Widowed by EC

mandamaye
mandamaye Member Posts: 1
in Esophageal Cancer #1

 

 

My husband of 40 years died one month ago. I was told there are women like me at this site and on Facebook, but I can't find them.

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  • jaycc
    jaycc Member Posts: 122
    #2
    Other widows - we are here, you are not alone in the journey

    Hi,

    I lost my husband to EC as well. Sorry we have to meet under these conditions. I have found comfort on the discussion boards. Sometimes friends are family are wonderful but it helps to talk with someone who is a widow. 

     

    here are three locations I use:

    Cancercompass (bereavement, nice small group of women, all lost husbands to cancer (some specifically EC)

    http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/caregivers/bereavement/1,0,122,150.htm

     

    This site , select discussion board, then select grief and bereavement

    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/193

     

    then a full site for widows (has general topics and widows from cancer)

    widdahood.com

     

  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #3
    I'm sorry

    Hi Manda,

    First let me say I'm so sorry to hear of your sorrow. Like many, your husband was much too young to leave this earth.  There are a couple of groups on facebook which are spin-offs from this site. One is CSN Esophageal Cancer Group which I think is an open group and the other is a private group. I am part of the private group  who've all lost their husbands to EC. I don't know how long you've been on this site but most of us "met" right here. Some more recent names from this site you may be familiar with in our group are TerryV, Judy Reed, Laura Chambers (wife of Jimbo), and MattieFields. Some of us have passed the 1 year mark of our husband's death and others are much newer, like you, to their grief. Because our group is private and we wish to keep it that way, you have to be "invited" to join. Once again, it's a group no one wants to qualify to join but we are so grateful to have each other. We vent, cry, laugh (YES, laugh), talk freely about our feelings and we care so much about each other - even though most have never actually met. Many have said this group is more affective than any grief counselor or grief group they've been to. We have all walked a similar road and we all truly "get it". If you or anyone who reads this and has been widowed by this horrible disease would like to join us, please send me an email on this site and give me your facebook name and I can take it from there. I believe there are 20 of us on that site and several of us are actually planning to meet in August - we're coming from all over the United States, Canada and one gal is even coming from Australia.

    Most of us don't come to this site anymore (it's just too painful) but every now and then I take a peek to check up on some old "friends". Maybe it's people like you, Manda, that keep me coming back.  Again, I'm so just so sorry.

  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #4
    Please reach out to either Rita or I for FB

    Manda,

    I am so sorry for your loss!  I am part of the Facebook group and find the "therapy" and friendship to be lifesaving.  Please drop a note to either Rita or me with your Facebook information and we will make sure you receive an invite to join us.

    {HUGS} to you!

    TerryV
    PROUD wife to Nick, age 49
    lost battle to EC, June 19, 2012

  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    #5
    jaycc said:

    Other widows - we are here, you are not alone in the journey

    Hi,

    I lost my husband to EC as well. Sorry we have to meet under these conditions. I have found comfort on the discussion boards. Sometimes friends are family are wonderful but it helps to talk with someone who is a widow. 

     

    here are three locations I use:

    Cancercompass (bereavement, nice small group of women, all lost husbands to cancer (some specifically EC)

    http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/caregivers/bereavement/1,0,122,150.htm

     

    This site , select discussion board, then select grief and bereavement

    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/193

     

    then a full site for widows (has general topics and widows from cancer)

    widdahood.com

     

    I just lost my husband to EC this past Friday evening

    You're not alone. My husband passed January 11th.

     

    jan

  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    #6
    jaycc said:

    Other widows - we are here, you are not alone in the journey

    Hi,

    I lost my husband to EC as well. Sorry we have to meet under these conditions. I have found comfort on the discussion boards. Sometimes friends are family are wonderful but it helps to talk with someone who is a widow. 

     

    here are three locations I use:

    Cancercompass (bereavement, nice small group of women, all lost husbands to cancer (some specifically EC)

    http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/caregivers/bereavement/1,0,122,150.htm

     

    This site , select discussion board, then select grief and bereavement

    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/193

     

    then a full site for widows (has general topics and widows from cancer)

    widdahood.com

     

    I just lost my husband to EC this past Friday evening

    You're not alone. My husband passed January 11th.

     

    jan

  • spensir
    spensir Member Posts: 44
    #7
    ritawaite13 said:

    I'm sorry

    Hi Manda,

    First let me say I'm so sorry to hear of your sorrow. Like many, your husband was much too young to leave this earth.  There are a couple of groups on facebook which are spin-offs from this site. One is CSN Esophageal Cancer Group which I think is an open group and the other is a private group. I am part of the private group  who've all lost their husbands to EC. I don't know how long you've been on this site but most of us "met" right here. Some more recent names from this site you may be familiar with in our group are TerryV, Judy Reed, Laura Chambers (wife of Jimbo), and MattieFields. Some of us have passed the 1 year mark of our husband's death and others are much newer, like you, to their grief. Because our group is private and we wish to keep it that way, you have to be "invited" to join. Once again, it's a group no one wants to qualify to join but we are so grateful to have each other. We vent, cry, laugh (YES, laugh), talk freely about our feelings and we care so much about each other - even though most have never actually met. Many have said this group is more affective than any grief counselor or grief group they've been to. We have all walked a similar road and we all truly "get it". If you or anyone who reads this and has been widowed by this horrible disease would like to join us, please send me an email on this site and give me your facebook name and I can take it from there. I believe there are 20 of us on that site and several of us are actually planning to meet in August - we're coming from all over the United States, Canada and one gal is even coming from Australia.

