I am so sick of this cancer sh***!

wolfen said:

Fatmomma
I certainly don't think you made anyone mad. The feelings you've expressed are felt by many here. For some reason, CANCER is the gift that just keeps on giving to so many fighters here and elsewhere. Wouldn't it be so great if you could just return it to wherever it came from. Unfortunately, I guess no one knows exactly where it comes from.

I'm sure there are many brilliant minds at work trying to find a "cure". It just seems that it is taking too long, especially when you or a loved one is waiting patiently.

It is a helpless feeling to know that you can't help your Mom, and I can't help my daughter. We have only love and support to offer, and a GIANT wish that the "cure" will be found soon.

My best to you,

Wolfen

I agree
just lost my husband on October 5th 2011, DX end of May, and gone to soon he was 50, and I felt helpless, and I am terrified to hear of another person DX with this horrible cancer..I feel it is a death sentence Thanks for listening thanks for sharing

maglets said:

cancer
thoought I'd share a little story with you about my daughter and her response to my stage 4 cancer. When i had my first liver resection there was some doubt if I would survive.....then after jess nursed me into recovery there were more lesions on the liver. This summer she has been suffering from depression and just went to see a therapist yesterday. He said sometimes when a loved one is faced so much with death that it doesn't even matter if I died or not.....jess is still mourning whether i died or not.

I thought this was an interesting reflection of the power of cancer that we and our loved ones face every day....

it is indeed a frightening disease....

love to all ....maggie

Very good point Maggie
When my Dad had a stroke when I was 18, it took another 14 years before he was totally taken away from me.
I lost a huge part of him that I never get back when I was 18.

fatmomma said:

hope I didn't make anyone mad
had to get it off my chest.

Ditto
I share your frustration for sure. I have also been thinking about finding sources of money to help with research. Have read a few really hopeful articles about vaccines, etc. but the research facilities are having a difficult time getting funding. They aren't working on a new drug for pharma to make lots of money from so no one wants to fund anything. Sometimes I think we need to inform people about helping to fund some of these projects rather than give to "cancer" charities generally since I think their money goes mostly for new drugs that aren't always that helpful.

Brenda Bricco said:

I know what it is like to be
I know what it is like to be slammed by a cancer diagnoses. I was dx Jan 2001 with melanoma and have had no reoccurrnce since. My husband was dx stage iv crc Feb 2011 and I have be mouring since day one. My life is a whirl wind and sometimes I don't even know if I am in reality some days. I have the whole gammet of emotions i.e. fear, anger, sadness, depression and feeling helpless. This is hell on everyone, I will never be the same.

It's my cancer and l'll cry if I want too.

You would cry too if it happened to you.

We all have the thoughts that we know we would be better to let go of . Easier said than done. I think if there is something that is bothering you it's better to say it than to hide it and deny  its existence.

Norm

Brenda Bricco said:

I know what it is like to be
I know what it is like to be slammed by a cancer diagnoses. I was dx Jan 2001 with melanoma and have had no reoccurrnce since. My husband was dx stage iv crc Feb 2011 and I have be mouring since day one. My life is a whirl wind and sometimes I don't even know if I am in reality some days. I have the whole gammet of emotions i.e. fear, anger, sadness, depression and feeling helpless. This is hell on everyone, I will never be the same.

fear, anger, sadness, depression and feeling helpless...
I've felt those feelings too since December of 2006 when diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer. The emotions are the hardest part of dealing with cancer, almost harder than the nausea was. But, surviving has brought moments of euphoria too, like when I saw my Christmas Tree lit for the first time after my first surgery and every year since then as I make it to another Christmas.

I have a cousin who has had Multiple Sclerosis since her late twenties. She is in her seventies now and in a nursing home. I think she has been in a wheelchair for about thirty years. She has never fought it that I could see. She seemed to just go with the flow. The first card she sent me after my surgery in her shakey almost illegible handwriting said, "I may have MS but MS doesn't have me." Cancer can be a blessing and sometimes a curse, but I just remembered that and I think if we can stand up to it emotionally, maybe it won't hurt us so much.

As difficult as cancer is for the patient, it is more difficult for the spouse or parent because they feel so helpless. For me, it helps to remind myself that I am not in control. When I went through humiliating experiences of not making it to the bathroom in time,etc., I realized that I was learning humility. I couldn't help it. I wasn't in control. And then it wasn't so bad. Lately, I'm quick to anger about some of the side effects of the chemo and contemplating quitting or going to Cancer Treatment Centers. I'm thankful that I found this forum and can see that others are struggling too. And I guess remembering those humiliating things is helping me to realize that these are actually better days.

I am so sick of all this
I am so sick of all this useless tchnology whith computers, smatphones and etc. But we can' find a cure to cancer. THis countries priorities are so screwed up and it make me very bitter. I will survie and beat this thing not just for my beloved wife but out of spite to cancer and "Me first "society as a whole.

Psalm 91 said:

fear, anger, sadness, depression and feeling helpless...
I've felt those feelings too since December of 2006 when diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer. The emotions are the hardest part of dealing with cancer, almost harder than the nausea was. But, surviving has brought moments of euphoria too, like when I saw my Christmas Tree lit for the first time after my first surgery and every year since then as I make it to another Christmas.

I have a cousin who has had Multiple Sclerosis since her late twenties. She is in her seventies now and in a nursing home. I think she has been in a wheelchair for about thirty years. She has never fought it that I could see. She seemed to just go with the flow. The first card she sent me after my surgery in her shakey almost illegible handwriting said, "I may have MS but MS doesn't have me." Cancer can be a blessing and sometimes a curse, but I just remembered that and I think if we can stand up to it emotionally, maybe it won't hurt us so much.

As difficult as cancer is for the patient, it is more difficult for the spouse or parent because they feel so helpless. For me, it helps to remind myself that I am not in control. When I went through humiliating experiences of not making it to the bathroom in time,etc., I realized that I was learning humility. I couldn't help it. I wasn't in control. And then it wasn't so bad. Lately, I'm quick to anger about some of the side effects of the chemo and contemplating quitting or going to Cancer Treatment Centers. I'm thankful that I found this forum and can see that others are struggling too. And I guess remembering those humiliating things is helping me to realize that these are actually better days.

Frar, anger sadness
I agree with youj Psalm 91. I am a patient. Although it is hell I rember the panin on my wife face when I was violently throwing form from chemo snd shr eoulf desperately ask me if there was anything she could which she new she coulcn't. Then recently the found a couple of spots after being 4 years NED and the look on her face just killed me. It was wrose that hearing the news from the docot.