Bob is at peace now!

Sue,

I am so terribly sorry. My heart sank when I read the subject line of your e-mail. I have been thinking about you often and was hoping to see a post from you. I never thought it would be the one I saw. My heart goes out to you. I know what it's like to be with someone as they pass. Please know that you were an absolute pillar of strength for Bob through all of this and an inspiration to the rest of us caregivers. My thoughts and prayers will be with you through this difficult time.

With Deepest Sympathy,
Deneen

Sue, I lost my mother to cancer 22 years ago the same time of year. I do remember the peace that enveloped our home after her struggle was over. I thanked God for having her and for taking her when he did. You will find that peace as well, along with the normal sadness. Please take care of yourself, God will take care of the rest.

Sue, like many others I have been following your posts and praying for you and Bob. I am truly sorry for your loss. You have been so attentive and devoted to caring for your husband. There was nothing more that you could have done. I know how hard it is for you right now as my dad passed away 4 weeks ago before Thanksgiving(stage iv). No words can take away what you are feeling but please find comfort in knowing that many people care about you and are praying for you.
My sincere sympathy,
Linda

Oh Sue, I am so sorry. I know no words can comfort you right now, but you are right, Bob is in a peaceful, beautiful place. No more pain, anguish,treatments or worries.

It is you that must take care, now. You did such a wonderful job caring for and helping Bob. Now you need to refocus that energy into yourself. In time, as the hurt lessens, your strength will shine. You are such a fighter, as was Bob.

Please don't be a stranger here. We are all here for you whenever you need us. Day or Night.

Please e-mail me anytime. I'd love to try and help you thru this painful period.

God bless you and Bob. Remember...he will always be with you.

All my love,

Barb

Sue,

My deepest heartfelt sympathies are with you. I know how hard you and Bob fought this battle and I can only say what I believe we all feel, you are an inspiration to all of us.

You will remain in my prayers Sue. I really at am a loss as to what to say. I am in tears as I write this - how I wish that we could find a cure for this beast that effects so many or our lives.

Please, remember how much of a difference you made in all of our lives with your posts. We will think of you often,.

Take care,

Lisa

(((((((SUE)))))))

Now it begins. A new journey and it is perfectly acceptable to "lose control" and grieve in any way you see fit. There are no rules to this.

On particularly bad days I went to the basement and beat on the washer and dryer--they make big noises and won't get damaged. Beating a pillow just didn't do it for me.

I pray that all who surround you at this time will be uplifting and loving toward you.

My heart goes out to you and your family. What a hard time of year to lose someone. You were incredibly thoughtful to not want to post this until the holiday was past. As usual not thinking about yourself but those around you....

So I hope at this time you will be gentle on yourself and take time for you too.

I found that the hardest time was when the cards stopped and the mourning ended for those around me....but mine was just beginning because when my sister died it was such a relief. She was in such pain and was only skin and bones. So when she finally passed it was a huge burden of stress lifted. At her funeral we were all more bouyant because we were happy that she was out of pain and suffering. When one is up close and personal to one's suffering it is agonizing to watch standing helpless against the tide of death that is inevitable.

So everyone's life goes on but the ones whose grief is just beginning.

You will continue to be in my prayers as you try to take each day as it comes without your Bob beside you.

(((((sue))))) you be sure to come here any time you need us. We need you too. :-)

peace, emily who grieves with you

sallyjoy said:

Sue,
My heart weeps for you during this difficult time of grief and loss.... I talked to my hubby this past week about how it is to keep in touch with everyone online (even if I dont always post) and how connected this place makes you feel to people we have never met. I am so sorry to hear about Bob, but please keep coming back and let us know how you are coping - even when you feel you can't cope, cause it still helps others in similar situations to know they are not alone. I wish I could say something to ease your pain... Please know you will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.

Hugs and love being sent your way,
Sally Jo

Hullo ((((((((Sue)))))))))
Jen and I feared the worst when I saw you had not posted for some time. You and Bob were never far from our thoughts in the past week. We are so sincerely sorry Bob has passed away. Be comforted Sue that his suffering has ended and an eternity of peace has begun. I sit here with a very heavy heart sweetie knowing nothing can be said to release you from your heartache. For you to be able to have continued informing us of Bob's progress throughout the year right to the end of his life is testament to your courage.
You have our email address Sue so do not hesitate to mail me if you need a shoulder.
Don't be hard on yourself Sue--we all are destined for inner peace some day-Bob will be waiting for us and I truly believe we will all see our loved ones again.
We are thinking of you Sue with all our love.
Ross and Jen

hi sue,
i am very sorry to hear bob has passed. you both gave it one hell of a fight. bob is in a better place with no pain. you are a great caregiver and were with bob every step of the way. you must take care of your self now knowing that's what bob would want. we are here for you all the time.
god bless you and your family
bruce

Sue...

I remember the first day you and Bob came here. I loved your moniker "BSRULES". You know, when we grieve, I think we are grieving for ourselves; for our own loss. Our loved one who is gone is at peace as you so eloquently pointed out. We will miss them and so we grieve for the fact tha they will not be in our lives daily. But they live on in our memories. And memories are something that will never leave us. We will see our loved one in many things every day.

I'm Not Here

Don't stand by my grave and weep
for I'm not there; I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond's glint on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn's rain
When you awaken in morning's hush
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circle flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there; I did not die.

We are always here for you, my Bahlmorian friend. You're a semi-colon. You're family.

Be kind to yourself. See Bob in everything around you (even that old Scout).

Much love

- Sponge

Sue, I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. You will be in our prayers.

Linda (Baltimore)