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me_and_my_mom
me_and_my_mom Member Posts: 46 Member

I have not been a member of this board for long, but I wanted to stop in and thank you all for the thoughtful responses I rec'd to my posts. My mother (73 yo)was dx on Dec 2nd, had chemo on Dec. 13, and has been steadily declining since. She is too sick to recieve more chemo, and cat-scans showed her tumor grew, not regressed. My mother has a very rare type - carcinosarcoma - which is very, very hard treat, especially when she presented as late as she did. We have stopped TPN and hydration, and she is now on hospice. I found a beautiful small hospice home on Cape Cod which accpeted her today. It is beautiful, and peaceful, and I am so grateful that she will be going there. She is on a lot of pain and anti nausea meds via IV, as she cannot tolerate eating or drinking - just ice chips to moisten her mouth. They estimate she has about a week or two at most to live (but, I have a feeling she has alot less time than that). She has accepted her prognosis, and our hope is for her to go peacefully w/ family by her side. My heart goes out to all of you on this board - may God bless you all w/ health and happiness. I hesitated to share this bad news, because I didn't want to upset anybody - but just remember, I am  (as of May 5 2013) a 20 year ovarian cancer survivor. And please keep in mind regarding my moms story - she was very very sick and extremely advanced when diagnosed, and she has the worst type to have.

 

Take Care everyone,

Carol

Comments

  • wholfmeister
    wholfmeister Member Posts: 315
    So sorry

    Thank you for sending this update.  I have been wondering, and worrying, about you and your family.  We were all hoping for a better outcome for your mom.  I will continue to pray for peace for all involved. 

  • ptharp
    ptharp Member Posts: 190
    I am so sorry about your Mom.

    I am so sorry about your Mom. You are a good daughter. It is amazing that you are a 20 year survivor. what stage were you diagnosed with?

  • MJensen
    MJensen Member Posts: 93
    ptharp said:

    I am so sorry about your Mom.

    I am so sorry about your Mom. You are a good daughter. It is amazing that you are a 20 year survivor. what stage were you diagnosed with?

    I am so very sorry
    Carol,
    I am sorry things didnt get better like we all had hoped for. I am glad you have found a nice place for her to stay and I hope they are able to keep her comfortable. You have been a real trooper and I am sure she is proud of everything you tried to do for her. Peace be with you and your family during this trying time. I hope you continue to stay strong and cancer free! Xoxo Michele
  • Catherine-OC
    Catherine-OC Member Posts: 9
    Carol,
    i have been following

    Carol,

    i have been following your posts and have been concerned for how you are doing. I found out my mum has ovca at the end of November so I felt a little like we were going through similar things at a similar time. I had a feeling that your absence from the board of late may have been due to your moms illness but I had hoped it was not. So sorry to hear that she cannot accept anymore treatment and that she is as ill as she is. Sending you so much love and positive thoughts through this difficult time. take care of yourself. X

  • Mwee
    Mwee Member Posts: 1,338
    Dear Carol

    I have also been following your Mom's story and I'm so very sorry to hear this latest news. I lost my brother to pancreatic cancer in October and hospice was simply wonderful.  Our thoughts are with you both.

                                                                                   ((((HUGS))))   Maria

  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    Sorry that your Mom is not

    Sorry that your Mom is not doing well. I know this is a very difficult time for you and your family. God Bless...val

     

  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    I'M SO SORRY, CAROL

    I have been in your shoes, so I know what you must be feeling.  My prayers to you and your dear Mother, that she will find comfort in your love and presence.  And that you both will be at peace as her journey continues. 

    God's grace and love to you both.

    Monika

     

  • azgrandma
    azgrandma Member Posts: 609 Member
    So sorry to hear this

    I am sorry ot hear this news. We are all herr to maybe help someone else is some way. May God help yo and your mother.

    I am glad to hear that you are a 20 year survivor, this is great and may you stay in remission for ever.

    God be with you honey 

  • azgrandma
    azgrandma Member Posts: 609 Member
    So sorry to hear this

    I am sorry ot hear this news. We are all herr to maybe help someone else is some way. May God help yo and your mother.

    I am glad to hear that you are a 20 year survivor, this is great and may you stay in remission for ever.

    God be with you honey 

  • kikz
    kikz Member Posts: 1,345 Member
    I am so sorry to hear

    this news, Carol.  I pray that your mom does have peace and comfort in her final days.  Thank you for taking time to let us know.  Please come back to the site if you need us.  This group has helped me get through some difficult times.  You are in my thoughts.

