Bad day. Too bitter

nadca said:

Oh and we just started
Oh and we just started trying for baby just before this. $5700 for ivf. and only 20% chance it will work.... one shot then have to pay again then pay for storage and stuff. Why does this happen to good people.

I am sorry, nadca...
I just don't know why these things happen to good people.
I was first diagnosed at age 38 so I kinda have a reference point as to where you are coming from.
The thing I wanted to tell you is that I am 61 now. And in a good place, even though things did not come about in the way I had planned or expected at all.
I just know that there is always hope and a reason to do what we must do so that we can do what we want to do.
God bless.

zahalene said:

I am sorry, nadca...
I just don't know why these things happen to good people.
I was first diagnosed at age 38 so I kinda have a reference point as to where you are coming from.
The thing I wanted to tell you is that I am 61 now. And in a good place, even though things did not come about in the way I had planned or expected at all.
I just know that there is always hope and a reason to do what we must do so that we can do what we want to do.
God bless.

so sorry
I know how that fear can be so mind crippling.... I was DX on May 8th, had surgery July 29, and I'm still waiting to see if I'm going to need chemo. They are doing the Oncotype test on my tumor. That is what will determine it for me.. In the meantime I'm living my life and praying alot!!! I have good days and bad days. But each day is a gift and I do what I can to find little blessings along the way...

I am sorry that you are
I am sorry that you are going through so much. I was diagnosed last July, and after a year of treatment, I am doing well. I would suggest getting another plastic surgeon. Your insurance must pay for your other boob to make it symetrical, your surgeon is being insensitive.

first breath....
I too am 36 with IDC.. stage 2b. its a very scary time and your head just spins.. Your filled with such anger and resentment that this could be even happening. (hell at least that's how I felt, and heck some times still do)... You have to take a deep breath and try to clear your head.

So did you have a single mastectomy? The insurance will pay for the surgery to make the other breast match the reconstructed one..( ie. if you need lift, reduction, or a implant).

Sounds like you have been through a lot... Have they told you your final staging? I wasn't told I needed chemo till my follow-up after my Feb double mastectomy. Did you have lymph node involvement?

You have every right to be scared, we all are, My advice is to write things down. I carry a small notebook with me everywhere and every time I would think of something I didn't know or some one would ask me a question I couldn't answer I would write it down in the notebook so I wouldn't forget to ask it when I saw the doctor. It has become my best friend.

Don't be sorry for your feelings ... own them, its the only thing to help you heal. I am 7 1/2 months from diagnosis and still healing mentally and physically. This disease will put you on a roller coaster to hell and back. As you read others posting you will find peace that you are not alone.. we are a sisterhood and we all basically feel the same. Its a club you don't wish your worst enemy to have to join, but a powerful bunch of woman if you have to face this disease. No one can understand how you feel except some one who has walked the road or is walking the road with help from the woman who have been through it already.

unfortunatly its a long process... I always felt like some one was putting a puzzle together and at each appt. I had I would be given another piece to that puzzle and it took WEEKS to get a complete picture of what I was going to face.. you have to endure so many test and no one will give you all the answers till they have a complete picture themselves..

Wishing you the best... keep posting so we know how your doing....