after treatment issues

kaykow Member Posts: 5

My husband completed treatment in December 2018. He has memory and concentration issues. He gets angry about it and he takes it out on me - nothing physical. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't know how to calm him down. I need suggestions


  • Catholic
    Catholic Member Posts: 86
    There is not much you can do.

    There is not much you can do.   Here is what I have learned:

    1. When my spouse gets angry, just let them get angry.  If I say something, my wife seems to enjoy anger
    and gets even angrier.  My advice is to sit their in peace; with that said, I don't always take my own advice here.
    Its hard to get yelled at day after day.

    2. Exercise and eat right.  I exercise daily and that helps me a lot.  If I went to the gym, then I can let my wife
    yell and yell and it doesn't seem to effect me as much.  

    3. Find activities and work and things to do away from the house.  I feel like in many ways I have built a new
    life outside of the house.  My wife is not healthy and I know it.  But I can't help her; I tried for years to get her
    help and she resisted for years.  I spend a lot of time outside of the house just to enjoy the day.