Stress reduction.. Hope I don't regret this...

taleena
taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Okay.. so in order to do a little stress reduction, I decided to drop one of my classes over the summer semister, and two of five that start in August. With knowing what's around the corner for me, and not knowing just how my body will deal with it, and the anxiety of the unknown.. I just decided that it was for the best for now.

I need to be able to feel like I have some control of everything going on, and this I can at least control... I eliminate the stress where I can, even if it is sacrificing "my dream".. it won't be forever.. and before I know it I will be back at it full time. So.. see.. I don't just sit around in it... if I can I do something about it.. just wish I could do something about "everything else".

Hope I'm making the right decision...well at least for me.. for now.. it's right.

Hugs, Love & Friendship...

~T

Comments

  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    Taleena
    I know how you feel. I needed some space and some 'ME TIME' after all that stuff. I'm sure you will too, Right decission?.....You Betcha!

    Relax and enjoy........you deserve it. Hugs Jxxxxxxxx
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    Taleena-I think you made a good decision...
    Right now, you have enough on your plate. I think I told you that I have been taking only one class at time since my dx. I will be in college a long time at this rate, but that's okay. In the fall, for the first time, I have enrolled in two classes, but I am still considering the workload and may drop down to one again.

    You're younger than me, by at least ten years (I;m making a point here :0), so don't feel like you need to rush through this phase of your life. You're not "sacrificing your dream," you're being practical. You want to do the best you can in your academic pursuits, that's more imporatant than getting it done on a timeline.

    I know others in my progam who started when I did and have already graduated, some will graduate this Fall. I am at least 2 years behind their schedule. At first, I was beating myself up for it. Now, I accept it as part of how my life has changed. This is not necessarily a bad thing (this change), but it is reality.

    You will realize your dream and when you do, we will be right there with you! I wonder how one throws cyber confetti? Well, I'm sure we'll find some way to figure that one out prior to your momentuous graduation! :) It'll be here before you know it!
    dmc
  • GreeneyedGirl
    GreeneyedGirl Member Posts: 1,077
    dmc_emmy said:

    Taleena-I think you made a good decision...
    Right now, you have enough on your plate. I think I told you that I have been taking only one class at time since my dx. I will be in college a long time at this rate, but that's okay. In the fall, for the first time, I have enrolled in two classes, but I am still considering the workload and may drop down to one again.

    You're younger than me, by at least ten years (I;m making a point here :0), so don't feel like you need to rush through this phase of your life. You're not "sacrificing your dream," you're being practical. You want to do the best you can in your academic pursuits, that's more imporatant than getting it done on a timeline.

    I know others in my progam who started when I did and have already graduated, some will graduate this Fall. I am at least 2 years behind their schedule. At first, I was beating myself up for it. Now, I accept it as part of how my life has changed. This is not necessarily a bad thing (this change), but it is reality.

    You will realize your dream and when you do, we will be right there with you! I wonder how one throws cyber confetti? Well, I'm sure we'll find some way to figure that one out prior to your momentuous graduation! :) It'll be here before you know it!
    dmc

    Yes, pace yourself
    that is just what i would do too, not too much on my plate please~~just let me deal with the cancer and some of the other demands of life. Ease back into your routine as you feel. No pressure, just go with the flow...
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    dmc_emmy said:

    Taleena-I think you made a good decision...
    Right now, you have enough on your plate. I think I told you that I have been taking only one class at time since my dx. I will be in college a long time at this rate, but that's okay. In the fall, for the first time, I have enrolled in two classes, but I am still considering the workload and may drop down to one again.

    You're younger than me, by at least ten years (I;m making a point here :0), so don't feel like you need to rush through this phase of your life. You're not "sacrificing your dream," you're being practical. You want to do the best you can in your academic pursuits, that's more imporatant than getting it done on a timeline.

    I know others in my progam who started when I did and have already graduated, some will graduate this Fall. I am at least 2 years behind their schedule. At first, I was beating myself up for it. Now, I accept it as part of how my life has changed. This is not necessarily a bad thing (this change), but it is reality.

