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  • jewels5
    jewels5 Member Posts: 57
    #22
    mamolady said:

    Thank you Everyone
    I feel better than I thought I would. I keep repeating in my head what the pastor of our church used to say about having in "attitude of gratitude".
    Today is a beautiful fall day, I have a great family, good job and support from more people than I can count!

    Cindy

    Cindy,
    I am so glad for you
    Cindy,

    I am so glad for you that your day sounded nice. That's where it all is, in the attitude. I can relate though. My day of diagnosis was in February, and ironically it fell in the same week that I found out my baby in utero had a serious heart defect (he's now 3 and doing fine, thankfully). But it is hard to pass that day and not remember the sadness. I hope you treated yourself somehow, just to make yourself feel good, you deserve it. (And you still could even though the day has passed. ;) )

    HUGS!!

    Julie
  • bluwillo
    bluwillo Member Posts: 113 Member
    #23
    New Flower said:

    bluwillo
    so strange that your first post was not offensive, however your apology is. While you mentioned the difference of opinions it sounds like a fight.

    I'm so sorry!
    I didn't mean that at all!! I didn't want to discount anyone's feelings about this subject. it really was a heartfelt apology.

    And I do know that I'm not facing up to the big deal that is cancer. I feel the less I think about it, the less power it has over me. I do the same with traumatic events in my life. It's how I deal. But that's just me.
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159 Member
    #24
    I have neither celebrated
    I have neither celebrated nor mourned the day...but I, like you, know when The Day is. I don't think that I would celebrate the day I survived a plane crash, or pulled someone out of the burning wreckage of a freeway accident, either! Both traumatic, unplanned for, yet hopefully with survival as its end result!

    On the other hand, there is also nothing wrong with celebrating if that is what one wants to do. Or, if my husband or kids brought me flowers or wanted to take me out to dinner, I would also do that because it would be THEIR celebration of thankfulness that I am still here to love and enjoy! Does that make sense? I hope so!

    So, obviously, there is no right or wrong here~ as they say "It is what it is!"

    Hugs,
    Chen♥

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