    Most of us don't come to this site anymore (it's just too painful) but every now and then I take a peek to check up on some old "friends". Maybe it's people like you, Manda, that keep me coming back.  Again, I'm so just so sorry.

    I would love to join your widows group.

    My name is Shirley and I had to say goodbye for now to my husband of 40 years May 13 2011.  I am healing but there are days when it is a raw and painful as if he just left us.  John was diagnosed October 2009.  Please let me know how I can contact the group.  I Have a strong support system but there is something about someone who has had a similar journey.  Thanks

  • hobbssy
    hobbssy Member Posts: 16
    #8
    spensir said:

    I would love to join your widows group.

    My name is Shirley and I had to say goodbye for now to my husband of 40 years May 13 2011.  I am healing but there are days when it is a raw and painful as if he just left us.  John was diagnosed October 2009.  Please let me know how I can contact the group.  I Have a strong support system but there is something about someone who has had a similar journey.  Thanks

    Support group

    Hi Shirley.  We can certainly add you to the facebook group, but first you have to have a facebook account and if you do, we need your full name so we can add you. Hope to see you there.  Patti

     

  • VIC123
    VIC123 Member Posts: 13
    #9
    Also widowed from the most amazing man by EC

    Would like to join the group in Fb. I do have a Fb aacount. How does it work?.

    it will be two years and he continues to be so much missed. Nothing can justify this horrible illness.

    Blessings' Vic

  • mruble
    mruble Member Posts: 174
    #10
    VIC123 said:

    Also widowed from the most amazing man by EC

    Would like to join the group in Fb. I do have a Fb aacount. How does it work?.

    it will be two years and he continues to be so much missed. Nothing can justify this horrible illness.

    Blessings' Vic

    FB

    Hi Vic --

     

    if you'd like to send me a friend request, I'll get you added.  Mary Lewis Ruble in Minnesota 

    so sorry that you qualify for membership :(

     

    mary

  • spensir
    spensir Member Posts: 44
    #11
    spensir said:

    I would love to join your widows group.

    My name is Shirley and I had to say goodbye for now to my husband of 40 years May 13 2011.  I am healing but there are days when it is a raw and painful as if he just left us.  John was diagnosed October 2009.  Please let me know how I can contact the group.  I Have a strong support system but there is something about someone who has had a similar journey.  Thanks

    joining the group

    I do have a face book account my last name is skager the account is under John and Shirley Skager.

  • mruble
    mruble Member Posts: 174
    #12
    spensir said:

    joining the group

    I do have a face book account my last name is skager the account is under John and Shirley Skager.

    Friend request

    Hi Shirley -

    i just sent you a friend request and will get you added to our widows' group after you accept it.  Mary

  • Coffeegirl8
    Coffeegirl8 Member Posts: 1
    edited September 2017 #13
    ritawaite13 said:

    I'm sorry

    Hi Manda,

    First let me say I'm so sorry to hear of your sorrow. Like many, your husband was much too young to leave this earth.  There are a couple of groups on facebook which are spin-offs from this site. One is CSN Esophageal Cancer Group which I think is an open group and the other is a private group. I am part of the private group  who've all lost their husbands to EC. I don't know how long you've been on this site but most of us "met" right here. Some more recent names from this site you may be familiar with in our group are TerryV, Judy Reed, Laura Chambers (wife of Jimbo), and MattieFields. Some of us have passed the 1 year mark of our husband's death and others are much newer, like you, to their grief. Because our group is private and we wish to keep it that way, you have to be "invited" to join. Once again, it's a group no one wants to qualify to join but we are so grateful to have each other. We vent, cry, laugh (YES, laugh), talk freely about our feelings and we care so much about each other - even though most have never actually met. Many have said this group is more affective than any grief counselor or grief group they've been to. We have all walked a similar road and we all truly "get it". If you or anyone who reads this and has been widowed by this horrible disease would like to join us, please send me an email on this site and give me your facebook name and I can take it from there. I believe there are 20 of us on that site and several of us are actually planning to meet in August - we're coming from all over the United States, Canada and one gal is even coming from Australia.

    Most of us don't come to this site anymore (it's just too painful) but every now and then I take a peek to check up on some old "friends". Maybe it's people like you, Manda, that keep me coming back.  Again, I'm so just so sorry.

    Lost my husband to esophageal cancer

    I would love to join your group on FB. I lost my husband in Feb at the age of 54 to Esophageal Cancer. To this day I have no idea how he got it. I have a 12 year old son and am now a widow. Crazy life.  I am under Elise Papazian Pritikin. 

  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    #14
    Coffeegirl8 said:

    Lost my husband to esophageal cancer

    I would love to join your group on FB. I lost my husband in Feb at the age of 54 to Esophageal Cancer. To this day I have no idea how he got it. I have a 12 year old son and am now a widow. Crazy life.  I am under Elise Papazian Pritikin. 

    Facebook Group

    Elise,

    You will be receiving a "friend" request from Mary Ruble. Mary is the administrator of the widow's Facebook group. Once you accept the friend request she can add you to the group.

    Paul

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