Should I stay or Should I go?

The1percen
The1percen Member Posts: 135
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
This time I HAVE offended at least ONE person. I am am SORRY I offended that someone. I wish I knew just what I did that was offensive, unles it WAS that somebody doesn't believe how messed up my life has been since Oct. I have trying to decide if it was just one or the group and I guess the best way is for you to decide. The only thing about that is if it is just one person, he/she won't want to expose it to the group... so here is what I'll do... I don't want to be whereI am not wanted so I am posting my outside email. I that person will email me I will not respond here at all. I will not "out" you to the group. I have found so much support here and it has been great to have a place to vent and try to give comfort to those I can. Again... I AM SORRY
Mike
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  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135
    forgot the email address
    simflyr at suite224 net
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    Mike
    don't leave the discussion group-just stay put! I've done my share of offending on here,and I'm not leaving(though I did consider it once and some good cyber-friends here convinced me to stay!)!
    Don't know what happened in your case,but don't let it keep you from staying here and getting good support and being an asset to everyone here.
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143 Member
    Offending
    Mike, I don't know what happened in this particular case, but offending people, misunderstandings, disagreements, debates, etc. are all part of the dynamic on message boards. If everyone left for those reasons, there wouldn't be anyone left to talk to. If you offended someone without meaning to, I would think an apology would take care of it. No need to leave. Really.

    Mimi
  • tommaseena
    tommaseena Member Posts: 1,769
    mimivac said:

    Offending
    Mike, I don't know what happened in this particular case, but offending people, misunderstandings, disagreements, debates, etc. are all part of the dynamic on message boards. If everyone left for those reasons, there wouldn't be anyone left to talk to. If you offended someone without meaning to, I would think an apology would take care of it. No need to leave. Really.

    Mimi

    offending
    Mike,
    You have to remember that it may not be someone on this board that flagged you. I could have been the CSN staff. Maybe too much personal information was posted.

    No need to leave.

    Margo
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    Mike
    I read the "flagged" post. don't see anything that would be offensive. This board is open to all discussions and people. You can always try contacting CSN and ask about it.
    Keep on posting!
    =^..^=
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135

    offending
    Mike,
    You have to remember that it may not be someone on this board that flagged you. I could have been the CSN staff. Maybe too much personal information was posted.

    No need to leave.

    Margo

    csn staff
    OK... does that mean they are considering removing me? It started out with just the one "post" in that thread, and this morning ALL my posts from that thread were flagged...
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135
    cats_toy said:

    Mike
    I read the "flagged" post. don't see anything that would be offensive. This board is open to all discussions and people. You can always try contacting CSN and ask about it.
    Keep on posting!
    =^..^=

    how?
    Cat, how do I do that?
    I feel really strange now... "I don't like 'being' in trouble" I also feel guilty that I offended someone
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member

    how?
    Cat, how do I do that?
    I feel really strange now... "I don't like 'being' in trouble" I also feel guilty that I offended someone

    CSN Feedback
    I suppose if you clicked on the CSN Feedback and sent them a message, they should be able to give you some type of information.
    Let us know if you find out anything!
    =^..^=
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135
    cats_toy said:

    CSN Feedback
    I suppose if you clicked on the CSN Feedback and sent them a message, they should be able to give you some type of information.
    Let us know if you find out anything!
    =^..^=

    YES, I found it & I did contact them
    Thank you,
    I don't know what to say at this point...
    I do appreciate the support I have recieved and THANK all of my FRIENDS!!
    Mike
  • padee6339
    padee6339 Member Posts: 763

    YES, I found it & I did contact them
    Thank you,
    I don't know what to say at this point...
    I do appreciate the support I have recieved and THANK all of my FRIENDS!!
    Mike

    Don't Leave
    Stay with us!
    Pat
  • zahalene
    zahalene Member Posts: 670
    Well Mike,
    even your sincere apology above has been flagged. That tells me more about the other person than I ever wanted to know (even tho I have no clue who it might be). Anyone who can not accept an apology has the problem, not you.
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135
    zahalene said:

    Well Mike,
    even your sincere apology above has been flagged. That tells me more about the other person than I ever wanted to know (even tho I have no clue who it might be). Anyone who can not accept an apology has the problem, not you.