    You will realize your dream and when you do, we will be right there with you! I wonder how one throws cyber confetti? Well, I'm sure we'll find some way to figure that one out prior to your momentuous graduation! :) It'll be here before you know it!
    dmc

    dmc.. .thank you so much.. I
    dmc.. .thank you so much.. I have been feeling bad about it.. but once again.. my concerns have been laid to rest by my dear dear friends...And I know if there is a way to throw cyber confetti you will figure it out!

    Hugs, Love & Friendship

    ~T
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member

    Yes, pace yourself
    that is just what i would do too, not too much on my plate please~~just let me deal with the cancer and some of the other demands of life. Ease back into your routine as you feel. No pressure, just go with the flow...

    Green Eyed Girl.. Thank you
    Green Eyed Girl.. Thank you for the reminder!

    Hugs,

    ~T
  • kiley40
    kiley40 Member Posts: 17
    college
    I am in nursing school. I finished my first semester with having 2 biopsies and 1 lumpectomy. This summer I have had a tram flap and will be on chemo. I am trying to study some over the summer before school picks up again in the fall. I have stage 2. Good Luck!
  • aurora2009
    aurora2009 Member Posts: 544 Member
    kiley40 said:

    college
    I am in nursing school. I finished my first semester with having 2 biopsies and 1 lumpectomy. This summer I have had a tram flap and will be on chemo. I am trying to study some over the summer before school picks up again in the fall. I have stage 2. Good Luck!

    School
    Hi Taleena
    I think you made the right choice for now, just remember "this to shall pass"
    I like being in controll of everything too, but I had to make the same dicision as you. I was only taking one class this summer, if fact it's my last class. But for me I think it's best just to lighten the load on my plate for a while, I'm already 45 and one more semester won't make a difference in the long run. When this whole thing is over, you'll find you self right where you need to be. When we get through this the world will be ours again !!! and so will the future :)
  • jk1952
    jk1952 Member Posts: 613
    Admiration

    I so admire all of you who are taking courses while you're dealing with treatments, jobs, and life in general. I went to college right after high school and then again for a masters five years after my bachelors. But, both times, I either wasn't working or had a part-time job. I'm exhausted just thinking about taking classes while you're working, raising a family and having treatments! My hat goes off to all of you!

    The important thing is that you don't give up your goals. They may take a little longer than expected, but sometimes you just need to take things a little easier.

    Joyce
  • tgf
    tgf Member Posts: 950 Member
    jk1952 said:

    Admiration

    I so admire all of you who are taking courses while you're dealing with treatments, jobs, and life in general. I went to college right after high school and then again for a masters five years after my bachelors. But, both times, I either wasn't working or had a part-time job. I'm exhausted just thinking about taking classes while you're working, raising a family and having treatments! My hat goes off to all of you!

    The important thing is that you don't give up your goals. They may take a little longer than expected, but sometimes you just need to take things a little easier.

    Joyce

    I'm with Joyce
    Anyone who can take care of a family ... AND go to school .... AND work ... is truly amazing. I didn't start college until I was over 40 and divorced. Did not work and my son was away at college ... so it was just me and my books. I don't think I could have handled anything else in my life at that point. All of my thoughts and energy went to school. If I'd had a family or job in addition to school I don't think I could would have made it. And ... I know for SURE ... if I'd been diagnosed with cancer ... there's no way I could have handled everything. I don't know how you all do it. You are truly amazing.


    hugs.
    teena
  • bfbear
    bfbear Member Posts: 380
    tgf said:

    I'm with Joyce
    Anyone who can take care of a family ... AND go to school .... AND work ... is truly amazing. I didn't start college until I was over 40 and divorced. Did not work and my son was away at college ... so it was just me and my books. I don't think I could have handled anything else in my life at that point. All of my thoughts and energy went to school. If I'd had a family or job in addition to school I don't think I could would have made it. And ... I know for SURE ... if I'd been diagnosed with cancer ... there's no way I could have handled everything. I don't know how you all do it. You are truly amazing.


    hugs.
    teena

    I agree..
    I agree with Joyce and Teena. I'm exhausted just thinking about everything you students are doing!!!

    You all deserve a standing ovation!

    With love & huge admiration,
    Debi