It wasn't Cancer

Move forward by embracing the uncertainty of life as the one and only certainty. We’ve all been stamped with an expiration date. Unfortunately, some of us are living a little more precariously between the “best before” and final expiration. But you can't dwell on that. YOU JUST NEED TO LIVE YOUR LIFE. 

First, my condolences.  I am still young enough where only a few of my peers are gone. 

I just want to remind people that even us with cancer can drop dead....last summer, I had a cardiac stent put in.  I had been having Angina for 5 weeks...but I thought is was related to the cancer.  I had gone to my Primary Care Dr twice, and he did not think much of it. 

Finally, when I had it after the NED, I though it could be heart, and called the cardiologist, and 1 week later, they found a 98% blockage in the LAD artery. 

So, with metastatic cancer, you can have other things wrong unrelated to the cancer. 

Jan4you said:

Ron, as a widow and having

Ron, as a widow and having worked in Hospice, I know the best thing you can do for any survivors after a death is to REMEMBER them! Many folks, not wanting to make you feel badly, never, ever mention the person who died. To the survivor it feels like others deny they ever lived!

So know that as time passes, she'll need more support if just to share memories..and a hug of course! Hopefully for her (and you too I bet) he will make his "presence" known..

Warmly, Jan

Sorry for your loss, Ron. It really hits home when your friends die. We start to feel vulnerable. You are right though - it proves that we need to savor and enjoy life and living!!

It makes you re-think things in your life. Re-prioritize. We lost our best man last year...just a few weeks after I was diagnosed. I lost my mom a few months before that. I am not sure if it was the loss of two loved ones within a  few months, but I felt that losing our friend was harder!! He just turned 50. Or maybe because I was still grieving my mom, my grief just increased. Who knows. But it hit us hard. Life is precious and short - no matter how long you live! Live and love to full capacity and that is all you can ask for!

Hugs,

Jojo

GSRon said:

Teed Off..!

This is one of those times I want to curse, spit, say bad things.. and maybe hurt someone if they look at me the wrong way...  No, I won't get violent.. but that is how I feel.  I may have another family member that has the crud... geeesh...  If so, then I have suggested all the women on that side of the family get tested.. F*** it pisses me off...  Hope some of these new treatments pan out... we all deserve a break..

Thanks for the vent session.....

Back to normal.. wait, I was never normal...

Ron

Prior to my dx in 2009 seven people close to me including my father-in-law succumbed to rcc and 2 years ago another friend, who thankfully is doing very well, was diagnosed. My hatred of this disease runs deep, but I am happy that today there are treatment options available we didn't have when my friends, relatives, and co-workers were fighting and losing.

Keep the faith,

Gary

GSRon said:

Thakns Gary... that was like

Thakns Gary... that was like the second time I felt the need to "scream" in here..  Being that I just reunited with these two less than a year ago after about a 40 year spread..  In a few hours, I get to find out if my eyesight damage is reversible... lost a lot of vision, which I would gladly give up in trade for NED.

Ron

This is the first I remember hearing about that, is it from the meds?

GSRon said:

I will find out (I hope) in

I will find out (I hope) in about an hour...  seems like blood in my eyes... a bit dark...  could be non Cancer related...

Ron

Ron:

you have had your share, and then some, when it comes to loss; please let us know about your relatives as soon as you find out.

How long have you had vision problems? Again, please post as soon as you know.

Meanwhile, fingers crossed that this nightmare does not cross over into reality.

Sarah