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Tumor is back

Mick182
Mick182 CSN Member Posts: 1 Member
in Kidney Cancer #1

They found tumors on my left kidney in 2016 and performed a partial left nephrectomy. They’re back. Now they’re removing the entire kidney.


My doctor hates me. They scheduled the procedure for March. I called once to ask if I could get an earlier date. I was worried it would spread.

I went in to talk to my doctor in person. He called me a “big fatty.” He said he’d schedule dates for Black Friday because he “hates his family anyway.” Kept complaining about the hospital and having to talk to patients rather than operate: I don’t trust him now but what options do I have.

If I try to get another doctor the cancer could spread between now and whenever that new doctor schedules surgery.


I feel more alone than ever.

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  • monnocco
    monnocco CSN Member Posts: 14 Member
    #2

    Hi Mick,

    first of all, i can imagine what you're going thru. Please know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE and that everything will be OK.

    I don't know where you live, but there are awesome doctors all over. I live in NJ/NYC and there are a couple that I recommend in this area who are also surgeons, and very professional. How big are the tumors they found?

    The community on this page has been very helpful to me while I went thru my experience this past few months.

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  • Deanie0916
    Deanie0916 CSN Member Posts: 643 Member
    #3
    https://csn.cancer.org/discussion/328621/tumor-is-back

    Hey Mick, so sorry you've had this bad experience with this doctor. If your kidney cancer is a low grade or slow growing, would you feel comfortable waiting to switch to a surgeon you'd be more comfortable with? That might be an option? I don't think you should have to use a doctor you don't trust. Please know we as patients that have through this - we understand and care. Praying for you. Please keep us updated.

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  • stub1969
    stub1969 CSN Member Posts: 997 Member
    #4
    https://csn.cancer.org/discussion/comment/1718844#Comment_1718844

    I'm in total agreement with Deanie on this. In your pathology report, what did they say about your cancer grade? My doctor told me that I may have had my cancer for 10 years before it was found—just because it is slow growing. But, I also understand you being anxious to get the cancer out. I just have to believe your trust in your surgeon tops your rush to get it out.

    When I was diagnosed, I was so scared, but my surgeon put me at ease and gave me hope. He was my lifeline when I needed it most. I can't imagine what I would have done had I gotten a surgeon that I didn't feel I could trust.

    I hope you strongly consider looking for a new doctor.

    Wishing you only the best during this difficult time.

    Stub

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