Losses

Excellent, comforting words my dear friend~

Yes, we need each other, not only on the cancer journey, but afterwards as well.

Hugs to you,

You are more special than you know!

Jan

sblairc, glad you returned. Yes, losing GSRon was hard on me too. You get close to so many and even closer to a few. I always feel the person that has passed on is okay, but we, as their CSN family and their personal family still grieve.

So let me tell you how I appreciate your candid sentiments and sharing which is difficult leads to bringing us together.

Hugs to you and all who visit here.

Jan

Such warm words, thank you, Jojo!

Mark's, Nano's and Dginnie's health was declining, and we knew it. But somehow Footstomper's death seems so unexpected. I was not under impression he is nearing the end. Or maybe he was too strong and positive to share it with us...

For those of you here a couple of years ago we lost Texas_wedge (the most prolifiv poster on the forum) and oneputt (Alice's husband) as well.

Icemantoo

Beautiful words, Jojo. You always know what to say and how to say it. It's a rare gift. It's exactly like when we lost DJ and Neil. And also Ron. So devastating and it just leaves you feeling sad and numb. 

and broken hearted.

One of the most influential people in my life was my Aunt Betty.  We were blessed to have her move into our home the winter of 2003.  About two weeks after we inherited 4 grandchildren to raise.  She had turned 97, and thought it was time to be close to me, and stay in our lives, as she figured she was close to "kicking the bucket".  She was a perfect fit, we needed her love and attention (she had no children) and became a grandmother to the new kids on our block( in our house !).  The kids thrived with her, I survived without mental health therapy for five years with her.  She used to tell me she was tired of delivering meals on wheels to the senior citizens in her mobil home community... when she figured out she was 10 years older than the oldest citizen in the community!  Our new blended family became her reason to keep on keeping on as she put it.

When she needed full time care, I retired to take care of her.  She told me it was about time, because not only did she need me, but the new kids needed me too... full time.  She really did not need a lot of care, she was easy to care for.  She kicked her bucket shortly before she turned 102, only a few two weeks as a "sick old lady" something she worried about being "a burden".  She was not.  Ever.

I want so much to be remembered in her likeness.  Strong, independent, self-sufficient, Loved.

I have learned to be aware of being needed, and stepping in to hold things together.  Footstomper, Ron, Mora, Neil, Dinnie, Texaswedge....and a LOT of others who's name, but not words on this site I forget..... thank you.  You have shaped my new life, my thoughts, and I want to be remembered like you are too... inspiring in our cancer community.

Pam

I was sad to hear about Mark, he encouraged me a lot with his compassion. Now Footstomper? Noooo. I haven't been on this forum for long, but Footstomper was one of the first to respond to my intial posting with humor and kindness. He encouraged me to use moist flushable towelettes and eat all the ben n Jerrys I need. I will miss them both.

I did not have the privalege in getting to know them.  I am very saddened by their passing!  What a loss for their communities and what a loss for this group!

I hope ya'l dont mind me asking...was their cancer stage 4? recurrent?