Jr. is back in hospital, not good!

rose20
rose20 Member Posts: 258
edited July 2012 in Esophageal Cancer #1
This is from Kathy:
Pray for ray, today is not a good day, we learned that his tumor has completely blocked his esophagus...he can't even swallow his own salava they are going to do test tomorrow, to best give him palliative care ...they say that is all that can be done for him....





I went to see my brother today and he told me that he asked the doctor that gave him the scope how long does he have. The doctor didn't want to say (believe it?)but Jr persisted and told the doctor he's sure he has seen this before so HOW LONG!
The doctor told him about a month.

They could not even go in with the scope. The tumor has completely blocked the esophagus, it has grown larger from just a few weeks ago.
They will put a feeding tube in him tomorrow and send him home with hospice care.

How is Jr taking this?
Well he hasn't been fully able to process any of this as so many came to see him today. I stayed only for a few minutes knowing his mind is full right now. Many thoughts.

My mom is not doing good, although in her heart she has known for the past weeks that Jr has not much longer to be here but when you actually hear the words it hits hard.

Kathy still cannot accept it, she is holding for a miracle.


much prayers are needed.

thank you all for your support and prayers that you have shown.

A special thank you to Eric(chemosmoker), who always made me feel like a part of this group and not an outsider.
And to Michael Daniels (hopper52), who was so very kind.
Two very special men.

Of course to Loretta and William, there are just no words to say how blessed I am to have these two in my life.

To all of you that have lifted Jr and me and my family up in prayer.

Many of you have touched my heart deeply, right now my mind is clouded and I just can't think of names.

No matter how prepared you think you are you are just never prepared enough to let go of a loved one.

God is our strength and I know He will continue to see us through this journey.

sad day.

Comments

  • Bermudagirl
    Bermudagirl Member Posts: 114
    #2
    I'm so sorry...
    you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sandy
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    #3
    We will be praying for freedom from pain and peace
    Rose,

    I know Jr's prognosis must have been difficult to hear. As always, you and Jr will be in my prayers. May he have peace and freedom from pain.


    Sadly,

    Paul Adams
    Grand Blanc, Michigan

    DX 10/22/2009 T2N1M0 Stage IIB
    12/03/2009 Ivor Lewis
    2/8 through 6/14/2010 Adjuvant Chemo Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU
    Two year survivor

    Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
  • Ginny_B
    Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
    #4
    These are difficult days to
    These are difficult days to be sure. I'm so sorry for your pain.
  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #5
    in our Prayers and Thoughts
    Rose,

    There are no words for the emotions you are currently experiencing. Please know that we are here for you when you are ready for comfort and hugs.

    I wish Ray and Kathy peace and comfort. Prayers to you and your mother as well!

    Terry
  • Amjosmom
    Amjosmom Member Posts: 212
    #6
    Oh, Rose...
    I am truly sorry to hear this news. I will be praying for Ray and your family.

    God Bless,
    Jayme
  • stephikindred
    stephikindred Member Posts: 140
    #7
    Rose
    Just want you to know Ray and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and may you find comfort and strength and much love to pull you all through the difficult days ahead.
    Hugs,
    Stephanie
  • captdave
    captdave Member Posts: 153
    #8
    Rose, Words can't convey how
    Rose, Words can't convey how much sympathy I feel for you, your brother, and you entire family. You will all be in my prayers.

    Dave
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #9
    Praying for Ray, and
    Praying for Ray, and family,
    Sandra
  • mardigras
    mardigras Member Posts: 215 Member
    #10
    So very sorry
    I am so very sorry to hear your news.
    I will pray for JR and for you and all your family.
    My Mum passed away two weeks ago, but I got the opportunity to tell her all the things I wanted to and hold her hand for five days and nights before she left to be with my Dad. That helps a lot.
    When a loved one is taken suddenly, it just leaves recriminations and the feeling that you wanted to do more.
    If this diagnosis is correct, I hope that you can make the most of the time you have to make sure that JR knows just how much he is loved and smile a little through it.
    My heartfelt sympathies and my prayers are with you all.
    God Bless
    Marci
  • ryoung6649
    ryoung6649 Member Posts: 4
    #11
    My thoughts and prayers are with you
    my husband has stage 4 with mets to the liver and although the tumors have shrunk I know we will be facing this sooner or later.
    God bless you and keep you.
  • jaycc
    jaycc Member Posts: 122
    #12
    In our prayers
    I'm so sorry Kathy, and we have added your family to our prayers. Music helped my husband through this hard passage, and if the nurses don't give you want you think he needs, call the doctor or social worker and have another one come to help him.
  • Lina71912
    Lina71912 Member Posts: 15
    #13
    Prayer for Ray
    Pray that Ray will have minimum pain, that he will enjoy his days with his love ones, family and friends. O Lord Jesus! Be with Ray and his family.

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