My husband will be gone by tonight...

slg
slg Member Posts: 200
in Caregivers #1
It will be almost two years since first joining this site. I have met lots of people in the same situation that we have been in. We have even made some friends that I hope to keep in contact with. Sadly today I will be saying goodbye to my husband of almost 40 years. I still can not believe we are at this point. We have had so many ups and downs. My heart is breaking watching him like this. Part of me wants him to go soon and part of me doesn't. Caregivers, love and kis your loved one and tell them you love them often. The last time I told mine, he couldn't speak but sounded I love you too. That will be forever my last memory.
After spending two years asking for a Liver Cancer Support Group we finally have one!! It's too late for my husband to participate but I plan to to honor his memory and help others like ourselves who need some help navigating through this terrible disease.
Pray for my precious Paul to finally be at peace and never have to get poked with any needles, CT scans, MRI's or treatments ever again!!!

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  • Cindy Bear
    Cindy Bear Member Posts: 569
    #2
    Hello
    I am so sorry, praying for him and for you. I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you.
    I don't have any sage words of wisdom or advice. Just sending big cyber hugs your way.
  • eihtak
    eihtak Member Posts: 1,473 Member
    #3
    Cindy Bear said:

    Hello
    I am so sorry, praying for him and for you. I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you.
    I don't have any sage words of wisdom or advice. Just sending big cyber hugs your way.

    You're not ever alone
    My prayers are with you and your husband that God take you both in His strong arms and leave you with peace in your hearts. The memories of good times with your husband will help you through the tough days ahead. We are all here for you .
  • ldguerra
    ldguerra Member Posts: 41
    #4
    hi Slg,
    I am sorry that you
    hi Slg,

    I am sorry that you both have to be in this position after fighting so long and hard. Prayers for Paul that God open up his arms and receive him with all his love. Prayers that you may find comfort in the fact that he will be in a better place even thought the pain and absence is difficult to deal with. Here you have many ppl who care about you and will be on your side always. Hugs to you.
  • JackieA
    JackieA Member Posts: 150
    #5
    I am so sorry about
    your loss. My heart and prayers go out to you. I sincerely pray for you. Jackie
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #6
    Sorry
    Im sorry you are coming to the end. My prayers are with you both. Fay
  • Lizworks
    Lizworks Member Posts: 2
    #7
    Many prayers
    So sorry to hear this...I pray for him, I pray for you. May peace fill your hearts and home this day...
    Liz Rains
    A fellow caregiver
  • cosmic_me
    cosmic_me Member Posts: 35
    #8
    I am so sorry.

    I am so sorry.
  • slg
    slg Member Posts: 200
    #9
    cosmic_me said:

    I am so sorry.

    I am so sorry.

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!
  • Faithful_Angel
    Faithful_Angel Member Posts: 86
    #10
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    I am so very sorry for your
    I am so very sorry for your loss, I hope that you can find some comfort in knowing he is now at peace. Please come back often and know many of us can feel your pain and will always be here for support.


    Valerie
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #11
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    Hope you're okay
    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. It is so hard to watch our loved ones suffer. Sounds like you had a great marriage & I know how life changes over night cause I went through this almost 2 years ago. Not sure how long you dealt with this, but it's still so hard to move on. There is not a day that I don't think about all our happy years. We had just celebrated our 46th anniversary and had known each other since 1st grade.
    Please let us know how you are & remember we're all here for you. "Carole"
  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652
    #12
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    such a sad time
    This is such a sad time, and I am praying for strength and peace after so much struggle. Don't grieve for what he will miss. Heaven has eyes.
  • JackieA
    JackieA Member Posts: 150
    #13
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    I am thinking about you,
    and there is no way to express our sincere thoughts. I really don't know what to say, but may God rest on your heart today and in the days ahead. Many thoughts and prayers are going up for you.
  • SlowRollin
    SlowRollin Member Posts: 75
    #14
    JackieA said:

    I am thinking about you,
    and there is no way to express our sincere thoughts. I really don't know what to say, but may God rest on your heart today and in the days ahead. Many thoughts and prayers are going up for you.

    I'm sorry to hear of your husband's passing
    My deepest sympathies for your loss. I'm so proud of your strenght and persistence to take such good care of him. He deserved to be in a better place and I hope you are able to find peace in knowing how much you loved each other and the family you nurtured together.

    I will light a candle in his honor and also for you.

    T.
  • QuisoNeo
    QuisoNeo Member Posts: 18
    #15
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    Sending you comfort
    I know saying I'm sorry doesn't do much for you. I find myself like others, unable to find much else to say. I lost my husband of 32 years in 2006, very suddenly in the middle of the night. I know some of what you are going through and will have to endure in the coming years. Knowing that he is at peace and out of pain must comfort you to a great extent. My girls were in their twenties when we lost him, and I too mourn the fact that he was not there/will not be there to walk them down the aisle, or to welcome their children into the world. But I am here to tell you that even though it may not seem like it, you can find the strength to go on. I discovered that my daughters were strong enough to go on without their Dad, and one of them even got married and figured out a way to do it in a more non-traditional way, eliminating the walk down the aisle. He was so very present that day; I could feel him and she could too. Sorry to go on and on, but as I was moving through the grieving process, it was so good for me to hear from others who had experienced it. It never ends, but it does get easier and the color does return to the world. I have discovered that my heart has room for another love and he is going through treatment for larygeal cancer. What a ride this life is. Praying for you and sending you loving thoughts.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #16
    slg said:

    He's gone forever
    After almost two years of posting on this site I am so sad to be moving on to be a part of another group. My husband lost his battle with cancer yesterday morning. I am forever proud of his determination and bravery for trying to stay with us longer. But sadly he has left us too soon and too young. I will not share our 40th anniversary with him in april and he will not be walking our youngest daughter down the isle in August, nor will he ever get to meet his future grandchildren or take them fishing. My heart is broken and I am worn down from having watched him deteriorate. I don't know how I will get along without him. He has been my life since the age of 17!!!

    Prayers
    Im sending prayers your way. It is hard to go on alone, but somehow we find a way. My husband has been gone for over 2 years now. We were married 42 years and he fought the good fight for 6 years. For now just put one foot in front of the other. Allow yourself to grieve in your own way because we each must find our way, and you will find yours. It may not seem possible right now, but you will. Prayers and hugs, Fay

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