tired and lonely

judy22
judy22 Member Posts: 117 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hi I am a 48 year old who had breast cancer in 1997. I was alright for 2 yr. Then it came back in the liver I have been on chemo now for over 2 yrs. I am so tired. I have no one to talk to about this. My husband want talk to me about this and my mother cries so I just keep it all to myself. Thanks

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  • hollywood
    hollywood Member Posts: 10
    #2
    Hi Judy...I'm sorry to meet you this way but I'm here to talk to ok. I had tried to get into the chat room but I guess I wasn't doing it right. You just email me or we can chat...I am here ok & I have big shoulders......literally.....lol.
    God Bless
    Keri
  • maud
    maud Member Posts: 178
    #3
    Hi Judy,
    Welcome and we are all here for you whenever you need to talk. I am sure it isn't helping you by keeping it all in. Please feel free to email me anytime and remember you are not alone. My thought and prayers are with you.
    God Bless
    Debbie
  • susanpecq
    susanpecq Member Posts: 14
    #4
    Hello Judy,
    It really must be tough on you not having anyone to talk to about how you're feeling, your worries and concerns. I live in France so I don't think we could talk much by phone but I'm here by email if you want to let your thoughts out or ask any questions. I'm doing chemeo now for breast cancer diagnosed in November. So I can certainly understand how tired you're feeling and also discouraged at times I know. Because of the time difference with the US (it's six hours later here than eastern standard time) I don't often get in any chat rooms. But I can see from the postings that a lot of people do manage. There is also another site called cancersurvivor.com that apparently also has a good chat room. Maybe you might want to try that too. Anyway, just know that we're all pulling for you and thinking of you. You're NOT alone in this.
    Keep your chin up,
    Bisous
    Sue
  • mrsbe
    mrsbe Member Posts: 57
    #5
    Hi there Judy,
    Well there is one thing that we can do to help =) you can come in here..fluff up the pillow on the couch and tell us anything you want to. We share just about everything in here. From dealing with grumpy husbands to insurance probs. You feel free to pick a topic and just let it roll. Im safe in saying most of us in here have had those feelings of being tired and lonely and sometimes that can be harder to deal with than the pain of the treatments. So take a deep breath and feel free to share whatever is on your mind. I also check my email on here everyday if you feel you need fast response time. Remember there are faces out here youve never seen that care about you and are willing and glad to help in any way we can. Now lets see a smile =)

    Wishing you Wellness
    MrsBe
  • carollynn
    carollynn Member Posts: 5
    #6
    Hi tired and lonely....you broke my heart and I am in the same boat as you. You are 3 years older than me. Can you believe we are so young and we have been hit with this? It has been said to me that God only gives those who have "the broadest shoulders" the biggest burdens to bear. What do you think? When I first heard this I was offended, looking straight away at my shoulders, then when I realized it was an anology and then I thought "cool".....I do have broad shoulders, and so probably do you. Your mother and husband love you. Your mother cries because you are her child and mothers would suffer for their children if they could. She would take your ailements away from you in a blink of any eye. Your husband, well what can I say...he's a man. Words of compassion, caring and tenderness do not come easy for most men. Don't feel said, don't feel lonely....you can write to me. I'll be your sounding board and you can be mine. Hang in there. A healthy, positive mind is a healthy, positive body. Carol :O)
  • sickoncomp
    sickoncomp Member Posts: 12
    #7
    I'm new to all this. I'm getting my lumpectomy tomorrow. My huband loves me, that is about the only thing in life I'm sure of right now. It is lonely. It's outright scary right now. Write to me is you wish: sickoncomp@ntelos.net. I don't know if I can help except for an honest ear and a need for a friend myself, someone to write to. Don't have family of my own so I'm someone ready to respond. I'm scared too. Help me and I'll try to help you. I'll pray for you, Judy. Pray for me? We'll make it.
  • kat02
    kat02 Member Posts: 76
    #8
    Hi Judy,

    Please feel free to email me anytime. I know what it is like to need someone to share with. It wasn't until recently that my husband could really share with me. He would cry when ever we started to share. I wouldn't share my fears with him, because I was scared of upsetting him. I ended up sharing with a wonderful friend.

    Please never hesitate to post. We are all here for you.

    Love, hugs, and prayers,

    Kat
  • judy22
    judy22 Member Posts: 117 Member
    #9
    kat02 said:

    Hi Judy,

    Please feel free to email me anytime. I know what it is like to need someone to share with. It wasn't until recently that my husband could really share with me. He would cry when ever we started to share. I wouldn't share my fears with him, because I was scared of upsetting him. I ended up sharing with a wonderful friend.

    Please never hesitate to post. We are all here for you.

    Love, hugs, and prayers,

    Kat

    Hi Kat Thanks so much for your help. My husband is a good man but he watched both of his parents die from cancer. It is just so hard for him. I also have a 10 year old daughter at home and I try not to say to much in front of her because she cries. Thanks alot for your support Judy
  • dewbear
    dewbear Member Posts: 7
    #10
    hi,

    i'm truly sorry for what you are going through. i'm still completing radiation treatments for my diagnosis in nov 2001 and i'm 30 yrs old. my experience is a lot different from you, but i want to say that my heart goes out to you and you're in my thoughts and prayers. please don't keep this to yourself. i'm a good listener and if i do cry while talking to you about this, i'll still listen. any time you want to talk, my e-mail address is dewb215@aol.com. you are strong to be where you are now, so keep your chin up and never give up!:) write back soon.

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