Well - dad has passed away..

seg2426
seg2426 Member Posts: 5
in Esophageal Cancer #1
My brother and I went to the game, after speaking w/dad nurse who said go, he'll be fine for a cpl days at least, maybe cpl weeks.

As soon as we got to our seats, got the phone call he was rushed to ICU, pressure bottomed and H&H too. They transfused 2 more units in ICU.

My brother and I ran out down the stadium ramps, flagged down a cop and had a police escort form stadium to our car a mile and a half away. From where we were, my dad was another 2 hours away.

We made it though. He passed away at 4:15am.

I guess his tumor hemorrhaged, massively. He struggled towards the end which was so hard to see. I just felt so helpless for him. But ultimately we were by his side as we said goodbye.

He was diagnosed 8/19/11 and died 1/15/12.

Now we know why he could eat better the past couple of days.

I am a mess.
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  • Unknown
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  • chemosmoker
    chemosmoker Member Posts: 501
    #3
    May your Dad rest in peace
    My heart and my families hearts go out to you to in your time of loss. PLEASE don't blame yourself for having gone to the game as that is what Dad had wanted for you, and you made it by his side before he passed thankfully.

    We wish you all the love an support in your time of loss and I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. I am am sure he is no longer in pain and no longer has to suffer.

    We are here for you should you need ANYTHING.

    May God bless your dad and take good care of him now that they are together.

    Eric
  • ifalk
    ifalk Member Posts: 29
    #4
    so sorry
    I am so so so sorry to hear this. I am fairly new here and I read your post from earlier. Glad you were able to be with him. Stay strong prayers are with you and your family.

    Ida
  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #5
    I am so sorry for your loss!
    Parents are special breed. They are so important to us, their children. Thank God for the role a good parent plays in our lives.

    Please hold your memories close and "take them out" as needed to bring a smile. That's what your dad would want, I believe.

    Condolences,

    Terry
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #6
    Praying for God's comfort in
    Praying for God's comfort in the day's to come. Don't have regret's for having gone to the game. You were where he wanted you to be.
    Sandra
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    #7
    I am so sorry to hear about your Dad
    I am glad you were able to be with your Dad at the end. He is now beyond the pain and suffering of cancer. May God provide you and your family with peace and support during this difficult time.

    With my deepest condolences,

    Paul Adams
    McCormick, South Carolina
  • Daisylin
    Daisylin Member Posts: 365
    #8
    sandy1943 said:

    Praying for God's comfort in
    Praying for God's comfort in the day's to come. Don't have regret's for having gone to the game. You were where he wanted you to be.
    Sandra

    so, so sorry
    I'm so sorry for you loss. What a devastating disease. I am so glad you were able to be with dad when he passed, and I know how helpless and terrifying it is to watch someone you love so much slip away, with nothing you can do to help. I'm glad you were able to hold him and help him transition to his next phase in his journey. May you find comfort in all of your memories in the days to come.

    Chantal
  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #9
    Deepest condolences
    It is sad to hear about your Dad. Glad you tried to go to the game. It seemed like that's what he wanted you to do, and I'm glad you got back in time. Prayers for your family. Your Dad is in comfort now. BMGky
  • fredswilma
    fredswilma Member Posts: 185
    #10
    So very sorry for your loss
    May you and your family find comfort and peace in the coming days and weeks, so glad that you were able to be at his side, it would have been a great comfort to him.
    Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Ann
  • MissusB
    MissusB Member Posts: 111
    #11
    fredswilma said:

    So very sorry for your loss
    May you and your family find comfort and peace in the coming days and weeks, so glad that you were able to be at his side, it would have been a great comfort to him.
    Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Ann

    I am so sorry ~
    This is so difficult, I know. We've lost so many the past weeks and months. Praying for you and your family and that God wrap his arms around you in the coming days.
  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #12
    So sorry
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray that wonderful memories will bring you some comfort. Eric is right, don't feel badly about going to a game. Only God knows when someones time on earth is over and there's no way anyone could have predicted this. The upside for your dad is that he's no longer suffering. He's still with you in spirit so make him very proud! Weap when you need to and smile when you can.
    Hugs and prayers to you,
    Rita
  • annalan
    annalan Member Posts: 138
    #13
    I send my deepest sympathies
    I send my deepest sympathies to you and your brother. Dad is at peace now and out of pain. You are bound to be "a mess" you must be in shock and who wouldn't be. Only time can heal. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

    Ann (2)
    wife of Alan T3N1M0
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #14
    annalan said:

    I send my deepest sympathies
    I send my deepest sympathies to you and your brother. Dad is at peace now and out of pain. You are bound to be "a mess" you must be in shock and who wouldn't be. Only time can heal. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

    Ann (2)
    wife of Alan T3N1M0

    sorry for your loss
    So sorry for your loss. Glad you were able to get to be with him at the end. You would even be more devastated if you had not made it back in time. My thoughts and prayers are with you, this is one ugly disease and so sorry your Dad went thru so much with it.
    Donna70
  • sangora
    sangora Member Posts: 213
    #15
    Donna70 said:

    sorry for your loss
    So sorry for your loss. Glad you were able to get to be with him at the end. You would even be more devastated if you had not made it back in time. My thoughts and prayers are with you, this is one ugly disease and so sorry your Dad went thru so much with it.
    Donna70

    He's At Peace Now
    For you I am so sorry for the loss of your dad, but for him we all know that he is now at peace and comfortable. You and your family have my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time of loss. You will have many difficult moments over the coming months but always try to remember the good times you had with your dad. Sam StageIV
  • cher76
    cher76 Member Posts: 292
    #16
    I am so saddened to hear of
    I am so saddened to hear of your loss. My husband, Rickie, passed away on January 3rd, so I understand how difficult this is. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
    Cheryl, wife of Rickie, dx stage IV EC, Oct. 2010
    Mets to bones and brain
  • Ginny_B
    Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
    #17
    I'm so sorry.
    May dad rest in God's peace and may you find comfort during this difficult and sad time.
  • froggerjen
    froggerjen Member Posts: 28
    #18
    So sorry
    I am so sad to hear this, and prayers are with you during this very difficult time.

    Jen
  • JReed
    JReed Member Posts: 428
    #19
    We are very sorry
    We are so sorry to read this news. May God wrap His loving arms around each of you and provide comfort and peace during this very difficult time.

    Peace,
    Judy & Don
  • PMT
    PMT Member Posts: 15
    #20
    JReed said:

    We are very sorry
    We are so sorry to read this news. May God wrap His loving arms around each of you and provide comfort and peace during this very difficult time.

    Peace,
    Judy & Don

    Very Sorry
    I am very sorry for your loss..I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I know how you feel.
    Paula
    sister to Teresa
    dx 4/16/2011
    stage IV EC
  • rose20
    rose20 Member Posts: 258
    #21
    So very sorry...
    Of course you are in a mess. Like William stated, "but when our loved ones pass on, it always leaves us "in a mess." We never want to let them go."

    This is so very true, we NEVER want to let them go.

    Prayers for you and family.

    rose

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