need info please mets to stomach

angelsbaby
angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Husband dx nov 07 cc stgae 3 6 months chemo 2 months later cancer spread to stomach kidney liver and new tumor in sigmoid area on chemo again every week since aug of o8. well he decided that he will stop for a couple of weeks this week will be 3 weeks any way he goes to the doc tomorrow, He told me yesterday that his stools are almost black and he has stomach pains alot in the past two weeks and he stomach just bubbles I can hear it lying next to him in bed. I think he may be bleeding in the stomach it could be the cancer.anyone out there with the same thing? He knows he will start chemo this week but he dosn't want it he is sick and tired of it all he starts to cry. I'm so stressed out on one hand i comfort him and the other i am trying to convince him to continue chemo. he gets upset with me then i get uoset with him and the convesation ends. i am scared. I know he goes to the doctors tomorrow but he doesn't always tell the doc everything that is going on with him, so i chime in and i get that look from my husband In other words zip my lip. i am worried about the stomach issue.

any info please

thanks michelle

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  • msccolon
    msccolon Member Posts: 1,917 Member
    #2
    black stools
    I pray he mentions this to his doc, or you do. This is what they always tell us to look for which indicates blood. My argument has always been that black is an indicator of a LOT of blood, but a smaller amount results in more like dark chocolate stool, which nobody ever asked, but was true for me! Much of the chemo we receive is known to have the possibility of causing bleeding in the stomach as well as the intestinal tract.
    mary
  • standbyme
    standbyme Member Posts: 41
    #3
    my opinion
    I think he wouldn't tell you if he didn't want you to tell the doctor. They can't treat what they don't know about.

    Hang in there
    Judy
  • pamness
    pamness Member Posts: 524 Member
    #4
    I don't know what to tell you
    From what you say about the spread of the cancer, he is stage IV. I guess it is his decision about continuing chemo or not. Can you talk to him about how he feels? Will you be with him at the doctor's appointment? Perhaps with both of you there with the doctor you can help to understand what the options are.

    I wish you the best.

    Pam
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #5
    praying
    Michelle,

    I'm just praying for you and your husband.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #6
    tootsie1 said:

    praying
    Michelle,

    I'm just praying for you and your husband.

    *hugs*
    Gail

    thank you all
    I think he is bleeding somewhere, he has been having bad pains in his stomach area couldn't sleep again I wish i could make the pain go away pain meds do not help. he may need stronger meds like dalauded or morphine. today we go to the doctors we will see what he says.Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers we need them. And he is stage 4 terminal to much cancer all over his only option is chemo. Had his blood drawn yesterday he has a standing order every month for blood work hopefully the dr has the results he may be anemic and we need to no the cea level.He does get chemo every week which he hates sometimes he dosen't go just lately because of the holidays.I know it is not good to skip treatments.He Is tired of it all, but he is young 53 yrs had his birthday saturday.well i got to get to work, thanks again will let you know the results from dr visit.

    michelle
  • MoonDragon
    MoonDragon Member Posts: 183
    #7
    Michelle, I am so sorry for
    Michelle, I am so sorry for what you and your hunny are going through! I often think that it's much harder on those who love us than it is on us. We are ultimately the ones dealing with the beast but we have a sense of control as to whether we want to continue our treatment or not. Our loved ones have no control over what's happenening and it's got to be a scary and helpless/hopeless feeling. I know I didn't want to share everything that was happening with my doctor and my husband was feeling very helpless. During one of our dr. appointments he made sure to leave behind the notebook that he'd been carrying. During his trip back into the office he took the doctor aside and told him everything that'd been happening to me. I wasn't pleased that he'd done this, but ultimately it was for my benefit and I was soon getting the pain relief that I needed. You might consider leaving something behind in the office. Not that I would condone sneaking around, but I know what a help it was to me. My husband made sure I was in the car before he "remembered" the notebook and went back to talk to the doctor, making sure I didn't interfere with his conversation. It was actually beneficial to both of us.
    Keep hanging in there!

    Jorie
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #8
    MoonDragon said:

    Michelle, I am so sorry for
    Michelle, I am so sorry for what you and your hunny are going through! I often think that it's much harder on those who love us than it is on us. We are ultimately the ones dealing with the beast but we have a sense of control as to whether we want to continue our treatment or not. Our loved ones have no control over what's happenening and it's got to be a scary and helpless/hopeless feeling. I know I didn't want to share everything that was happening with my doctor and my husband was feeling very helpless. During one of our dr. appointments he made sure to leave behind the notebook that he'd been carrying. During his trip back into the office he took the doctor aside and told him everything that'd been happening to me. I wasn't pleased that he'd done this, but ultimately it was for my benefit and I was soon getting the pain relief that I needed. You might consider leaving something behind in the office. Not that I would condone sneaking around, but I know what a help it was to me. My husband made sure I was in the car before he "remembered" the notebook and went back to talk to the doctor, making sure I didn't interfere with his conversation. It was actually beneficial to both of us.
    Keep hanging in there!