    Thank you
    I still wish I knew WHAT I DID??? I get the sense I made someone uncomfortable. Like I said I have been trying to figure out what. I wonder if it was I said about my last hospitalization and WHY I went in. I went and got help when I started feeling that way, I had been in contact with my "team" at that point it was several times a week. I just wanted to make sure they were hoome ans stable, I knew I was going to have to go, and when it got to the point where I was thinking that about my wife I KNEW IT WAS TIME! My heart is breaking and I am feeling so weepy today, not just because of "this" but Friday is my mammo and a week from tomorrow I see the surgeon. I too am unfortable with MY "problem" it won't be easy going to get a MAMMOGRAM... I started to ask what a woman would feel uncomfortable in oppostion (female going to a doctor for a normally male problem)to what I am going through but I couldn't think of a comparison... maybe someone has an idea???
    I will ask one more time for the person who is flagging me to please contact me... (I gave my outside email)maybe we can work this out.... PLEASE!
    Thank you all,
    Mike
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135

    Thank you
    I still wish I knew WHAT I DID??? I get the sense I made someone uncomfortable. Like I said I have been trying to figure out what. I wonder if it was I said about my last hospitalization and WHY I went in. I went and got help when I started feeling that way, I had been in contact with my "team" at that point it was several times a week. I just wanted to make sure they were hoome ans stable, I knew I was going to have to go, and when it got to the point where I was thinking that about my wife I KNEW IT WAS TIME! My heart is breaking and I am feeling so weepy today, not just because of "this" but Friday is my mammo and a week from tomorrow I see the surgeon. I too am unfortable with MY "problem" it won't be easy going to get a MAMMOGRAM... I started to ask what a woman would feel uncomfortable in oppostion (female going to a doctor for a normally male problem)to what I am going through but I couldn't think of a comparison... maybe someone has an idea???
    I will ask one more time for the person who is flagging me to please contact me... (I gave my outside email)maybe we can work this out.... PLEASE!
    Thank you all,
    Mike

    I sent another request to CSN Staff
    I asked them about conflict resolution. I cannot believe even this one (the one above)was flagged???
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729

    I sent another request to CSN Staff
    I asked them about conflict resolution. I cannot believe even this one (the one above)was flagged???

    I don't know what is going
    I don't know what is going on? I guess you will have to wait for CSN webmaster to contact you. Try not to get upset.
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    Marcia527 said:

    I don't know what is going
    I don't know what is going on? I guess you will have to wait for CSN webmaster to contact you. Try not to get upset.

    Most Disreputable Poster Award....
    IS MINE!... Hey I have no idea what has gone off, it's my first time in here today. But if they havn't given ME marching orders after some of my stunts in here, you have absolutely NOTHING to worry about! LOL
    Anyway you must not leave here, You are our official Male Voice in the D.S. Club.

    As for being flagged.........well, some people just have nothing better to do.

    Hugs Jxxxx
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    What the heck!
    What the heck is going on?! When did all of this "flagging" start?

    Looks to me as if it's someone else's problem, and not yours Mike. Hope CSN gives you some answers. Sheesh!

    CR
  • confused123
    confused123 Member Posts: 251
    CR1954 said:

    What the heck!
    What the heck is going on?! When did all of this "flagging" start?

    Looks to me as if it's someone else's problem, and not yours Mike. Hope CSN gives you some answers. Sheesh!

    CR

    Sorry this is stressing you
    Sorry this is stressing you out. It must be hard not knowing what is going on. Hope you find out soon.

    Kim
  • dyaneb123
    dyaneb123 Member Posts: 950

    Sorry this is stressing you
    Sorry this is stressing you out. It must be hard not knowing what is going on. Hope you find out soon.

    Kim

    Yeah this is just weird
    Yeah this is just weird Mike.
    They are flagging your simple statements now.Most peculiar......
    But don't stop writing....make them tell you what's up....
    Dee
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565

    I sent another request to CSN Staff
    I asked them about conflict resolution. I cannot believe even this one (the one above)was flagged???

    Hey,
    this one didn't get flagged!!
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    Flagged?
    This is the first time I've ever noticed "flagged." So pat yourself on the back for being a first Mike. It could be a bad prank, too. Don't let it get you down. Lynn