Skiffin16 ~ Presence or Lack Of...

Skiffin16
Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
edited June 2013 in Head and Neck Cancer #1

Hi all, just wanted to let you know that I'm alive and OK...

It's just been a rough week or two personally...

My sister Colleen that many of you have known has her own battles going on with cancer..., isn't doing so well. She went to a hospice a few days ago, last Dx with more than likely having only a few months left.

But that looks like it might be only days at this point. She's starting to have some mental laps and dillusions at times.

Please keep her and family in thought and prayer please...

She is my half sister, one of four that we only reunited through FaceBook the year after I was Dx. We met in 2010, her and her sisters had been looking for me for about the last twenty years.

They living in Ohio, me in Floirda, we haven't had the opportunity for much personal contact, but we all have a great relationship.

Not only that, but my mother has just been Dx with early stage Parkinson's. So I have also been dealing with that situation locally as well.

Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers as well.

I have been reading most of your postings, and replied to a few, but haven't been too motivated to reply to as many as would normally (abi-normally for me)... But on a positive note, the many that I have supported over the years have stepped up and are doing an awesome job of carrying forward the part of paying it forward.

I love you all, and am very proud of all of you, and thankful for all of you for being here, helping others and myself when needed.

I'm not signing off or anything, and intend to be as active as ever....for some that might not be a good thing, LOL...get over it... I don't plan on going anywhere for awhile.

For the rest of you... bawahahaha...

Best ~ John

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  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
    #2
    I sure noticed your absence and

    wondered if you'd gone on a long fishing trip.  But then saw on FB about your sister.  I'm sorry to hear that she has gone into hospice, but think how wonderful it is that you were able to connect and have some time getting to know one another.  Also  sorry to hear about your mom....

    We'll keep the home fires burning for when you get back....

    p 

  • TracyLynn72
    TracyLynn72 Member Posts: 839
    #3
    I was going

    to message you today as I was wondering where you had been!  I appreciate all the encouragement you have given me and I will be praying for you and your family.  I'm so sorry for all that you've had going on! 

  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,724 Member
    #4
    informative

    John,

    Both happy and sad about your sister(s) and your Mom.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I am always afraid to write about my non-cancer personal life, but I have traveled (and I am traveling) your road and it is heart wrenching.

    Now, about H&N Central, maybe when one of us is gone we could put a stamp across our avatar which says something like, “out to lunch”, “back later”, “on vacation”, “need a break”, just a  thought.

    In the words of Sir Skiffin “Have an Abi-Normal Day”.

    Matt

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #5
    Thanks Fellow Warriors...

    I'll keep you posted on events....

    Hopefully I can get through to Greta and let her know about this situation with CSN also...

    JG

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #6
    Skiffin16 said:

    Thanks Fellow Warriors...

    I'll keep you posted on events....

    Hopefully I can get through to Greta and let her know about this situation with CSN also...

    JG

    Gosh, John

    Trouble, like grapes.............

    My thoughts are with you and your family as you face these terrible circumstances. I also have a half-sister that I didn't know existed until I was about thirty and to this day, have never met. My heart breaks for you as you deal with your Mother's situation. Been there, done that. It is hard to watch your parent deteriorate.

    We are here for you. Heaven knows, you have certainly been here for us.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

  • Laralyn
    Laralyn Member Posts: 532
    #7
    I'm sorry to hear that--stay strong!

    It feels like dealing with cancer and the aftermath is always accompanied with other challenges... like one "test" isn't enough! I'll be thinking of you!

  • alligatorpointer
    alligatorpointer Member Posts: 131
    #8
    family

    John,  Your sister and mother need you right now and your forum family will try to tend to what is needed until you return.  Just know that you are not replaceable.  You have planted the roots for an abi-normal family tree that has flourished in here.  Without you, it would not grow as well and the fruit it bears would not be as abi-normally-interesting.  So, of course you are missed when you are not able to post as often as usual.  You are being held closely in thoughts and if anyone wants to know where to find you, the first place to look is in Phrannie's pocket ...  she probably keeps a collection of your abi-normalisms in there.  I have a fishing buddy who uses some of what she catches to fertilize her garden which reminds me of how your fish tales nurture the discussions in here with hope for post tx happy activities.  Sending heartfelt sympathy as you focus your nurturing strength on your sister and mother.

  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #9
    lifting prayers and holding good thoughts

    I'm sorry for this difficult time for your family, John.  Praying for God's grace.

  • MarineE5
    MarineE5 Member Posts: 1,034 Member
    #10
    Prayers

    John,

    Prayers are Outbound. You'll do what needs to be done when it needs doing, that's your way......

    My Best You, Your Family, and Everyone Here

  • sin9775
    sin9775 Member Posts: 199 Member
    #11
    Your Presence

    That sure is a lot for a family to deal with all at one time. Yell  I am glad you are fine.  Try to stay strong in spirit as well as body.

    ~S~

  • fisrpotpe
    fisrpotpe Member Posts: 1,349 Member
    #12
    you and your

    you and your family will continue in my daily prayers. so sad you or anyone has to deal with problems. knowing you they are very grateful to have you helping. 

    time for the rest of us to step up

    thanks for the heads up. do what you need to as your priorities lead you. 

    love you too

    john 

  • donfoo
    donfoo Member Posts: 1,773 Member
    #13
    take care

    Thanks for checking in. i always wonder when folks quiet down and paray and hope for the best in their own situations. we'll be here iun abi-normal land when you are morea able to hover us folks. best to you, don.

  • katenorwood
    katenorwood Member Posts: 1,912
    #14
    You're all in my prayers

    John,

    I am saddened to hear about your sister.  My heart goes out to you all.  My Father also has been dx'd with parkinsons.  I'll be keeping your Mother in my thoughts also !  Hugs sent !  Katie

  • osmotar
    osmotar Member Posts: 1,006
    #15
    Prayers and Blessing

    To you and your family ....prayers and goooood mojo to all.

     

    Linda

     

  • Duggie88
    Duggie88 Member Posts: 760 Member
    #16
    John

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am happy you did have the opportunity to reunite with your sister.

    Take care

          Jeff

  • michdjp
    michdjp Member Posts: 220
    #17
    Thought and prayers

    My thoughts and prayers are with you And your family.  You are a wonderful person and your family is lucky to have you in their lives during such a trying time.  You have helped so many.

    stay strong

    michelle

  • luv4lacrosse
    luv4lacrosse Member Posts: 1,410 Member
    #18
    Take time for you

    This site will always be here, so take some time for you. Prayers and mental support headed your way. 

    Stay strong and god bless.

    Mike

  • CherieLW
    CherieLW Member Posts: 472
    #19
    John,
    I will defintely be

    John,

    I will defintely be keeping your sister and mother in my prayers.  What a rough time!  I hope things start looking up soon!  Sorry to hear about all the bad news, but hang in there!

    Cherie

  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
    #20
    CherieLW said:

    John,
    I will defintely be

    John,

    I will defintely be keeping your sister and mother in my prayers.  What a rough time!  I hope things start looking up soon!  Sorry to hear about all the bad news, but hang in there!

    Cherie

    John

    Prayers for you and your family. 

  • peggylulu
    peggylulu Member Posts: 375
    #21
    I missed you

    and was wondering , I knew something had to be going on or you would have been on here helping others like you always do every day. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and your Sister . Thanks for taking the time to post and let us know what is going on . My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family . I am hoping that the Docters can slow down your mom's Parkinson's since it was caught early .

    Peggy

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