Thanks for the emotional support

First off, let me say I'm sorry to hear about your husband.  It is hard to be a caregiver.  I have been my husband's caregiver since July 2014 when he was first diagnosed with case.  Now he is on in-home hospice and it is harder.  The most important thing is to take care of yourself too.  You are important and so is your well being.  

Yes it is emotionally draining and sometimes I wonder if others really know what we the caregivers actually go thru and that includes the one we are helping.  People say how hard it is on the person with cancer and it is don't get me wrong, but it is also hard on the caregiver because we are the ones with them 24/7 and we are the ones watching them and we are the ones that they show their inner-most emotions to.

Wishing you and your husband the best 

i was my husband's caregiver for 6 year before he lost his battle with colon cancer. Caregiving is indeed very hard. it is stressful, tiring, and just plain hard. Each of our experiences are a bit different, but we also share a lot. My husband and I were both newly retired when he received his dx of stage 4 colon cancer. He had numerous surgeries, many rounds of chemo, and radiation. I was very lucky that he was a good patient. Still, the fatigue and stress was overwhelming at times. I did learn to take care of myself, too. Probably my hardest lesson, and one I often forgot. its important to do something for yourself on a regular basis even if it is only a walk around the block or meeting a friend for coffee. I, too, found this board very helpful. I used to come here several times a day. It helped me laugh, cry, and just hang in there. It has now been 5 years since I lost my husband, but I still come now and then. I wish you and your husband the best. There are so many advances in treatment, and so many are able to beat cancer today. Take care, Fay