Uneasy feeling

I agree with Gail!
I agree with Gail - how dare people do that? What are they thinking? I've had to tell others myself though, if you don't have good news to share about cancer, then just don't tell me anything. I know someone who started with colon cancer with has mets to his liver and lungs. He's doing very well. Hang in there!

Kathy

insensitive remarks
Sandi, I am so sorry you seem to be running into so many of these folks. You will find, in time, that these people just aren't thinking before they speak! I was speaking about my experiences about cancer and I mentioned how so many people, in their desire to empathize with you, will tell you about their loved one with the same disease as you or your loved one has. Keeping up the conversation, you go, oh? how are they? Their response, "they died". Well, thank you for THAT uplifting experience exchange! Usually they are embarrassed when they realize what they have just done; people just don't know what to say when they find out you have cancer. I am sure you will find comfort from many on these boards who are still fighting the fight. I technically am now stage IV since I had a recurrence of my colon cancer. It was originally diagnosed as stage IIIB, we did the surgery and chemo. 2 years later i had a recurrence on my right ovary and had a full hysterectomy, along with other miscellaneous abdominal parts being removed due to additional spread. I did follow up chemo, then again. It is now 2 years since my last surgery and so far my scans show NED! I feel great and expect lots more time of NED and enjoying life in general. No longer does this disease mean instant death, so keep up your spirits and remember to go to God daily for strength.
Mary

You just have to be strong!!!
Sandi,
People everyday say and do the strangest things. Just try to overlook peoples comments right now because if your like I was, your still so mad at the world, they could'nt possibly say the right thing anyway!
I was diagnoise on Dec. 7th 2007 with stage 4 colon cancer. I underwent an immediate colonosopy, was in and out of the hospital all of Dec. with one thing after another. Started chemo in January and am just now hopefully going to get a break. New PET scan in 2 wks.
My husband has been vary supportive but he also went through the kind of emotions your discribing. Just the knowledge that I had over 70 mets in lungs, to many mets to count on my liver made the whole thing seem like to big of a mountain to climb. Even my ONC said in the beginning you have 18months with chemo, 3 if you do nothing.
I can tell you today after 8 months of Chemo it is easier!!!! My ONC told me just this past wednesday how pleased he was and how great the Avastin seems to be making all the difference in survival rates.
I don't want to sound morbid but the truth is your husband now knows what his death certificate will probably say was his cause of death, it doesn't have to be anytime soon with all the new drugs that are coming along.
I have alot of low moments, but I have alot of good ones too. I hope and pray your both getting some bits of enjoyment out of your life now. All we really have, any of us is this moment, try desperatly to stay in the moment. Try to find things to laugh about, my husband and I joke all the time about when is the new girl friend moving in.
My love and prayers are with you both as you battle the monster!!! Theresa

Stage IV here too
Sandi,

I am a Stage IV colon cancer survivor. I have had tumors in my lung and liver. I've had my lower left lung removed, a liver resection, a RFA and chemoembolization on my liver, and a RFA done on my left lung. I'm still here and actually I feel great. I was dx in September 2004 and all is good. Hang in there and never give up!

Debbie