Hey Moopy

Moopy23 said:

Hello, Y'all
Thanks for your new messages, my friends. Pammy, I wish you did not have to wait for the oncotype test--you and your hubby-- and that it comes out with a low score, or risk of recurrence. Chemo is doable, and we will be here for you if you do need it. In the meantime, I know we all are hoping that you won't. Please keep us updated, ok?

I know I will have lots of questions for Kristin and everyone who is taking or has finished rads. I am SO ready to get started and get it over with. I am definitely bringing up the rear of the Spring Class of 2009. Probably I am now Class of Summer 2009. Oh, well. So happy that Nancy and Jackie are coming along nicely.

I especially appreciate having you all because I did have an upsetting experience at a restaurant yesterday. Along with my hat, clearly covering baldness, I am also sporting the disappearing eyebrow and eyelash look. Plus, big blue lines are all over my left side, running up to my throat and neck. That is, they can be seen if I don't wear a turtleneck, which I am not in this heat. So I look like a walking Etch-a-Sketch. The lines are for radiation. Altogether, not a conventional look.

Anyway, at the restaurant, two women looked upset as I seated myself behind their booth. They looked away and had the expression of people who had seen something that made them lose their appetite. No compassion or even pity. Just a sick look,as if they couldn't enjoy their food anymore because they had seen something so freakish. I, feeling angry as well as hurt, actually moved over so the one woman with the most disgusted look was facing me. She turned her head away again. So I knew it was me. It made them ill to look at me. I was very angry and then just hurt.

Thank you for caring and for your posts. I read them all and am strengthened in the bad times and good. I may not post as much for the next few days as I have to work and get things ready for the move to St. Louis. But I will check in, as will Joe, and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Love, Moopy

I hope that lady
walked out of the restaurant and got hit by a semi!! (not really God) but Karma WILL GET HER!! I know the feeling though Moopy, and just can't imagine such rude and stupid people aren't outlawed.

One time (20+ years ago) I drove my mom home from Chemo and she was so sick we stopped at the nearest bathroom and she made it to the stall. I was outside waiting when two hotsy-totsy women pranced in and were whispering about that old drunk taking up their precious time in the bathroom. I marched up and got in their face and said "that is not a drunk in there that is my mother and she just finished her chemo treatment..anything else you want to know?" they turned red and left. As you can tell though i still remember there rudeness after all these years. and my only hope is still that my mom did not here them.

Moopy you are to sweet and beautiful to worry about these low-life people. And if beauty comes from the inside these women must have looked like monsters.

love and big big hugs, Jackie

Moopy23 said:

Hello, Y'all
Thanks for your new messages, my friends. Pammy, I wish you did not have to wait for the oncotype test--you and your hubby-- and that it comes out with a low score, or risk of recurrence. Chemo is doable, and we will be here for you if you do need it. In the meantime, I know we all are hoping that you won't. Please keep us updated, ok?

I know I will have lots of questions for Kristin and everyone who is taking or has finished rads. I am SO ready to get started and get it over with. I am definitely bringing up the rear of the Spring Class of 2009. Probably I am now Class of Summer 2009. Oh, well. So happy that Nancy and Jackie are coming along nicely.

I especially appreciate having you all because I did have an upsetting experience at a restaurant yesterday. Along with my hat, clearly covering baldness, I am also sporting the disappearing eyebrow and eyelash look. Plus, big blue lines are all over my left side, running up to my throat and neck. That is, they can be seen if I don't wear a turtleneck, which I am not in this heat. So I look like a walking Etch-a-Sketch. The lines are for radiation. Altogether, not a conventional look.

Anyway, at the restaurant, two women looked upset as I seated myself behind their booth. They looked away and had the expression of people who had seen something that made them lose their appetite. No compassion or even pity. Just a sick look,as if they couldn't enjoy their food anymore because they had seen something so freakish. I, feeling angry as well as hurt, actually moved over so the one woman with the most disgusted look was facing me. She turned her head away again. So I knew it was me. It made them ill to look at me. I was very angry and then just hurt.

Thank you for caring and for your posts. I read them all and am strengthened in the bad times and good. I may not post as much for the next few days as I have to work and get things ready for the move to St. Louis. But I will check in, as will Joe, and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Love, Moopy

Hey Moopy
so glad you are holding your head up high and staring those women down. I had a couple of incidents, but not many, most people actually came up and told me how nice I looked (bald), so it is too bad there are some like you ran into, but don't EVER let them get you down. I know there is a song in there somewhere, but I really mean it.
Rads are almost nothing compared to chemo, you have gone through the worst, so let yourself enjoy the new experiences, places, people.
Take care and let us know when you get settled in to the new digs.
=^..^=

rjjj said:

I hope that lady
walked out of the restaurant and got hit by a semi!! (not really God) but Karma WILL GET HER!! I know the feeling though Moopy, and just can't imagine such rude and stupid people aren't outlawed.

One time (20+ years ago) I drove my mom home from Chemo and she was so sick we stopped at the nearest bathroom and she made it to the stall. I was outside waiting when two hotsy-totsy women pranced in and were whispering about that old drunk taking up their precious time in the bathroom. I marched up and got in their face and said "that is not a drunk in there that is my mother and she just finished her chemo treatment..anything else you want to know?" they turned red and left. As you can tell though i still remember there rudeness after all these years. and my only hope is still that my mom did not here them.

Moopy you are to sweet and beautiful to worry about these low-life people. And if beauty comes from the inside these women must have looked like monsters.

love and big big hugs, Jackie

How sweet of you Jackie....
Just to give you something else to think about....if you mother did her them, then she also heard her daughter coming to her defense. If my daughter did that, I would burst with pride!! How wonderful to know that your child loved you so much that she would risk such confrontation for you. How lucky your mother was to have you as a daughter. Pammy