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  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    edited January 2018 #22
    Annie

    No intent to judge others. We take our health for  granted. It must be so scarey to be ill equipped for  the challenge. There are also those who never are on time for anything. Unable to be effective in any self discipline. Responsibility starts with ourselves and we all have issues. If one cannot take care of one self pre diagnosis, the deck is stacked against  them. Often the phrase, "Why me?" says a lot. Patterns emerge to health care professionals. This can account for why people with similar medical dx recieve such different plans of care.

  • Jan4you
    Jan4you Member Posts: 1,330 Member
    Foxie dear~

    Foxie dear~

    Take our strength

    Take our courage

    please

    Take our love!

    Warm hugs to you and yours! Jan

  • Wehavenotimeatall
    Wehavenotimeatall Member Posts: 488 Member
    edited January 2018 #24
    Dear God

    the medical staff are judging us

    Hope I am on the good side

    Annie

    P.s I do agree with your sentiments but don’t agree 100%

  • stub1969
    stub1969 Member Posts: 978 Member
    I like to think

    We're cut from the same cloth, Fox.  We've PMed each other numerous times about this topic and I think you know my drive and stubbornness to compete and never cry "uncle".  Sure prior health is crazy important, but even bigger is the mental fortitude it takes to never quit.  I'm not talking about this glossy, cover statement "I'm going to fight this," I'm talking about a sincere belief that you will survive. That you can handle most anything thrown at you and still stand up and say--"kiss my a**".  

    Coupled with good health, mental toughness gives you the biggest advantage.

    Take care--

    Stub

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    edited January 2018 #26
    Lobbiest post in diet thread;

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    Jan 11, 2018 - 4:20 pm





    Prevention of kidney cancer incidence and recurrence: lifestyle, medication and nutrition.



    Abstract

    PURPOSE OF REVIEW:

    The incidence of kidney cancer rises globally with the highest rates in developed countries. This demonstrates the impact of advanced diagnostic imaging but also rising prevalence of modifiable risk factors such as smoking, obesity and hypertension. A literature search was performed with focus on recent studies on risk factors related to lifestyle, medication and nutrition. Further we searched for the effect of cancer prevention strategies.

    RECENT FINDINGS:

    Overall, we included 76 studies of the past 5 years. Based on current evidence smoking tobacco, obesity and hypertension remain established risk factors for kidney cancer. Certain analgesics and consumption of processed meat have been linked to increase development of renal cell carcinoma, although data are limited. Fruits, fiber-rich vegetables, coffee and physical activity may have a protective effect against kidney cancer but causal conclusions are not yet supported. Significantly, there is an increasing evidence of inverse association between moderate alcohol consumption.

    SUMMARY:

    Overall evidence confirms an effective way to prevent the risk of kidney cancer is maintaining a healthy weight and avoid smoking. State policies should further ensure strategies to raise public awareness and support to adopt healthy lifestyles.

     

    If this is true pre diagnosis, it remains there post diagnosis. It is a survival tool. You have to take care of yourself.







  • Jojo61
    Jojo61 Member Posts: 1,309 Member
    Foxy, you continue to inspire

    Foxy, you continue to inspire us! Your strength, knowledge and compassion are just a few of the things I admire.

    We do need to take care of our bodies. In October, my oldest sister (turning 68 next week) had a heart attack. She has chronic leukemia, but it has been under control for years. She has never smoked, doesn't drink, exercises and eats right.  I saw her a few days before her heart attack. She was extremely worried about her daughter who was going through a rough patch. I reminded her that worrying won't help matters...easier said than done. After she left I mentioned to my other sisters how stressed she seemed. I could hear it in her voice. A few days later she had the heart attack (went to her daughter's to help her move - not a thing was packed - she had the attack a few minutes after arrival). She had bypass surgery within 30 minutes. Now - I am sure because of her taking care of her body - she has bounced back to glowing medical reports! I keep reminding her to stop worrying. I am guilty of the same trait. It is difficult to stop....but I have cut down a lot (in fact after hearing the news of my sister's heart attack, my oldest son reminded me that this could happen to me and to stop worrying about my youngest son - I understand fully how this can happen!) 

    Just like the directions of airline stewards: in case of troubles, take the oxygen for yourself first, so you can care for those who need it. We need to take care of ourselves first. Only we can do it for ourselves. 

    Love you Foxy....glad you are taking care of yourself - because we need you here!!

    Hugs

    Jojo

  • AnnissaP
    AnnissaP Member Posts: 632 Member
    foxhd said:

    Annie

    No intent to judge others. We take our health for  granted. It must be so scarey to be ill equipped for  the challenge. There are also those who never are on time for anything. Unable to be effective in any self discipline. Responsibility starts with ourselves and we all have issues. If one cannot take care of one self pre diagnosis, the deck is stacked against  them. Often the phrase, "Why me?" says a lot. Patterns emerge to health care professionals. This can account for why people with similar medical dx recieve such different plans of care.