    Jorie

    He's in the hospital
    We are at the dr office I fill out the form that asks the questions about anything new i wrote severe stomach pain and black stools he got upset but i said o well. Our dr said to my husband you are still anemic with all this pain you are in and the black stools you are bleeding somewhere and we need to find out where. My husband is getting teary eyed now he's not saying anything, so the dr continues and he says, well you can go in tonight or tomorrow morning its up to you, my husband is quite looking scared so i said hun do you want to be in pain at home tonight or do you want the pain to stop he's looking at me again tears coming he said i can't stand this pain, I said then you are going in tonight, he stays quite stands up and walks around a little now the dr is asking him what he wants to do and my husband said, I'm going to have to i guess. so the dr seemed releaved that he accepted.So now the dr explains the different drs that will be coming . pain dr , Gi dr, and Diabetic dr , Surgen and himself. Now my husband really is not liking all these dr that he doesn't know. any way my husband again got scared he doesn't want to be operated on but the dr said just in case we just don't know whats happening in there. so he's in the hospital as of yesterday evening
    they are preping him this morning for a cat scan . the pain is better thank god thay gave him morphine but that did nothing for the pain so the dr is giving him daluaded 2 to 4 milligrams every 2 to 4 hrs to get the pain in controll. I am at work my husband will call if he has any info or i will call him. I miss him already it was hard to sleep with out him next to me I hope it is something simple to fix but on the other hand is could be very bad to . I wish i could be at the hospital all day but I have to work darn...will keep you posted


    thanks michelle
  • msccolon
    msccolon Member Posts: 1,917 Member
    #9
    angelsbaby said:

    He's in the hospital
    We are at the dr office I fill out the form that asks the questions about anything new i wrote severe stomach pain and black stools he got upset but i said o well. Our dr said to my husband you are still anemic with all this pain you are in and the black stools you are bleeding somewhere and we need to find out where. My husband is getting teary eyed now he's not saying anything, so the dr continues and he says, well you can go in tonight or tomorrow morning its up to you, my husband is quite looking scared so i said hun do you want to be in pain at home tonight or do you want the pain to stop he's looking at me again tears coming he said i can't stand this pain, I said then you are going in tonight, he stays quite stands up and walks around a little now the dr is asking him what he wants to do and my husband said, I'm going to have to i guess. so the dr seemed releaved that he accepted.So now the dr explains the different drs that will be coming . pain dr , Gi dr, and Diabetic dr , Surgen and himself. Now my husband really is not liking all these dr that he doesn't know. any way my husband again got scared he doesn't want to be operated on but the dr said just in case we just don't know whats happening in there. so he's in the hospital as of yesterday evening
    they are preping him this morning for a cat scan . the pain is better thank god thay gave him morphine but that did nothing for the pain so the dr is giving him daluaded 2 to 4 milligrams every 2 to 4 hrs to get the pain in controll. I am at work my husband will call if he has any info or i will call him. I miss him already it was hard to sleep with out him next to me I hope it is something simple to fix but on the other hand is could be very bad to . I wish i could be at the hospital all day but I have to work darn...will keep you posted


    thanks michelle

    Prayers, dear!
    I am so sorry you and Angel are having such a hard time with this! I am glad to hear he is in the hospital, getting his pain under control, however! I am sure he is no longer scared, with the medication taking care of the pain and i am sure some of the anxiety! It's hard to maintain any semblance of normalcy when you are in extreme pain. I pray God leads his doctors in finding what is going on and in healing him. Be strong, Michelle!
    mary
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #10
    msccolon said:

    Prayers, dear!
    I am so sorry you and Angel are having such a hard time with this! I am glad to hear he is in the hospital, getting his pain under control, however! I am sure he is no longer scared, with the medication taking care of the pain and i am sure some of the anxiety! It's hard to maintain any semblance of normalcy when you are in extreme pain. I pray God leads his doctors in finding what is going on and in healing him. Be strong, Michelle!
    mary

    my husband
    Thanks mary. Cat scan done about an hour ago now we wait fro the dr to tell us the results. he is getting insulin shots due to his diabetis. and duladed for pain . he would like to eat but npo for right now. I am glad he is not suffering now .

    michelle
  • msccolon
    msccolon Member Posts: 1,917 Member
    #11
    angelsbaby said:

    my husband
    Thanks mary. Cat scan done about an hour ago now we wait fro the dr to tell us the results. he is getting insulin shots due to his diabetis. and duladed for pain . he would like to eat but npo for right now. I am glad he is not suffering now .

    michelle

    that he's even hungry is good news!
    Has to be! Hope you get your news from the scan soon.
    mary
  • CherylHutch
    CherylHutch Member Posts: 1,375 Member
    #12
    angelsbaby said:

    my husband
    Thanks mary. Cat scan done about an hour ago now we wait fro the dr to tell us the results. he is getting insulin shots due to his diabetis. and duladed for pain . he would like to eat but npo for right now. I am glad he is not suffering now .

    michelle

    Sending positive thoughts!!
    Oh Michelle... the stress of this can not be good for you or him!! I sure hope the CAT scan reveals what the problem is and the doctors can then proceed with getting it fixed. Once it's all fixed and he is out of pain, you can thwap him (gently) and tell him that we should have gone to the doctor/hospital sooner because there's no reason he should have to go through this kind of pain!!

