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Ruthmomto4 said:

Peter

I am so sorry about Harley, you think you will do better than you actually do. Trust me I know, I thought I would be ok my Max died in June. Wrong, I cry all the time, in pet stores, in the house, I can’t even say his name. He is the fourth dog have lost, each one of them takes  a piece of you when they go. Right now we are in puppy hell with our now 10 week old golden retriever Abby. I apparently like chaos since we got a boy lab mix in September. It’s crazy i Know!

Thank you so much, and thank you for reading his memorial and the lovely note, it helps. I'm sorry about Max and you're exactly right you think you're prepared or somehow in this ready state of being only to find out it's as far from the truth as can be. I think it's because for me anyway, that Harley was such a big part of me of who I was and he was the best of me I think - so much like you the water works happen anywhere and everywhere. I keep saying grief is like cancer in that the only way past it is through it - something I learned in this forum.

And a puppy! I just love this I do, and a golden no less, when I was growing up we had two goldens Dusty and Rebel they're wonderful with hearts the size of the ocean and I'm smiling thinking of how that delicious little puppy is driving you insane. All the crying, the whimpering, the house breaking, the failed housebreaking, the pooping the peeing - I'm talking about myself of course. Hope all is well with you guys and congrats on little Abby, please hug and smooch her for me. Peter

Peter_S said:

Ruth...

Thank you so much, and thank you for reading his memorial and the lovely note, it helps. I'm sorry about Max and you're exactly right you think you're prepared or somehow in this ready state of being only to find out it's as far from the truth as can be. I think it's because for me anyway, that Harley was such a big part of me of who I was and he was the best of me I think - so much like you the water works happen anywhere and everywhere. I keep saying grief is like cancer in that the only way past it is through it - something I learned in this forum.

And a puppy! I just love this I do, and a golden no less, when I was growing up we had two goldens Dusty and Rebel they're wonderful with hearts the size of the ocean and I'm smiling thinking of how that delicious little puppy is driving you insane. All the crying, the whimpering, the house breaking, the failed housebreaking, the pooping the peeing - I'm talking about myself of course. Hope all is well with you guys and congrats on little Abby, please hug and smooch her for me. Peter

saves her is how cute she is! The housebreaking is not going so well, she had a bladder infection so that complicated matters. My two older girls  ( Sophie is 14 and Ella is 10) do not like their new puppy sister and are not having it. Brady is almost too much energy for her, it’s just insane. The cats really hate her. I know someday it will calm down and its worth it. I start puppy class with her at the end of the month,I was hoping she would do well and maybe we could keep going and she could be a therapy dog at hospitals. We will see! I wish could attach a picture for you! 

I almost forgot good for you keeping that weight off!  I knew you would!

Sorry for your loss. looks like Harley was a terrific mate. It’s amazing how much our dogs help us get through it. I lost my girl, Kaya, just before I was diagnosed. I felt as though I lost my right arm But I always thought it was better. She would have such a hard time with me being sick. She was a cattle dog, my walking buddy, my bestie. She wanted to be as close to me as possible. If I had to go on work travel she waited under my desk until I returned. She tolerated my husband. She herded my grandkids about the yard. She was a good girl and I miss her terribly.

we now have a mini schnauzer, Pip, and she’s my husbands dog and tolerates me. She’s very opinionated and let’s you know what she thinks And I love her!

its so wonderful to have such great memories of our beloved pets.

Sending my love

k

Canadian Sandy said:

Stage eleven and thanksgiving

Stage eleven and thanksgiving.....how could I ever forget!  lol  Peter you are so special in how you remember things and answer to everyone individually! As always prayers being sent and i know they are given to you. Keep the faith!

I don't think I'm allowed to write the ones that would apply or I would get in trouble. However special does indeed apply to you. Sandy you are always so supportive and kind and I remember that maybe even a little bit moreso that you're not making fun of me for thinking there was a stage eleven. I'm keeping the faith most of the time and know my beloved Harley is now my gaurdian angel and I'll make sure he watches over you too.

