A question for women ....

Lorikat

Phoebesnow said:

Hormones

Hormones will not give you sexual desire.  Just like a marriage it is something you may need to work on.  For me it is making time  for it.  Once I get going it is the same as always. Good!

 

 I started taking the hormones after several years of debilitating symtoms.  My doctors insist at such a low dose it is harmless.  My radiation doctor let me continue the hormones thru therapy, even though he would not let me take anything else.  

 

I just think its important for all of us to tell our experiences for the new people.  I never expected to have sex again based on what I read here and on other sites.  I am glad that I used the dialators and resumed my. Sex life, which is very important in my marriage to both of us.

 

Sorry for the typos, but this system is very difficult to use on the I pad.

Ditto the IPad!
 

Ditto the IPad!

 

sephie

Phoebesnow said:

Hormones

Hormones will not give you sexual desire.  Just like a marriage it is something you may need to work on.  For me it is making time  for it.  Once I get going it is the same as always. Good!

 

 I started taking the hormones after several years of debilitating symtoms.  My doctors insist at such a low dose it is harmless.  My radiation doctor let me continue the hormones thru therapy, even though he would not let me take anything else.  

 

I just think its important for all of us to tell our experiences for the new people.  I never expected to have sex again based on what I read here and on other sites.  I am glad that I used the dialators and resumed my. Sex life, which is very important in my marriage to both of us.

 

Sorry for the typos, but this system is very difficult to use on the I pad.

yea for those going back to normal

normal life, normal sex life is what all the docs at MDA and all of us want for us survivors.....but it does not happen for some of us..... a partial normal sex life is good but some can barely get to that stage..... we LOVE to hear about the ones who can have sex with enjoyment again.....congrats  to those.....sephie

Marynb

Lorikat said:

Whoa Mary...  You ask some

Whoa Mary...  You ask some tough questions!  I am not answering for anyone else just what I feel.  i am leary of taking hormones even though I lack interest in sex.  I personally feel that in many people sex interest DOES decline with age cancer or no cancer!   I love my husband and he is the kind of guy who improves with age.  I love to cuddle up with him and he with me.   now, he's 11 years older than me chronologically only.  His blood pressure is high and he takes meds. His interest isn't as great as it once was.  I'm sure there are people in their 70's who are still very active.  I dont think it's particularly the norm however.

I think each and every one of us have to find our own 'norm'.  Some marriages will survive.  Some won't.  I have all the faith in the world that mine will. I guess what i'm saying is we are all going to handle getting older and all it brings, including cancer, the very best  way we can, husbands and all!  Hugs to all

 

Lorikat
Thanks for the posts!

Porter

A question for women

Dear 7243,

Lots of lube and dilating 2-3 times per week & sex is comfortable & orgasmic.  (Libido is a different thing entirely.) There is a great website a-woman's-touch.com. They have a vaginal renewal system for women that have had cancer and pelvic radiation. They talk about using a moisturizer on the perineum so it's more comfortable.  It shouldn't be painful.  Check out that website, there's great info on it.

at the Sloane Kettering talk on managing late effects on AC they did a whole section on post treatment sexuality for women.  Try to get the power point from the HPV foundation.  Hang in there.  Hugs

lowens

Porter said:

A question for women

Dear 7243,

Lots of lube and dilating 2-3 times per week & sex is comfortable & orgasmic.  (Libido is a different thing entirely.) There is a great website a-woman's-touch.com. They have a vaginal renewal system for women that have had cancer and pelvic radiation. They talk about using a moisturizer on the perineum so it's more comfortable.  It shouldn't be painful.  Check out that website, there's great info on it.

at the Sloane Kettering talk on managing late effects on AC they did a whole section on post treatment sexuality for women.  Try to get the power point from the HPV foundation.  Hang in there.  Hugs

THANK YOU for the Resource!

Porter,

I am so thankful you posted the site. I just ordered the renewal kit and will be brave enough to attempt to put it to good use. This single/divorced mother (10 years now) has been willing to accept a life without sex but my gynocologist tells me I am too young to just hang it up at 53. I have taken the first step by ordering the kid. Will keep you posted. 

Thank you all for your honesty in your posts.