    Yes it is scary... and the more he's in pain, the more scared he gets... so once they get this fixed so there is no more pain, then things will be so much better and calmer!

    I just wish you could somehow take the time off work to be at the hospital with him at this time.. it would do you both good.

    Huggggs,

    Cheryl
  • kmygil
    kmygil Member Posts: 876 Member
    #13
    angelsbaby said:

    He's in the hospital
    We are at the dr office I fill out the form that asks the questions about anything new i wrote severe stomach pain and black stools he got upset but i said o well. Our dr said to my husband you are still anemic with all this pain you are in and the black stools you are bleeding somewhere and we need to find out where. My husband is getting teary eyed now he's not saying anything, so the dr continues and he says, well you can go in tonight or tomorrow morning its up to you, my husband is quite looking scared so i said hun do you want to be in pain at home tonight or do you want the pain to stop he's looking at me again tears coming he said i can't stand this pain, I said then you are going in tonight, he stays quite stands up and walks around a little now the dr is asking him what he wants to do and my husband said, I'm going to have to i guess. so the dr seemed releaved that he accepted.So now the dr explains the different drs that will be coming . pain dr , Gi dr, and Diabetic dr , Surgen and himself. Now my husband really is not liking all these dr that he doesn't know. any way my husband again got scared he doesn't want to be operated on but the dr said just in case we just don't know whats happening in there. so he's in the hospital as of yesterday evening
    they are preping him this morning for a cat scan . the pain is better thank god thay gave him morphine but that did nothing for the pain so the dr is giving him daluaded 2 to 4 milligrams every 2 to 4 hrs to get the pain in controll. I am at work my husband will call if he has any info or i will call him. I miss him already it was hard to sleep with out him next to me I hope it is something simple to fix but on the other hand is could be very bad to . I wish i could be at the hospital all day but I have to work darn...will keep you posted


    thanks michelle

    Praying
    Michelle, you are an angel. I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through all this. Just know that we are praying for you both.

    Hugs
    Kirsten
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #14
    kmygil said:

    Praying
    Michelle, you are an angel. I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through all this. Just know that we are praying for you both.

    Hugs
    Kirsten

    Well got cat scan results
    Well got cat scan results but still no answer showed cancer in stomach and my husband said the tumor is out side of the colon, that would mean the tumor preforated out of the colon but maybe my husband didn't hear right, I will go to the nurses station and ask about the cat scan results, he was throwing up alot yestesday he's on zofran drip now, today he will have a colonoscopy and endoscopy going in from both ends my poor husband. He is still getting the pain meds .but is more comfortable now.the dr did say he could be bleeding from the chemo too.

    We will no more later today i hope . Thanks to eveyone your comments mean alot to me. will keep you posted


    michelle
  • tiny one
    tiny one Member Posts: 465 Member
    #15
    angelsbaby said:

    Well got cat scan results
    Well got cat scan results but still no answer showed cancer in stomach and my husband said the tumor is out side of the colon, that would mean the tumor preforated out of the colon but maybe my husband didn't hear right, I will go to the nurses station and ask about the cat scan results, he was throwing up alot yestesday he's on zofran drip now, today he will have a colonoscopy and endoscopy going in from both ends my poor husband. He is still getting the pain meds .but is more comfortable now.the dr did say he could be bleeding from the chemo too.

    We will no more later today i hope . Thanks to eveyone your comments mean alot to me. will keep you posted


    michelle

    scan results
    I'm saying prayers too. God give you strength.
  • MoonDragon
    MoonDragon Member Posts: 183
    #16
    angelsbaby said:

    Well got cat scan results
    Well got cat scan results but still no answer showed cancer in stomach and my husband said the tumor is out side of the colon, that would mean the tumor preforated out of the colon but maybe my husband didn't hear right, I will go to the nurses station and ask about the cat scan results, he was throwing up alot yestesday he's on zofran drip now, today he will have a colonoscopy and endoscopy going in from both ends my poor husband. He is still getting the pain meds .but is more comfortable now.the dr did say he could be bleeding from the chemo too.

    We will no more later today i hope . Thanks to eveyone your comments mean alot to me. will keep you posted


    michelle

    Keep hanging in there, hun!!
    Keep hanging in there, hun!! Thoughts and prayers coming your way for both you and your husband!

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