MMMT complications (met @ bone)

I second what Armywife said so beautifully.  I'll add that my doc said to me, and she told me that she says this to everyone, make sure your paperwork is in order, live life to the fullest without going bankrupt, and take each day as it unfolds. Being prepared for the worst allows me to hope for the best and enjoy my life each day.

Yea i just put in to google MMMt uterine cancer yahoo group and one of the opions was the group

I'm so sorry that your mother and your family is having to deal with a second cancer, especially one of the more aggressive forms of it.

Are they talking about doing any radiation to the bone tumor or are they just going to do chemo?

You've already gotten some really helpful advice from some ladies who have experience I don't have with the rarer forms of uterine cancer, but please take some hope from the fact that they are still here to offer it and that this is not necessarily an immediate death sentence just because one doctor is guessing she might only have a year left. None of us come with experiation dates and often surprise the doctors with how much life we have left in us in spite of their guesses. You might want to consider getting another opinion on your mom's options for keeping the cancer under control. It's possible to live with this cancer like it's a chronic disease (think diabetes) even if it's no longer curable. Treatment, especially if it last longer than routine isn't easy, but it can be worth it for the good days it brings.

I too am very sorry your Mom has received this diagnosis. Each of us are unique but we also have commonalities. The fact that the cancer is in your Mom’s bones is very concerning.

You may want to ask her GYN/ONC about radiation to the bone if nothing else for palliative reasons because bone cancer can be very painful.

Your Mom may or maynot even want to talk about her life expectancy with anyone other than her doctor and husband.  My Mom had uterine adenocarcinoma that spread to her bones and adrenal gland. She underwent palliative radiation to her bone cancer. My Mom never talked with me about her prognosis. She chose to turn inside with her dealing with cancer. She never complained about anything. Everyone is different as they deal with the diagnosis and their own mortality. 

Take care of yourself so you can help your Mom as she decides what she wants for treatment, quality of her life and well-being. 

There will be lots of tears as you help your Mom deal with this. My heart goes out to you and your Mom and your whole family....

Lori

who do NOT give life expectancies. That seems to be trend with many, and I fully agree. This is the way to go. This beast affects everyone too differently to predict. I do not advocate sugar-coating, but no doctor has the right to take away a patient's hope. Period. End of story. 

I also like the positive trend of considering this a chronic disease, as well as using the term "unpredictable" instead of "aggressive" (or at least as well as the term "aggressive"), because really that's what this monster is ... chronic and unpredictable.

We had a wonderful person with us on this forum who had an awful time with UPSC. She had a very, very grueling journey with all sorts of obstacles in her way ... recurrences, adverse, life-threatening reactions from the meds. etc. By your doctor's prediction, I would guess she would have had a six-month expectancy ... maybe a year.

Our sister was with us for more than five years. I have read of others with a similar rough journey lasting much longer ... and some are still alive to tell the tale. Those include all sorts of Type IIs. 

If your doctor is not willing to fight as hard as your mother is willing to fight, see another doctor. Get a second opinion. It is a matter of life and death. So far, though, it looks like this doctor is.

It's quite possible that your doctor has a lousy bedside manner, but is willing to battle this as hard as humanly possible with your mother. Some doctors are like that. The main thing, though, is that the doctor expends his or her full effort and expertise to help your mother continue this battle, if that is what she wants. She deserves nothing less. If at some point your mother may not want that, that is her decision, too.

Technically ... and this still sounds weird to me, too ... your mother is still a 3c. You do not change stages, even if you have fifty recurrences. She may be a de facto Stage 4, but she is still 3c. So in no way you would be lying if you do not tell her.

ditto what CQ said about Evolo's post.  Also, wynterpeak - you NEVER have to apologize to us.  We are here to listen and lend an ear.  You are among friends.

Is your doctor certain that a biopsy and chemo are mutually exclusive? I've had two mets twice and both times I had punch - i.e. needle - biopsies. One time it was CT guided, one time was in the surgeon's office; he just numbed me up a took a couple of samples. The later was a 14 cm tumor right on the pelvic bone, which sounds similar to your mother's location. That biopsy came back with a different type of cancer (I'm Lynch positive) so, as it turned out, I wasn't Stage IV with uterine cancer but Stage II with intestinal sarcoma. Without a biopsy I'd never have known the difference. Fortunately my current course of immunotherapy has everything under control. I think it's highly unlikely that your mother's situation is similar to mine. I'm only posting this to say that your never know, until you know. Best wishes, B