My love is gone

pattynonews
pattynonews Member Posts: 176
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Jack went home this morning, at 9:30 , Im going to miss the most amazing man I have ever met, he truly showed me how to love again, I feel so numb there are people here but I feel so alone, Now Im in Texas all alone, I dont even know what to do, I want Jack he was the stong one he was my support,

I will love you forever Jack I just dont know what to do what do I do now,

Jack Trevino
02-17-1960 ---- 11-4-09 In loving memory ,

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  • heatherstar70
    heatherstar70 Member Posts: 39
    #2
    so sorry
    i am so sorry patty.. i kept checking to see when you would post again.. i wish i could take your pain away.. i wish i knew what to say to you.. i feel like i should know what to say i lost my mother in aug and i never could figure out why all the people around me never said anything.. no i know.. i have been crying all morning. not really sure why but your story really have been on my mind alot latly.. my heart truely goes out to you.. i know how numb you feel.. i remember not knowing what to do when my mother was not there for me to take care of anymore... i pray for you to have peace.. if ever you want to talk to me i am almost always here... if there is anything i can do for you just say the word

    thinking of you
    Heather
  • HAWVET
    HAWVET Member Posts: 318
    #3
    heatherstar70 said:

    so sorry
    i am so sorry patty.. i kept checking to see when you would post again.. i wish i could take your pain away.. i wish i knew what to say to you.. i feel like i should know what to say i lost my mother in aug and i never could figure out why all the people around me never said anything.. no i know.. i have been crying all morning. not really sure why but your story really have been on my mind alot latly.. my heart truely goes out to you.. i know how numb you feel.. i remember not knowing what to do when my mother was not there for me to take care of anymore... i pray for you to have peace.. if ever you want to talk to me i am almost always here... if there is anything i can do for you just say the word

    thinking of you
    Heather

    God bless you and may he
    God bless you and may he rest in peace.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #4
    Sympathy
    Patty,
    I am sorry for your loss. You will hear those words often in the days ahead. I certainly have. The dying may have been hard, but the living is even harder. I always considered my husband to be my rock, the strength in our family, but during our fight with cancer I learned that I had strength, too. I know you have shown great strength throughout this time as well. Now you will find the strength to move forward. Know that many of us have followed your story and continue to hold you in our prayers. If it's any consolation, I have lived here in this same house for 33 years. I have friends and family nearby, but I still feel alone much of the time. Take time before deciding where to go from here. Blessings and hugs. Fay
  • allackey
    allackey Member Posts: 19
    #5
    So sorry
    Thank you for sharing with us out here. I know your feeling and will lean on you and others when I am in the same situation. By then you will be stronger. Stay strong and believe that you will make it. It is hard I know. I posted some things on your "sedated" post and hope you take some time to listen to them.

    God Bless you and know that me and others have you in our prayers.
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #6
    grandmafay said:

    Sympathy
    Patty,
    I am sorry for your loss. You will hear those words often in the days ahead. I certainly have. The dying may have been hard, but the living is even harder. I always considered my husband to be my rock, the strength in our family, but during our fight with cancer I learned that I had strength, too. I know you have shown great strength throughout this time as well. Now you will find the strength to move forward. Know that many of us have followed your story and continue to hold you in our prayers. If it's any consolation, I have lived here in this same house for 33 years. I have friends and family nearby, but I still feel alone much of the time. Take time before deciding where to go from here. Blessings and hugs. Fay

    I am
    Sorry patty.No that you are not alone . I have been reading your post everyday and you were a good caregiver to him . i just lost my husband to and like fay said living is even harder but look at me its been 6 months and i am doing ok going to work but coming home is the hardest for me right now 35 yrs of coming home to angel and now hes not there anymore it is so empty. It takes time and for me it will be a long time. Take care

    michelle
  • onlyhuman
    onlyhuman Member Posts: 99
    #7
    So sorry
    Patty
    I am so sorry for your loss. Its probably going to get harder before it gets easier so do take care of yourself and remember we are here if you need us.
  • SonSon
    SonSon Member Posts: 174
    #8
    49 years too young
    Patty,

    Please know that you will be in my prayers.

    Just try to float along. You will wash up on a shore soon and start to adapt to the new life.

    Fatima
  • JaneE2366
    JaneE2366 Member Posts: 289 Member
    #9
    so sorry
    Patty,
    I don't believe we have "spoken" before but as a caregiver, I have been following Jack's story. I want you to know how sorry I am for you....my heart aches for you. My husband is battling stage iv esophageal cancer and I am terrified I will be in your shoes one day. You have shown such strength. I know you didn't have a lot of time with Jack but I hope you let all your good memories get you through this difficult time. I am praying for you.
    Jane
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #10
    JaneE2366 said:

    so sorry
    Patty,
    I don't believe we have "spoken" before but as a caregiver, I have been following Jack's story. I want you to know how sorry I am for you....my heart aches for you. My husband is battling stage iv esophageal cancer and I am terrified I will be in your shoes one day. You have shown such strength. I know you didn't have a lot of time with Jack but I hope you let all your good memories get you through this difficult time. I am praying for you.
    Jane

    My heart and prayers out to you....
    Im sorry Patty ...time will help although I know its not much help right now. I will keep you in my prayers............Clift
  • esined
    esined Member Posts: 22
    #11
    I am so sorry. you are in my
    I am so sorry. you are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Denise
  • MichelleP
    MichelleP Member Posts: 254
    #12
    esined said:

    I am so sorry. you are in my
    I am so sorry. you are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Denise

    I know how you're feeling
    I know how you're feeling Patty....it's only been 3 weeks since my husband passed. Just be kind to yourself and know that Jack is at peace now. No more pain and no more suffering. He's in your heart forever!
  • beckyracn
    beckyracn Member Posts: 322
    #13
    MichelleP said:

    I know how you're feeling
    I know how you're feeling Patty....it's only been 3 weeks since my husband passed. Just be kind to yourself and know that Jack is at peace now. No more pain and no more suffering. He's in your heart forever!

    Patty,
    My heart goes out to
    Patty,
    My heart goes out to you. I've followed your story and you were his rock when he needed you. No one could ask for anything more than to leave this world surrounded with so much love.
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  • junklady
    junklady Member Posts: 88 Member
    #15
    Patty, sorry to hear
    Patty- I am sorry to hear the sad news about Jack. He is at peace now and no more pain. Just remember how much he loved you, he will always be in your heart. Hugs and prayers to you.
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #16
    I'm so sorry
    I am new to the board but have been following your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Jack was very lucky to have such a wonderful, caring, strong woman like you at his side. I'm sure he felt peace having you there. There will be dark days ahead for you but one day, the sun will shine again for you. My husband is fighting Stage IV colon cancer and our journey is new but if the day comes I only hope I can be as strong as you. May you find peace and one day when you look at Jack's picture, a smile will come and the tears lessen. The next few weeks and months will be very difficult so please remember to take care of yourself, I'm sure Jack would have wanted that.
  • trish07
    trish07 Member Posts: 138
    #17
    Patty, I'm so sorry for your
    Patty, I'm so sorry for your sadness at this time.

    Your time with Jack was short but so very special.

    You will carry Jack with you always.

    His heart and his spirit are now a part of who you are,you and him were so connected and will forever remain that way. You have something so special...not everyone experiences true love in their lives...you and Jack were so blessed.

    I will pray for you to have a peaceful heart,
    Trish

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