and family nearby, but I still feel alone much of the time. Take time before deciding where to go from here. Blessings and hugs. Fay

I am
Sorry patty.No that you are not alone . I have been reading your post everyday and you were a good caregiver to him . i just lost my husband to and like fay said living is even harder but look at me its been 6 months and i am doing ok going to work but coming home is the hardest for me right now 35 yrs of coming home to angel and now hes not there anymore it is so empty. It takes time and for me it will be a long time. Take care

michelle

49 years too young
Patty,

Please know that you will be in my prayers.

Just try to float along. You will wash up on a shore soon and start to adapt to the new life.

Fatima

JaneE2366 said:

so sorry
Patty,
I don't believe we have "spoken" before but as a caregiver, I have been following Jack's story. I want you to know how sorry I am for you....my heart aches for you. My husband is battling stage iv esophageal cancer and I am terrified I will be in your shoes one day. You have shown such strength. I know you didn't have a lot of time with Jack but I hope you let all your good memories get you through this difficult time. I am praying for you.
Jane

My heart and prayers out to you....
Im sorry Patty ...time will help although I know its not much help right now. I will keep you in my prayers............Clift

esined said:

I am so sorry. you are in my
I am so sorry. you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Denise

I know how you're feeling
I know how you're feeling Patty....it's only been 3 weeks since my husband passed. Just be kind to yourself and know that Jack is at peace now. No more pain and no more suffering. He's in your heart forever!

I'm so sorry
I am new to the board but have been following your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Jack was very lucky to have such a wonderful, caring, strong woman like you at his side. I'm sure he felt peace having you there. There will be dark days ahead for you but one day, the sun will shine again for you. My husband is fighting Stage IV colon cancer and our journey is new but if the day comes I only hope I can be as strong as you. May you find peace and one day when you look at Jack's picture, a smile will come and the tears lessen. The next few weeks and months will be very difficult so please remember to take care of yourself, I'm sure Jack would have wanted that.