    Truth right here!

    Truth right here!

  • todd121
    todd121 Member Posts: 1,448 Member
    Thank you

    Your attitude and reminders and even occasional chiding :) have been so helpful to me! You may not realize it, but you were a big inspiration for me to lose the weight I lost this year. Thank you!

    I think of you and your posts whenever I need reminding to be grateful, to not waste time living in fear and worry, and to keep going no matter what. You're positive, can-do attitude has reminded me that I can do what I need to do to move forward. You've taught me being a victim is a choice and for that I'm eternally grateful.

    Hugs,

    Todd

  • Wehavenotimeatall
    Wehavenotimeatall Member Posts: 488 Member
    edited January 2018 #30
    foxhd said:

    Lobbiest post in diet thread;


    lobbyist0724's picture


    Posts: 250
    Joined: Sep 2016

    Jan 11, 2018 - 4:20 pm





    Prevention of kidney cancer incidence and recurrence: lifestyle, medication and nutrition.



    Abstract

    PURPOSE OF REVIEW:

    The incidence of kidney cancer rises globally with the highest rates in developed countries. This demonstrates the impact of advanced diagnostic imaging but also rising prevalence of modifiable risk factors such as smoking, obesity and hypertension. A literature search was performed with focus on recent studies on risk factors related to lifestyle, medication and nutrition. Further we searched for the effect of cancer prevention strategies.

    RECENT FINDINGS:

    Overall, we included 76 studies of the past 5 years. Based on current evidence smoking tobacco, obesity and hypertension remain established risk factors for kidney cancer. Certain analgesics and consumption of processed meat have been linked to increase development of renal cell carcinoma, although data are limited. Fruits, fiber-rich vegetables, coffee and physical activity may have a protective effect against kidney cancer but causal conclusions are not yet supported. Significantly, there is an increasing evidence of inverse association between moderate alcohol consumption.

    SUMMARY:

    Overall evidence confirms an effective way to prevent the risk of kidney cancer is maintaining a healthy weight and avoid smoking. State policies should further ensure strategies to raise public awareness and support to adopt healthy lifestyles.

     

    If this is true pre diagnosis, it remains there post diagnosis. It is a survival tool. You have to take care of yourself.







    Thank you

    and agreed

    thankfully I don’t have to change anything although I have stopped excerising( not high impact but was consistent) since my husband died and have put some weight on

    BTW my husband and I were no smokers, drinks on birthday and Xmas, never did drugs, fresh food only... we loved to preach to anyone about our health beliefs

    he got lung cancer and passed away

    i got renal cancer

    my Irish friends  are smoking and drinking without a care in the world and now preaching to me

    The jewish man I know never smoked or drank in his life  got stomach cancer  but is surviving

    but foxy is 100% correct

    the operation showed me I should be back at my pre widow weight so I am on the case

    and I have been wallowing in grief

    wonderful people like fox and Donna have showen  that life is here right now

    and thanks to Stubb for his ever knowledgeable insights

    Annie

     

     

     

     

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member

    Thank you

    and agreed

    thankfully I don’t have to change anything although I have stopped excerising( not high impact but was consistent) since my husband died and have put some weight on

    BTW my husband and I were no smokers, drinks on birthday and Xmas, never did drugs, fresh food only... we loved to preach to anyone about our health beliefs

    he got lung cancer and passed away

    i got renal cancer

    my Irish friends  are smoking and drinking without a care in the world and now preaching to me

    The jewish man I know never smoked or drank in his life  got stomach cancer  but is surviving

    but foxy is 100% correct

    the operation showed me I should be back at my pre widow weight so I am on the case

    and I have been wallowing in grief

    wonderful people like fox and Donna have showen  that life is here right now

    and thanks to Stubb for his ever knowledgeable insights

    Annie

     

     

     

     

    Annie,

    It makes no sense. I have a friend who is overweight, lazy, almost illiterate.  He actually says that watching tv is his hobby. I used to try to get him to ex. with me. He would laugh. He said it doesn't matter how much time I waste exercising. Because he would outlive me. He says everyone in his family always lives well into their 90's. Genetics. Some get good ones, some don't.

  • hardo718
    hardo718 Member Posts: 853 Member
    Thank you Fox!!

    Loved you from day one!  Wisdom like no other.  Although I haven't always agreed with you, I value your opinion like no other, truly.

    You are cherished!

