Hosed off to the nth degree!

taleena said:

Now that is just
Now that is just ridiculous.. I just wish all of this would stop. Someone.. anyone.. make this go away..

cats_toy said:

tasha get you butt back here
please!!!!!
=^..^=

bfbear said:

Tasha
This is not a sexist thing. Do you recall the whole hoo-ha a few months back with Kourtnee/Megan? How she got everyone so involved in her life and had us all believing she was dying, and then actually faked her own death.....but came back, miraculously, and blamed the whole thing on her mother?????

There ARE people who do not belong here. Obviously Megan had other problems and issues that were not being addressed, but in the meantime she played out her drama and crushed a lot of people here, emotionally.

I understand your sympathy toward a person who was scared about having bc. There have been many women, since I've joined, who were here before diagnosis and then everything turned out NED, they were greatly relieved, and then said their good-byes. In my opinion, that's appropriate behavior. Mike's is not.

I do not think of him as a creep or a pervert...just someone whose boundaries are shaky, and who has serious, self-admitted issues that need to be addressed elsewhere, just like Megan. I believe Mike can be helped much more in other places.

As for you leaving, please take a big breath and consider what you're saying. Would you leave all the people here who love you over this one, albeit large, issue?

Friends fight, agree to disagree, but they don't walk out on each other. If that were the case, I'd be outta here right now too, because as mad as you are about the "feeding frenzy" is as mad as I am about this whole issue at this point. We are all spending more time asking Mike to stay on the PM side of things or defending his right to be here instead of supporting each other's day to day dealings with bc and helping newbies here get through their real bc diagnoses.

Bottom line: What is the purpose of this American Cancer Society's Cancer Survivor's Network, Breast Cancer Discussion Board?

We hold each others' hands and take care of each other, from the fearful feelings of "something's wrong," through the diagnosing, and then through the treatment after. And again I'll reiterate, women who have been here and then been found to be cancer-free, are more than happy to get out of here. They don't WANT to be here. They are relieved and excited to go, and they say their happy good-byes, and they go. Why not Mike? Why is it so important to him to stay on the board -- why is it so important for us to support him?

I guess I just don't understand. I am sorry.

But I know that this board would be a very sad place without you, and I hope that you can see the HUGE difference between yourself and Mike. Yes we are all human beings, and everyone deserves compassion, AND everyone has a responsibility to look in the mirror and see both their goodness and their flaws, and then work on changing those flaws into goodenss.

I think that is what ALL of us really want for each other. We want to help each other, as survivors of bc, to be the best we can be. Could we ALL try to agree upon that?

Most sincerely, and with much love,
Debi

CR1954 said:

J.......
I didn't mean to open a can of worms. My thought was to get the conflict out in the open and discuss it.

Yes, I am uncomfortable about some things, and that is why I brought up the issue.

But I thought that we could all work things out and I never intended to make anyone angry or upset anyone...most especially you.

I look forward to your posts and to your wonderful sense of humor. Please don't leave.

CR

tasha_111 said:

TGF
thank you........what the hell are you doing up at this time in the morning?

Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

tasha_111 said:

TGF
thank you........what the hell are you doing up at this time in the morning?

Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx