my mother past with breast cancer 3 years ago ....

Hi! I'm so sorry you lost your mom! It's a very scarey time! My daughter was the same age you are now when I was diagnosed. I was so afraid I would leave her but I was lucky to have gotten it early. You are very young to worry so much about getting breast cancer.This is a time you should be enjoying life, having fun, starting to notice boys etc.. Try not to dwell on "what if I get cancer!" It's very possible you won't ever get it ! All you can do now is to move on with your life. Be aware of your body. Check your breasts every month but you're still growing so you'll probably feel lots of things that are perfectly normal. Have you ever talked with your doctor? Let him/her know of your fears. They will be able to direct you. Remember, Breast Cancer doesn't always kill everybody if gotten early. Unfortunately, you lost someone very special to you. Please feel free to write to me and ask any questions you may have. You can write to me here or at RPT1206@aol.com. Take care! HUGS!! Cathy

Hi:

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Mother when I was quite young, in an auto accident and I understand how it feels.

I would not think that you need to be worrying about getting breast cancer. This is not a time in your life when you should be thinking about such things! I have never personally heard of anyone so young as yourself having it! And I've talked with hundreds of women. You said that you have a very high risk of getting it too. Is there a particular reason you think so?

I'm sure that your family loves and cares for you very much. If you have an aunt or grandmother to whom you're close, share how you feel and the worries you have about breast cancer, with them. If there's no one with whom you're comfortable talking about it, then talk to your school counselor. I echo the advise of several of the ladies here, to also talk to your own doctor about it. I'm concerned about your saying that
you've given up on yourself. What does that mean exactly?

I can tell you that your life is just really beginning. The whole world is out there just waiting for you! You should be spending lots of time with your friends, involved in your academics, extra curricular activities and/or sports, school plays, clubs, etc.. Soon, it will be time to begin thinking about what kind of career you're interested in and begin planning for that, once you graduate high school. A very busy time in a young ladies life.

I'm a Mom of a 15 year old who was 13 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I can tell you that the whole time I was undergoing treatment, he was a big inspiration to me. I could see the whole world in his eyes. Mom's are a bit nuts that way! LOL! Your Mom would be very proud of you and you must remember how much she loved and cared for you and all the wonderful things she wanted for you.

I don't know what kind of advice you need right now, but if you can be specific, there are many ladies here who will be happy to help in any way they can. We're all women here and we've all experienced breast cancer and most of us are also Mom's. I hope that helps in some way.

Please let us know how you're doing and remember that we care.

Love, light and laughter,
Ink

I am so sorry to read about your mommy. My mom died of breast cancer when I was 6 and my sister was 4. We did not understand what was happening because it was many years ago when the word cancer was something to be ashamed of. It is hard to be young and not have your mom around and only someone who has been through that can really understand. I hope you find someone you can get close to like an aunt or cousin because that will help you so much. There are going to be many times that will be difficult but I am sure you are very strong and will be able to get through them. And yes you are now at risk but just make sure you get those checkups and take good care of yourself. Please write me if I can help at all.