Overwhelmed

Texylin · September 2008

As many of you know I have been coming here for about 5 years. My husband is disabled due to falling off a gasoline tanker in 1979, so we've been to hell and back several times. The last few years he has gotten a lot worse. Rite now he is in need of back surgery really bad. His workemans comp is raising cane and saying no, so we are having to fight them for the surgery. Hubby's mental state is not real good either, whether it is from all the pain meds he is on or something else, I'm not sure. I was just starting all the paperwork for his surgery when my cancer came back last week. If I don't start chemo next week I will go to his doctor and get more statements from him. We do have the Texas Workmans Comp board behind us now which I'm sure will be a big help. Hubby is not really any help in this because he's been thru back surgeries before and is afraid he won't make it thru this one. Then there is my son James, 29 years old. He also has had a rough life due to all our problems. Also bad friends and drug problem. A good friend of his had us send him to California a year and a half ago, and my son has gotten himself straight and worked a good job but now wants to come home because he can't stay away from his 4 yr old daughter and wants to be here to help us. He called at least 5 times last nite, terrified of what is happening. He had to keep hanging up to get hold of himself. He is so afraid for me, but is more afraid of what is happening to his dad. He says that I am the strongest person he knows and that I will come thru the cancer ok. (Wish I had the same confidence) There is just so much going on, I'm getting lost as to what to do. Any ideas from the ladies here will be welcomed with an open heart. I don't really have any close friends to turn to and my sisters and brother are all over the country. My daughter is in Michigan.

My prayers go out to all of you,
Linda

chenheart · September 2008

((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))
Oh My, sweet Texy~ I wish I had more to offer you than cyber-hugs!! I am so glad you posted , even though sometimes writing things down makes it REAL, at the same time it is a relief. It somehow puts things in order, and we can take stock and deal with the whatevers.

You have quite a plateful, don't you sweetie? I agree with your son, you are indeed a strong woman! I have the feeling you might wish you weren't so strong some of the time~ that way you could fall apart and curl up in a ball and hibernate for a while! I know I feel that way more often than I want to admit! But to quote from the Denzel Washington movie The Great Debaters, "We do what we HAVE to do, so we can do what we WANT to do". And you will get through this! AGAIN!

I just want to send you love and all things good...and you know that the Cyber-Sisters ( and brothers!)will be praying for you as well. You are not alone in this, and we reach out to you just as you reach out to us.

Hugs and love,
Claudia

Marcia527 · September 2008

one step at a time
You can get through it if you take one step at a time. Sometimes it's overwhelming. I was in another state when I was diagnosed and went through treatment. We decided to move closer to our boys a few years later but instead went to Indiana where most of the family was. After a year we ended up with the boys in Texas. I still don't know how it's going to turn out but I really like the song verse, 'You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.' So I guess the best thing to do is look deep inside and figure out what you feel the best thing is to do. The times I've done that I can look back on it and know I did the best thing for the situation at the time.

mmontero38 · September 2008

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Hi Linda: Wish I was near you to be able to give you a hug in person, but the cyber hugs will have to do. I know you're scared and gong through very difficult times right now, but you have to think of yourself also. You need to begin the chemo so that you can be here for your family. I agree with your son, you are a very strong and fabulous woman that will get through this with our help. If your son feels he needs to come back then maybe he should. Hopefully, with his friend's help he was able to overcome whatever demons were plaguing him before. You will need his support also, Linda. God bless and hugs to you, Lili

chenheart · September 2008

Marcia527 said:
one step at a time
You can get through it if you take one step at a time. Sometimes it's overwhelming. I was in another state when I was diagnosed and went through treatment. We decided to move closer to our boys a few years later but instead went to Indiana where most of the family was. After a year we ended up with the boys in Texas. I still don't know how it's going to turn out but I really like the song verse, 'You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.' So I guess the best thing to do is look deep inside and figure out what you feel the best thing is to do. The times I've done that I can look back on it and know I did the best thing for the situation at the time.

Mick Jagger
Must say I got a BIG smile from you using that Rolling Stones classic~ I used to sing it to my daughter when I wouldn't allow her to do/go everthing/everywhere as a child! We still crack up when we hear that song, and sometimes we still sing it to each other! Thanks for that memory!

Hugs,
Claudia

mgm42 · September 2008

My Prayers
My prayers go out to you. I will remember you each time I pray. I can't offer any physical assistance, but please know that we care about you and will hold you close as you face this ordeal. Hugs, Marilynn

CHERYL 4 · October 2008

mgm42 said:
My Prayers
My prayers go out to you. I will remember you each time I pray. I can't offer any physical assistance, but please know that we care about you and will hold you close as you face this ordeal. Hugs, Marilynn

texy
texy prayers n huggs from west virginia love u girl keep the chin up

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