The speaking assignments are flowing in

Trubrit
Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
edited August 2015 in Colorectal Cancer #1

OK, I exaggerate; only one more. 

I have been asked to speak to a bunch of women at church. 

The lady in charge told me what she wanted, and I told her what I would do. HA!

One thing I do want to emphasize, other than the 'GET YOUR COLONOSCOPY IF YOU'RE OVER 50' speech, is don't treat stage IV Cancer patients like they are going to die.  This past week, a man from church gave me a book about death and the after-life. Its like 'Excuse me! I don't know anyone whose about to die'.

I know the intention is good, but in my opinion it is misplaced. I know the stats, I know they are stacked against me, but I also know I'm a fighter and I don't want none of this 'Oh, I'm so sorry' and that awful look in their eyes, like your going to drop dead any minute. 

OK, now I'm ranting. Sorry! I guess I'm a bit rattled about this book thing. 

I am excited to give another presentation though. I'll get the word out, and maybe save someone from a Stage IV diagnosis. 

Sue - Trubrit

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  • NewHere
    NewHere Member Posts: 1,428 Member
    #2
    Go Get 'Em Sue

    I am sure you will rock it.  And attitude is so much of getting past this.  The docs and nurses say the same thing to me.  

    In the immortal words of Monty Python "I am not dead yet."  :)  

  • Easyflip
    Easyflip Member Posts: 588 Member
    #3
    Give

    'em hell Sue, or since its church give 'em heaven! Just speak from your heart, you've got a pretty good one, and you'll be fine.

    Easyflip/Richard

  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member
    #4
    That's great!

    I'm sure you do a great job (and I'm betting people enjoy your accent).

    On the topic of acting like a person with stage 4 is going to die, my SIL visited me a few days after I got my original dx and asked what was on my "bucket list".  I felt like asking her what was on her list, as I was on the verge of doing her in!

  • DaveHereInFlorida
    DaveHereInFlorida Member Posts: 48
    #5
    I too have experienced alot

    I too have experienced alot of dismal comments about my stage 4  colon cancer going to the liver.   Its like people have zero cooth when they are talking to a cancer patient ;  its almost disrespectful  in my estimation.   'Friends'   choose to stay away as if you were a Leper.  Maybe its because they dont know what to say or do , or maybe its that they dont want to get too close relationally to you since 'youre not going to be around much longer'  . Who knows.   Its been a rude awakening for me on various levels .  Im glad i have a deep close relationship with Christ who gives me comfort, strength , hope, and a firm realization of his immense love for me.   I dont know how people manage without God being a big part of the equation.

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019 Member
    #6
    Thank you for spreading the word!

    The more people who get colonoscopies, the better their chance of catching cancer early.

    I never treat my brother as if he's going to die. Why would someone do that? I keep encouraging him and telling him that none of us know our date of expiration, so just keep on going. We don't know if tomorrow is the cure, or if a new chemo med will work for one person over another. I'm just counting my blessings for each day I have my brother here with us.

    Today he gets to meet my 5 month old grandson for the first time. My daughter, SIL, and grandson flew up here to visit family and friends. My dad and brother are going to be surprised. There's always something to look forward to, so you gotta just keep on truckin! Smile

    Lin

  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
    #7
    Awesome Sue. You are right

    Awesome Sue. You are right about the man giving you the book. You should have told him we are all going to die one day

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    #8
    Lucky

    How did I get so lucky? Although they are all aware of it, none of my card playing  friend( poker & bridge) never ask any questions or bring up the subject of cancer.  It seems I"m just blessed!

  • John212
    John212 Member Posts: 116 Member
    #9
    Stupidity knows no bounds

    Congratulations on being asked to speak again. You must have been a hit the first time!

    Someone I once knew had a saying: "There are more idiots than people." And I think he was right. 

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