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RickMurtagh
RickMurtagh Member Posts: 587 Member

After years of dealing with cancer and a few more years as a survivor, I thought I was over scan anxiety or even fear of cancer's return.  Turns out I still fear cancer, but not mine.  My wife has had a couple of procedures after a mamogram found something.  We don't even know for sure what it is or isn't, but every time the phone rings I fear it is bad news.  I know she is strong because of how she responded when I got cancer.  Turns out I am not made of the same metal she is.  WTH, why does it take so long to find out the results from tests!?!  Augh.  My stomach hurts.

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  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
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    hi you

    ahhhh hi you Rick.....yup you are so strong enough to do this....isn't it a kicker though? cancer cancer cancer.....just when you think you have your head down and all is good....up it comes again.  Rick I am so sorry your wife is having some issues right now .....with your cancer history you are bound to just jump in there and feel so frightened.....hang in kiddo....remember experience counts for something......

    I send you both love....hang on.....with a hug////mags

  • DD3
    DD3 Member Posts: 136 Member
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    I

    feel for you Rick.  Roughly 2 months prior to my wife's colon cancer diagnosis, she had her annual mamogram.  Yep... found something on the x-ray.  They were getting things lined up for a biospy and etc. Did the biospy the and bam.. colon cancer hit.  As the surgeon said, "we need to deal with the CRC and deal with whatever is in the breast later."  I was beyond devestated.  Anyways, we dealt with the CRC then after treatment they went in a did a lumpectomy (Sp?) and nothing was there.  Doc's were baffled and really to this day are not sure what happened to it. Maybe the chemo wiped it out.  No one really knows.  All is good now... All follow up mamograms have been clear.  She is on tomoxifen for "preventive maintenance."

    I'm sorry you and your wife are traveling down the road.  Stay positive.

  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
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    Hugs mate

        It is for me one of the few cosolations of living alone. I can face my own demons but it's not so easy when a loved one is involved. Wishing for the best outcome for the both of you. Ron,

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,800 Member
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    Gutted

    I would be gutted if my husband or one of my children were diagnosed. I'd rather go through it all over again, than have that happen. 

    I will keep your wife in my prayers, and you. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • Helen321
    Helen321 Member Posts: 1,459 Member
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    Wow Rick, that's rough news.

    Wow Rick, that's rough news.  Let's just hope that it's not cancer.  Steel is in the eyes of the beholder, I think you are just great.

  • Semira
    Semira Member Posts: 381 Member
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    oh dear

    hard you have to change sides and now take the cargivers place. Even harder as you know both sides.
    Sending strenght!

    Petra

  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632 Member
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    Semira said:

    oh dear

    hard you have to change sides and now take the cargivers place. Even harder as you know both sides.
    Sending strenght!

    Petra

    Not good news

    hi Rick,  indeed this is not good news, the not knowing is even harder. But you can do this..... Together. Yes it iis much harder to be the care giver on the sideline then the subject yourself. You feel more helpless. But you will be surprised, you do have the strength in you and together you will conquer this beast .

    i have been NED for 4 years now and now they found a spot on my face and leg. Yes skin cancer, now I'm waiting for an appointment with a dermatologist.mthe waiting is indeed the hardest. 

     

    Sending love. Light. Patience and healing thoughts, hug, Marjan

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019 Member
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    Please let us know what the outcome is...

    While going through all this cancer stuff with my brother, they found something on my mammogram. The radiologist scared the jeepers out of me and said it didn't look good. When the report came back, it was NOT cancer. I was relieved but wanted to wring the radiologist's neck. I have to go back soon for my next mammogram and now I have anxiety and keep unconsciously trying to put it off. Today I am making the appointment, but I'm a nervous wreck.

    Good luck. I hope she's fine and it comes back negative for cancer.

    Lin

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
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    I've had a couple of mammo

    I've had a couple of mammo scares, both turned out to be nothing, but it caused a good deal of anxiety.  Hoping your wife is fine,  please let us know,

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    I've had a couple of mammo

    I've had a couple of mammo scares, both turned out to be nothing, but it caused a good deal of anxiety.  Hoping your wife is fine,  please let us know,

    Rick,
    Let's hope the waiting

    Rick,

    Let's hope the waiting is the worst part. You can do it but I hope and pray that you don't have to go that way again.

    CM

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
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    Dear Rick

    You under estitmate your strenght.  However things turn out, you will be her rock.

    Prayers that it is not cancer and that you two can move on to a non-cancer life once again.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties

  • RickMurtagh
    RickMurtagh Member Posts: 587 Member
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    took forever

    It took forever - they had to do mutiple tests and do a needle biopsy.  Seems, it was nothing to worry over - Sally is fine!  I think I just started breathing again last Tuesday when we found out!

    Thank you all so much for the encouragement.  I could not find any in myself.

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,800 Member
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    took forever

    It took forever - they had to do mutiple tests and do a needle biopsy.  Seems, it was nothing to worry over - Sally is fine!  I think I just started breathing again last Tuesday when we found out!

    Thank you all so much for the encouragement.  I could not find any in myself.

    Wonderful news!

    I am so happy for both of you, and especially Sally. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478 Member
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    took forever

    It took forever - they had to do mutiple tests and do a needle biopsy.  Seems, it was nothing to worry over - Sally is fine!  I think I just started breathing again last Tuesday when we found out!

    Thank you all so much for the encouragement.  I could not find any in myself.

    Oh! I'm so happy for both of

    Oh! I'm so happy for both of you! Hooray!

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
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    took forever

    It took forever - they had to do mutiple tests and do a needle biopsy.  Seems, it was nothing to worry over - Sally is fine!  I think I just started breathing again last Tuesday when we found out!

    Thank you all so much for the encouragement.  I could not find any in myself.

    Awesome!  i hope you

    Awesome!  i hope you celebrate!

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    Awesome!  i hope you

    Awesome!  i hope you celebrate!

    Oh, isn't breathing nice? So

    Oh, isn't breathing nice? So happy for you and Sally. 

    CM

  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
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    Oh, isn't breathing nice? So

    Oh, isn't breathing nice? So happy for you and Sally. 

    CM

    haha

    Cathleen mary.....you are so right.....breathing is nice.  Dear Rick and Sally sending love and so so so very happy for your good news....

    mags

  • NEDbound
    NEDbound Member Posts: 54
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    Congratulations

    Congratulations!  Such a relief!

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,280 Member
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    NEDbound said:

    Congratulations

    Congratulations!  Such a relief!

    I'm glad the scares over. The

    I'm glad the scares over. The pain and fear that comes when you go from patient to caregiver as a doctor tells you your wife has a tumor [brain] is overwhelming. You can't think beyond the days and moments as they tick by. You celebrate the moments and enjoy the times you have [and we did], but she's been gone since April 30, after a 6 and a half year battle, and I got an all-clear on my PET scan Friday last, tried to celebrate, and was so consumed with survivor guilt and her absence, I just went to bed. It still overwhelms. When things get hard, be thankful for the "road not taken". and enjoy your moments. That's why I come here, to read what these brave folks say and do to keep going. I have kids and grandkids that need me to get better and stronger, and that in itself is enough.

  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
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    I am so glad to hear the good

    I am so glad to hear the good news about your wife.