Husbands first Chemo today 5hrs came home with Pack for two days stage 4 colon cancer with liver met

Sorry you have to be here and that your husband is going through this.  He is lucky to have you as you came to these boards to help him out and that is a very good wife to care that much.  It's going to be hard on you and him.  Take a deep breath and exhale.  You are going through a lot along with him.  Come on this board and express your emotions as well.  We are here to help you.  Hope he tolerates the treatments as well as possible.

Kim

My poor husband keeps vomiting everything up. He has not even started chemo yet. He had a drip today.?Nothing seems to help. Any ideas?

CyniD said:

Folfox

Tomorrow he starts folfox. Please pray. He had a partial obstruction. That was the cause of all the vomiting.

Pray he will tolerate this chemo. Surgery is not an option.

Surgery is not an option for my husband either.  He has been on chemo starting his 3rd year.  Please be aware that if your on Folfox for too long (over 6-7 treatments) it can cause nerothopy in your feet and hands.  My husband was on it for at least 9 treatments, finally he went on Folfori/Avastin with pump.  But it was too late, can't feel his feet and hands.  Hang in there!

desnee2029 said:

Such Support

I am so grateful for everyones reply to my post.  I don't feel so lost and alone.  T omorrow we are supposed to take out the porta Chemo needle and unhook pack.  Kinda scared.  Wish my husband would get on this support group.  Prayers and positive thoughts for everyone

Hello, I am a stage 4 colon patient with met to liver. I have gone through resection and now on my 7th treatment.  I believe the spouses of those with cancer, are the unsung heroes, truly.  It is a scary process but it will get easier and you will be his best advocate. My husband HATED hospitals before this happened still does but he is always looking at what everyone does to make sure they dont hurt me or that im ok lol. He is so cute. I think the hardest part for him personally has been my emotional swings. I do have them but as time goes on im learning to control them and not take my sickness, pain, tiredeness, emotional state out on him.  If you have any questions or just need to vent, feel free to contact me!.  Pretty soon you will be a pro at all of this and then hopefully your husband will carry on with life and this will be something you guys can look back on and say. we made it. HUGS>.

Franb51 said:

Long term survival

Hi Chip!

    Just read your inspiring story of long term survival.  Stories like yours give me a lot of strength and confidence. Bet your family is so happy.  I was diagnosed stage four this past April. Had surgery and went on folfox regimen at sloan kettering .  I never had terrible side effects.  I have 3 more treatments to go.  What really freaks me out is the getting scanned after the chemo is finished. i have a lot of anxiety.  How did you get thru that part?  Keep up the good work 

kind regards, Fran

Chip pops on every now and again, and hopefully he will see your post. 

What you are describing we fondly call scanxiety.  Wether your scans are every month, three months, year, we're all hit with that awful anxious time of waiting for the results. 

Good luck as you face your fist scans, and pray all is clear and you can say you are NED (no evidence of disease). 

Tru

vtspa6 said:

Folfox...

Surgery is not an option for my husband either.  He has been on chemo starting his 3rd year.  Please be aware that if your on Folfox for too long (over 6-7 treatments) it can cause nerothopy in your feet and hands.  My husband was on it for at least 9 treatments, finally he went on Folfori/Avastin with pump.  But it was too late, can't feel his feet and hands.  Hang in there!

What cancer does your husband have and at what stage? my mother has stage 4 rectal cancer with mets in the liver and the lungs and we are now in the process of deciding  what to do. Most probably folfox 4 or 6. Avastin is not recommended due to her vescular problems. Would love any advise and thoughts on Folfox. Thanks and all the very best wishes for your husband and all of you. 

SophDan2 said:

Don't be afraid to get help for yourself.

All of us on this page have very similar cancer albeit at different stages. I go for my 5th treatment of 12 tomorrow (Stage 3C Colon Cancer). Throughout this process, I (like your husband) am going through emotions that are unfamiliar to me, let alone how it is affecting my wife a 2 kids.. My wife, like you, is still trying to wrap her mind around what has happened to me/us. I recommended that she search out help of a professional, to help her be the strong person that she's always been. She has done just that, and I am so proud of her for helping herself through the process, as I am not sure that I would be able to help as well as a professional, while dealing with my own concerns.

Good luck moving ahead; positive energy is much better than negative energy!

Barry

Hi Barry,

Like your wife I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around my husband's diagnosis of Stage 4 colon cancer with liver Mets which they say right now doesn't look like it will never be operable unless we get a miracle. He also had a blood clot in his lung which he is being treated for. I am having a hard time staying positive and hopeful. I am going to be seeing a counsellor on Jan 4, 2017. How is your wife dealing with it since she has seen a counseĺor? My husband was diagnosed on November 22, 2017 and he will be starting chemo on January 19, 2017

So sorry for all the new people and their loved ones. Lots of advice out and here are some of mine:  be an advocate for yourself, be agressive in treatments, don't worry if you feel bad as that always was a sign that something was working..eat healthy...fall down seven but stand up eight... surround yourself with as much positive as possible... what is written on the internet may or may not help... if religion helps - use it.. change viewing habits to something fun and lighter... ask questions.... a slower infusion time can make side effects less... its never too late...nurses are your best friend... you will wait a lot - bring something to read that matters. Whenever I got feeling really sorry, I walked over to the Lucile Packard Children's Hospital and saw true unfairness, strength, love and hope.

All my best to all

Karry66 said:

My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 inoperable colon cancer

Hi Barry,

Like your wife I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around my husband's diagnosis of Stage 4 colon cancer with liver Mets which they say right now doesn't look like it will never be operable unless we get a miracle. He also had a blood clot in his lung which he is being treated for. I am having a hard time staying positive and hopeful. I am going to be seeing a counsellor on Jan 4, 2017. How is your wife dealing with it since she has seen a counseĺor? My husband was diagnosed on November 22, 2017 and he will be starting chemo on January 19, 2017

Hi Karry,

I hope that you and your husband are doing better. Your husband will be starting his treatments soon, so be strong for yourself and be there for him.  With regard to your question, my wife really found it very helpful to talk with a professional about her emotional state, about her feelings on my having cancer. She is really doing much better, especially since my treatments have ended. I go back for CT scan in late February, to follow up post treatment. I am the one who is anxious about that appointment, but I know that is to be expected. I am just hoping to hear the words "your clean" after the scan is done. I plan for the future (as I have always done), but live for today!

May 2018 be a better year for your family.

Barry