My sympathies on the loss of your good friend and companion, Harley.

Peter_S said:

Special Might Not Be The Right Word For me...

I don't think I'm allowed to write the ones that would apply or I would get in trouble. However special does indeed apply to you. Sandy you are always so supportive and kind and I remember that maybe even a little bit moreso that you're not making fun of me for thinking there was a stage eleven. I'm keeping the faith most of the time and know my beloved Harley is now my gaurdian angel and I'll make sure he watches over you too.

Thank you Peter. 

Sestra17 said:

Harley

Oh Peter my heart is breaking for you. Our fur family is just as important as human family. When i lost my boy Orion to thymus cancer I felt like the ground had dropped. Thankfully I still had my Isobel pony. I hope your puppy can make you laugh like Harley did, it won't be the same, but can be just as special.

Harley and I were joined at the hip for almost 15 years, it made walking and getting in and out of cars difficult ( yuk yuk) but it was worth it, he was worth it.

And yes, it does feel like the ground beneath me has given way. We don't have a puppy, although I long for one and the chance to raise another dog. In time, when it's the right time I know we'll look for a new puppy. I'm sorry you lost your Orion a great name for a great boy and I'm glad you have beautiful Isobel there with you, no doubt she's a huge source of joy and comfort. I think of you often, especially through this loss so thank you for the kind words and I hope you're doing well and feeling great. Peter

I am so sorry to hear of Harley's passing.  I am sitting here in tears after viewing his memorial.  Our furry family members take such a big piece of us when they must leave.  The love and support they provide are irreplaceable.

I lost my "little girl" Madison (a 5 pound yorkie who thought she was as large as your beautiful Harley) as I was midway through my chemo (phase I of my treatment) in November 2015 and I still find myself in tears sometimes as I miss her so.  Luckily the laughing and smiling at memories are now more frequent than the tears.

May your memories provide you comfort. 

Ruthmomto4 said:

We keep her in her crate

at night but during the day just put her out a lot. My house is insane! So many furry babies lol however my husband is at Yale right now he went yesterday with infected stents again. They just took him for an ercp, I am usually ok but feeling darn for sorry for myself this time around. You can come see my Abby or any of my other furry children any time! 

The dogs are on to something, I think we all need a crate of our own. Your house sounds fabulous, the somber quiet here is grueling. I'm so sorry to hear your husband is back at Yale his stents seem an on going problem I hope it gets cleared up, he's in good hands I have an appointment there early March I hope I don't see you because you're both home and feeling fine, drunk with all that new puppy deliciousness - be good to yourself Ruth, you both aare in our thoughts, I would love to see how Abby is loving her first snow!!!

lhduffer said:

So very sorry for your loss

I am so sorry to hear of Harley's passing.  I am sitting here in tears after viewing his memorial.  Our furry family members take such a big piece of us when they must leave.  The love and support they provide are irreplaceable.

I lost my "little girl" Madison (a 5 pound yorkie who thought she was as large as your beautiful Harley) as I was midway through my chemo (phase I of my treatment) in November 2015 and I still find myself in tears sometimes as I miss her so.  Luckily the laughing and smiling at memories are now more frequent than the tears.

May your memories provide you comfort. 

You're so right, they take a part of us with them when they leave, and for those of us who know the great depth of this bond it's impossible to explain and there's much relife in not having to do so. I'm thankful for every moment I had with Harley and it still feels surreal and horrible. I loved reading about Madison, it seems little dogs think they're giants and giant dogs think they're lap dogs, in Harleys prime at 95 lbs his favorite place to lay down was me. After my surgery he kept me going so in this way I can understand your experiance with Madison and the great love and devotion you two had for eachother.

I think a part of us will always grieve, we learn to live with pain and it reminds us of how special that relationship was, your tears, like my own are a testiment to the love we shared with these angles in doggie suits, thank you again. Peter