caregiver question

changing2
changing2 Member Posts: 118
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Does anyone know of a "Caregiver" site? I would like to get everything in place for my wife as my time for departing seems to be nearing. I'm still up and about but MD says it's tme for hospice intervention and I have a few of the tell tale signs. "Good News" is,I know where I'm going...have a place bought and paid for on the other side...yes, I'm a christian with faith in Christ (not myself or goos works)and I'm looking forward to seeing Him:)Just want to get all paper work etc in order for my best friend/wife. Any info is appreciated. I continue to pray for all of you. Thanks for all your support over the last few years!! Take care, Mannie

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  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #2
    There is one here
    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/138
  • changing2
    changing2 Member Posts: 118
    #3
    PhillieG said:

    There is one here
    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/138

    Thanks:)
    On my way to check it out. Have a GREAT day and keep the music going...cool pic :) Thanks again, Mannie
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #4
    changing2 said:

    Thanks:)
    On my way to check it out. Have a GREAT day and keep the music going...cool pic :) Thanks again, Mannie

    Mannie
    I am so very sorry you know my husband died and i wished so much that he had wrote me a letter before he died and put it somewhere i could find it. He was to weak to do anything towards the end. Just a thought,Hospice helps with end of life issues we had hospice for 3 months they came 3 x a week to check on him and if he needed fluids they gave it to him they are wonderful. Again i am sorry mannie,

    michelle
  • kimby
    kimby Member Posts: 797
    #5
    Mannie
    I hope I face the end as couragously as you seem to be. That is really a wonderful place to be. I frequent the caregiver site here often. (Phil gave you the link) It helps me to help my husband as he won't spend time online. I also go to the chat here. Last night it was me and 2 caregivers for over an hour. They were both dealing with burnout issues. They both told their stories and then we just had fun and teased each other, told jokes, etc. Sometimes it just can't be about canzer.

    Kimby
  • Shayenne
    Shayenne Member Posts: 2,342
    #6
    kimby said:

    Mannie
    I hope I face the end as couragously as you seem to be. That is really a wonderful place to be. I frequent the caregiver site here often. (Phil gave you the link) It helps me to help my husband as he won't spend time online. I also go to the chat here. Last night it was me and 2 caregivers for over an hour. They were both dealing with burnout issues. They both told their stories and then we just had fun and teased each other, told jokes, etc. Sometimes it just can't be about canzer.

    Kimby

    I am speechless...
    ...Mannie, I don't know what to say, I wouldn't even know what the telltale signs of the end are, but sounds like you have accepted it in such an awesome way, where you know you will be going to a better place. I am not scared to die, well, maybe alittle, but I'm more afraid of what would become of my kids when I die, my mom died when I was young, and it was not a pleasant experience growing up without her, I hope that the doctor is wrong, and you are here for more time. I plan on writing letters for each of my kids and hubby before anything happens, while I am of sound mind anyway, but I won't give up yet, I hope to still have more time, I'm sorry for you, and just hope they're wrong :(

    Hugssss!
    ~Donna
  • grandma2selena
    grandma2selena Member Posts: 199
    #7
    You Are Awesome
    I first of all am sad to hear that you feel the end is coming soon, but your courage in facing this is awesome. My mom faced her final days with such composure and had everything, every detail in order right down to her funeral arrangements. It does help to know where you are going. My prayers are with you

    Debbie
  • amcp
    amcp Member Posts: 251 Member
    #8
    Praying
    Sorry to hear that you feel the end is coming. You are such a loving and thoughtful husband to be thinking of your wife. I am a caregiver and I mostly come to this site because there is more support and activity here than on the caregiver site. My mother fought the monster cancer for 14 years...she lost the battle at age 64 in 1987. In her purse, we found a letter she had written to all of us. She wrote something personal in a paragraph to each of us and the last sentence of each paragraph " She would meet us in Heaven" We made copies of the letter and we each cherish our paragraph from her. She also wrote a long letter to my dad (her husband of 40 yrs) and hid it in the back of the checkbook where she knew he would eventually find it. I so admire your strength and courage and want you to know that we will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Your attitude is an example of your strong faith.
    In thought and prayers,
    Anna
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #9
    Praying for you
    Mannie,

    You are very brave and thoughtful person. I'm praying you have longer than you imagine to be with your family.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #10
    tootsie1 said:

    Praying for you
    Mannie,

    You are very brave and thoughtful person. I'm praying you have longer than you imagine to be with your family.

    *hugs*
    Gail

    Keep the Faith Buddy.........
    You'll be fine bud especially since you know what awaits.....all things good Mannie, all things good.....
  • changing2
    changing2 Member Posts: 118
    #11
    Thanks everyone!
    Thanks for all our thoughtful comments....I am so blessed. You all have been an inspiration to me. One day at time and I'm still enjoying most of mine...hope you do too:) Take care!
  • changing2
    changing2 Member Posts: 118
    #12
    amcp said:

    Praying
    Sorry to hear that you feel the end is coming. You are such a loving and thoughtful husband to be thinking of your wife. I am a caregiver and I mostly come to this site because there is more support and activity here than on the caregiver site. My mother fought the monster cancer for 14 years...she lost the battle at age 64 in 1987. In her purse, we found a letter she had written to all of us. She wrote something personal in a paragraph to each of us and the last sentence of each paragraph " She would meet us in Heaven" We made copies of the letter and we each cherish our paragraph from her. She also wrote a long letter to my dad (her husband of 40 yrs) and hid it in the back of the checkbook where she knew he would eventually find it. I so admire your strength and courage and want you to know that we will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Your attitude is an example of your strong faith.
    In thought and prayers,
    Anna

    Good idea!
    Thanks for the tip! I'm 60 and will be married 40 yrs in Sept:)
  • dianetavegia
    dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
    #13
    Mannie, I'm sorry to hear
    Mannie, I'm sorry to hear you're on Hospice but it sounds like you're still doing really well! Chicken soup, eh?

    Hey, Congrats on your 40th wedding anniversary. Hubby and I celebrated our 39th last Saturday.

    Since we won't meet here, I'll look you up in Gloryland.

    Diane
  • tnstudent
    tnstudent Member Posts: 45
    #14
    kimby said:

    Mannie
    I hope I face the end as couragously as you seem to be. That is really a wonderful place to be. I frequent the caregiver site here often. (Phil gave you the link) It helps me to help my husband as he won't spend time online. I also go to the chat here. Last night it was me and 2 caregivers for over an hour. They were both dealing with burnout issues. They both told their stories and then we just had fun and teased each other, told jokes, etc. Sometimes it just can't be about canzer.

    Kimby

    Where is the chat? on this
    Where is the chat? on this site or somewhere else in cyberland? I think this might help me sometimes as well.

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