Stage IV DNR form

Jan4you said:

I do feel for you, Mark. But

I do feel for you, Mark. But did he mean, have you filled out and signed Power of Attorney for Healthcare or did he mean signing a paper and receiving a DNR bracelet? Unless you are wearing DNR bracelet, CPR will be done if your Power of Attorney for healthcare is not on file (or in computer) or provided to person doing CPR. 

I can appreciate how this was too much of a "reality" test for you. Sobering to say the least. EVERYONE should do a Power of Attorney for Healthcare so your wishes are known. You approve of (3) "agents" who you know will carry out your wishes. So you need to ask him ahead of time.

IN POA for healthcare, you check one of 3 boxes pertaining to DNR in Power of Attorney for Healthcare. (Paraphrasing):You can check I want CPR, (2)You are a DNR, (3) Yes, want CPR unless  a medical doctor determines you have an terminal illness and or/could not survive CPR

Did you check the box for DNR no matter what?  And you are wearing a bracelet?

Many get more injured and traumatized by the CPR (elderly especially) or are too sick to survive CPR.   But if you go into a hospital, or someone finds you unconscious, you need to be wearing a DNR bracelet or the paramedics will conduct CPR and you'll be on breathing machines.  

Again, sobering. 

I worked in hospice and saw family members insist on CPR on an already deceased elderly person. So family needs to be on board and you must be wearing a DNR bracelet.

Hugs my dear Mark,

Jan

I already filled out the POA advanced directive he wanted the DNR.  We are supposed to keep it on the fridge, and take it with us when we travel.  He said I am in immediate danger of passing but it will happen and he said it is important to have everything in place.  We have got the life insurance covered the POA done, I still have to get a will put together and I am working on it now, and with the DNR I think I am almost prepared legally for all of the things I need.  I do say it makes me think and appreciate the time I have as well as my family and friends.

Mark

Jan4you said:

Not sure what you meant Mark.

Not sure what you meant Mark. He said you ARE in immediate danger of passing or not?

Anway... yes, sobering. Your SPIRIT will get you and your family through this time.

I have witnessed amazing mental/emotional and spiritual changes at time of death..

Hugs, Jan

Sorry I am NOT in immediate danger, sorry that is a huge typo, glad my kids didn't see that.

Mark

hardo718 said:

You're an inspiration

Your Dr wants the DNR status for you?  That's ultimately your decision Mark, I hope he or she made that clear as well.  Having worked in the medical field, when I was asked by patients and/or families, as with my own family members, I gave my opinion and clarified the differences in the options and always mentioned it was ultimately their decision.  Frankly, I'm surprised this wasn't addressed with you sometime ago.  It's definitely something you want to have in order and your loved ones to be on board with, so when the time does come they will feel a sense of relief that they fullfilled your wishes.  Notihng worse than watching a family try to make those decisions for their beloved, especially when there's disagreement amongst them.

God bless you Mark,

Donna~

We chatted about all of this a couple of years ago when the dianosis occured and we would periodically revisit it.  Mostly it was about getting all of our affairs in the right order.  This was just the big one I was putting off.

Mark