    Donna~

  • Bellafelice
    Bellafelice Member Posts: 57 Member
    Thank you Fox

    I also want to add my thank you to all of the others here. I also have some good news to share along the lines of what you have expressed. Last year was such a horrible one- we found out my hubby had mets, he had a bowel perforation, our dog died,  alot of trouble with various doctors, etc.. The good news is that when 2018 hit, I decided to let go of worrying once and for all. I am accepting that what happens will happen. Every day I do everything I can to make my husbands journey with RCC easier. I also am taking better care of myself after realizing how much worrying and stressing out was making me sick (I had the flu for 3 weeks-it was so bad the dr. thought I might have pneumonia). Thank you for being there and for reminding me to be strong and take care of myself while I take care of the man I love.

  • Bellafelice
    Bellafelice Member Posts: 57 Member
    Thank you Fox

    I also want to add my thank you to all of the others here. I also have some good news to share along the lines of what you have expressed. Last year was such a horrible one- we found out my hubby had mets, he had a bowel perforation, our dog died,  alot of trouble with various doctors, etc.. The good news is that when 2018 hit, I decided to let go of worrying once and for all. I am accepting that what happens will happen. Every day I do everything I can to make my husbands journey with RCC easier. I also am taking better care of myself after realizing how much worrying and stressing out was making me sick (I had the flu for 3 weeks-it was so bad the dr. thought I might have pneumonia). Thank you for being there and for reminding me to be strong and take care of myself while I take care of the man I love.

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924 Member
    You are right, Fox, attitude

    You are right, Fox, attitude is everything. You are so encouraging, everything you say, you also practice. The going has been tough many times, but you got tougher! Keep on fighting, keep on being you!

     

     

  • ZVM
    ZVM Member Posts: 21
    edited January 2018 #36
    You are what I needed right now

     I'm grateful for the guy who started this thread, and all those who responded. Sometimes you need a reminder about self care and self discipline after a temporary slide in attitude. Those winter doldrums can get you some days, but yesterday the sun was shining, the birds were singing and then I read this thread. Time to start again:)                                                                                  

  • jazzgirl
    jazzgirl Member Posts: 243 Member
    edited January 2018 #37
    Hi Fox,

    You are the person who gave me the courage and the push to finally join after reading your post "Where is Everyone" from September 14, 2017 [I still go back and read it now and then].  I've been working on altering negative thoughts and statements to positive ones - thanks for the reminder.  Thanks for your wisdom and your unflinching sharing of what's going on with you.  Take care -

  • kiwi68
    kiwi68 Member Posts: 110
    foxhd said:

    Annie,

    It makes no sense. I have a friend who is overweight, lazy, almost illiterate.  He actually says that watching tv is his hobby. I used to try to get him to ex. with me. He would laugh. He said it doesn't matter how much time I waste exercising. Because he would outlive me. He says everyone in his family always lives well into their 90's. Genetics. Some get good ones, some don't.

    For all the healthy life styles...

    getting RCC and having led an exemplary and healthy lifestyle is a bit of a kick in the guts, but I like to think that if you are in bad shape when you get this diagnosis  (and the next diagnosis - because in life there is usually something) your ability to deal with it is so much worse, if you have other health issues, mobility due to weight, blood pressure, diabetes, exisiting renal failure, COPD from smoking, these are all the common ones I see in older - have lived a poor lifestyle - people.

    All the well known big risk factors weight, smoking, lack of cardiovascular fitness, they don't always make you live less long, but they usually almost definately make you live less well.   Your mate might joke about TV being his hobby, thing is, if he ever wanted to go do something else (like travel to a mountain and climb it) he might find out that he isn't capable, he has trained to sit and watch TV and that is what he will be fit for.    And god forbid he does get something that requires surgery, he might trip over tear a cruciate ligament on the way to the fridge, he may find his subsequent treatment and recovery are way harder and more complicated than necessary.   His choice.   Probably won't be laughing then.   And yes there are always outliers, those that have a terrible time and shouldn't have and those that sail through and shouldn't have, but the statistics don't lie.  

    As you have said before, your fitness has been a big bonus to your ability to undergo continued treatment. 

    Thanks for all that you do on the board Fox.  

  • damatken
    damatken Member Posts: 16
    Fox, your right!

    Stay positive, regardless, stay positive.  Live each day to it's fullest, love each day, find happiness in the small things!  

    Stay strong, keep moving forward!

  • amandac2018
    amandac2018 Member Posts: 26
    Fox, As a new member to your

    Fox, As a new member to your board, finding your post fills me with hope. Thank you.

  • Bryn1108
    Bryn1108 Member Posts: 97 Member
    edited February 2018 #41
    Biggest hugs and prayers

    Thank you so much for helping me with your advice.  I'm honored to know you through this thred. Please never stop posting.  BIG HUGS AND PRAYERS! !!!