I feel like I do not belong on here

disneyfan2008 said:

I must have missed

I must have missed something...

 

Denise

I am not on the board often and don't have close relationships with anyone in particular.  However everyone has been lovely to me and offered great advise when I needed it.  Sorry to see you leave such a valuable resource and lovely people.

Roseann

My silly tablet went crazy on post the same post - SO Sorry!

Winyan - The Power Within

Susan

I don't know why you think you don't belong.  You are a breast cancer survivor.  We get new members constantly and they can benefit greatly from your experience.  Hopefully you have gained some knowledge and comfort from us in the past.  We will miss you and hope you decide to stay but, if not, I pray you have a long and happy life.

HUGS!!!

Jamie

After posting this, I looked back a couple of pages.  I see that you were recently told the cancer has spread to your bones.  I understand that is difficult news to process and you are apparently having difficulty with your medications.  I believe, if you give your onc more time, he/she can find something that will work for you.  Naturally, if you really want to give up, that is definitely your right but I can tell you that I found out in July last year that I am stage 4 and I also considered giving up.  I started back on chemo and it was very difficult to deal with (I too was discussing quality of life) but I honestly believe that if I hadn't received the chemo, I wouldn't be alive now.  I am currently on chemo pills (Xeloda) and I feel pretty good these days.  I am so glad I didn't give up and I pray that you will think about continuing the battle a little longer because I really think you are still in shock over hearing that you are stage 4 and it takes time to accept something like that.  I am praying you find "peace" in whatever decision you make.  Just remember you are not alone!

HUGS!!!

Jamie   

OOPS!

Winyan - The Power Within

Susan

OOPS!

Winyan - The Power Within

Susan

I am so sorry that you feel that you do not belong here. There are no outsiders here at all. Everyone of us is here for a reason.  Some of us have just been on here for a long time and have been through a lot from the get go, therefore, you get to know eachother.  Some zo of us have had the opportunity to actually meet some of our fellow pinks in person.  I hope that everyone will always feel welcome on this board as we all have something to give and I know that I really do need the wonderful men and women on this board. 

Family and friends are wonderful and some try really hard, but honestly, being with others who have or are experiencing this journey that we never would have volunteered for has just been priceless. 

Being stage iv, I was so welcomed when I came here.  I tried another group in person and realized that being stage iv, I was their  worse nightmare.  They were all afraid of becoming stage iv and there I felt like a pariah.  Now I belong to a support group through our Cancer Wellness House, as well as this online support group, and in both I love all the experiences with meds, feelings, grief, laughter, etc. 

I don't always post, or respond.  Sometimes I take mental health breaks and try to stay away, it usually only lasts a few days, though as I want to know the results of our fellow pinks tests and celebrate or commiserate.  I don't always agree with people but I certainly respect their rights to make what ever decisions they feel are right for them...  No decision is easy and there isn't a treatment that works the same for any 2 people.   

I too went back to see if there was anything to blatently want you to leave, and other than struggling with some very hard decisions regarding treatment, I hope you stay on as there is always something to learn and we always love to hear where each of our fellow pinks are on this journey. 

Hugs and hoping it all gets better for you.

Carol

i am so sorry that you feel this way i once before came to this site and posted but no one ever replied to me .so now i just readbthe post and hope some one else has asked my question. this site has lots of great information please dont be discouraged

I don't know what happened, but whatever it is, I hope you decide to stay. Because you are part of our community and we need you too!

Sending you a big hug!