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Nicole Holm said:

Army
That would be nice. I would even go with a transfer to WA so we could be closer to family..but who knows. If I can just find a way to keep him here and not in Iraq for a year, I really don't need to be stressing about him getting shot at hwile I am going through chemo, Lord give a girl a break.

Nicole-welcome!
You've already been warmly welcomed by many here on the boards, but I'll add mine to the mix anyway.

I'm sorry for the reason you have come, but glad that you have come to this very supportive place--where you make instanteous friends. It's amazing how fast the bond is made between us, and I hope it is one that will last a lifetime.

You have your plate full, even without the bc dx. There are a few others here who have husbands who are in active duty and I'm sure that they will be able to offer you some very practical advice. As for emotional support, all of us are here for you.

It seems as though you caught the bc early, judging by the tumor size, but you will not know anything until after surgery. Being far family is tough, my entire family is down South and it was challenging to go through this with my teen-age daughter and a deafblind husband. My folks are elderly, but both of them made it up here to spend time with me pre and post-op. That meant a lot to me, so I hope your family will be able to come to be with you (if only after surgery and during chemo).

Just a suggestion: If you go to your dr's appt before your husband is deployed, or if you have a good friend in the area, it helps to take someone with you to your dr's appt. You will be given so much info that it's impossible to absorb it all. My mom went with me and she took copious notes and asked questions when I was too self-absorbed to speak much less ask questions. The ACS site has a list of questions to ask and it may be a good idea to check them before going to see your dr for your first appt.

Post whenever you feel up to it and know that we will be with you in spirit every step of the way.
dmc

mlmjt1 said:

Welcome Nicole
YOu sure have your hands full...
I agree with the previous posts that you should see if your husband can stick around until after your treatment is done. This sure sounds like a hardship case to me..I would REALLY pursue that.

Hang in there and post often cuz we are truly all in this together
Hugs
LInda T

Nicole... Just didn't want
Nicole... Just didn't want to miss the opportunity to welcome you.. you have come to a great place for answers and a wealth of support!

Hugs

~T

Welcome
Hi Nicole,

Welcome to our place of refuge. You will see that you can feel free to ask ANYTHING and/or voice your feelings about ANYTHING. This is such a crazy whirlwind time and I hope you will gleen as much information as you need from here. Of course every cancer is different as well as every treatment and reaction being different, but at least you can hear about the many possibilities of what to expect. I think for me, the biggest help has been the mental/emotional help that I have received. I was 18 months into my trip to hell and back before I found these amazing women and I thought that I was insane and that no one really knew how I was feeling (because I was insane). My first night of reading entries on this site, I cried and cried and cried. I was reading things, written by others, that I could have written myself. It was amazing to know that I was not insane, that the feelings and emotions were very common. So.....don't hesitate to say what you feel or ask anything no matter how 'stupid' you think it may look.

I am happy to see that you have such great support from your family, even if they live so far away! Lean on others. They will be honored to help you on this journey.

You'll be in my prayers!
Rita

Welcome, Nicole
Yeah, I like your description: BLAMO! That about sums up a cancer diagnosis. You've got a lot on your plate to consider. Please remember that nothing - at all - is more important than looking after your own health at this time.

Post-op final pathology testing results will fully determine your next steps. Though it can be difficult, chemo is doable. Much will depend on which drugs, combination of, etc. ...

As others have already suggested, contact your local ACS. They can be a wealth of information and support.

Visit us often, whenever you'd like or need to. We'll be here for you.