Vulva Cancer survivor

I am looking for other woman that have been through what I have been through. Let me begin from the beginning. When I was 38 my periods just stopped. I just figured I was going through early menopause. Well.in December of 2021 when I was 39 I found a lump. I was freaked out a little but kind of put it out of my mind. It took my 2 months to tell my husband about it. He just brushed it off so then so did I. At first I just thought that it was a cyst. 2 1/2 years later in January 2023 my husband kicked me out of the house and I was homeless for 4 months. The day our divorce was final I got into my apartment. Things were looking up. 3 weeks later at the age of 41 I found out it was cancer. I had my surgery on July 11th 2023. They removed my clitoris and lymph nodes. I went through a lot by myself. 5 months later I met a guy. My beatfriend asked me if I told him everything. I told her that I didn't see how I couldn't. He was very understanding and we are still together almost 11 months later. He has been amazing. But here is my issue. I have always been that person that gets into my own head and my feeling. We have not been able to have sex. I am just way to tight. I am afraid that what we do is not going to be enough. He says that if it wasn't the He wouldn't still be here. I am just scared and wanted to talk to people that truly understand what I have gone through.