     

    Karen

  • Alexandra
    Alexandra Member Posts: 1,308
    Dear Carol

    I am very sorry about your mom's condition. I hope she is as comfortable and pain-free as possible.

     

    Hugs,

    Alexandra

  • lovesanimals
    lovesanimals Member Posts: 1,366 Member
    Alexandra said:

    Dear Carol

    I am very sorry about your mom's condition. I hope she is as comfortable and pain-free as possible.

     

    Hugs,

    Alexandra

    Dear Carol

    I am so sorry to hear the latest about your beloved mom.  From your posts, I can tell that you are a caring and loving daughter and that you and your family will make it possible for your mom's last days to be peaceful and loving.  I appreciate the fact that you were worried about how we would take this news but please know that we are so glad that you have shared your mom's journey with us.  Thank you too for the sharing the uplifting news about your own 20 year survival - wow!

    Please feel free to come to this board anytime.  You're like family now!

    Peace and blessings,

    Kelly

  • lulu1010
    lulu1010 Member Posts: 367

    Dear Carol

    I am so sorry to hear the latest about your beloved mom.  From your posts, I can tell that you are a caring and loving daughter and that you and your family will make it possible for your mom's last days to be peaceful and loving.  I appreciate the fact that you were worried about how we would take this news but please know that we are so glad that you have shared your mom's journey with us.  Thank you too for the sharing the uplifting news about your own 20 year survival - wow!

    Please feel free to come to this board anytime.  You're like family now!

    Peace and blessings,

    Kelly

    Dear Carol

    Praying for Gods loving support for your family and that your mother is free of pain and at peace. So very sorry!

    Linda

  • lulu1010
    lulu1010 Member Posts: 367

    Dear Carol

    I am so sorry to hear the latest about your beloved mom.  From your posts, I can tell that you are a caring and loving daughter and that you and your family will make it possible for your mom's last days to be peaceful and loving.  I appreciate the fact that you were worried about how we would take this news but please know that we are so glad that you have shared your mom's journey with us.  Thank you too for the sharing the uplifting news about your own 20 year survival - wow!

    Please feel free to come to this board anytime.  You're like family now!

    Peace and blessings,

    Kelly

    Dear Carol

    Praying for Gods loving support for your family and that your mother is free of pain and at peace. So very sorry!

    Linda

  • me_and_my_mom
    me_and_my_mom Member Posts: 46 Member
    ptharp said:

    I am so sorry about your Mom.

    I am so sorry about your Mom. You are a good daughter. It is amazing that you are a 20 year survivor. what stage were you diagnosed with?

    I was dx w/ a stage 1, grade

    I was dx w/ a stage 1, grade 3, immature terratoma of the ovary. It was within a very large dermoid cyst. The doctor told me it was an ovarian cancer typically seen in young women, and that it was very  cancer to male's testicular cancer. It is very treatable. I was very lucky. I had 3 months of adjuvent chemo, and have been fine since.

    Thank you all for your kind replies. My mother passed on January 30th while in the hospice home. I am doing okay - it is my Dad I am worried for now. He just turned 80 yo last week  - and  he is having a very difficult time dealing w/ the lose of his wife. Life is just hard. But, I'm glad my mother is no longer suffering.

    Carol

  • lovesanimals
    lovesanimals Member Posts: 1,366 Member

    I was dx w/ a stage 1, grade

    I was dx w/ a stage 1, grade 3, immature terratoma of the ovary. It was within a very large dermoid cyst. The doctor told me it was an ovarian cancer typically seen in young women, and that it was very  cancer to male's testicular cancer. It is very treatable. I was very lucky. I had 3 months of adjuvent chemo, and have been fine since.

    Thank you all for your kind replies. My mother passed on January 30th while in the hospice home. I am doing okay - it is my Dad I am worried for now. He just turned 80 yo last week  - and  he is having a very difficult time dealing w/ the lose of his wife. Life is just hard. But, I'm glad my mother is no longer suffering.

    Carol

    Dear Carol

    I am so very sorry about the passing of your beloved mother.  I feel for your dad.  Losing one's spouse is one of the hardest things many people go through in life.  I hope though that all of the good memories help sustain your dad and you in the coming days and weeks, knowing that she is now at peace and no longer suffering.  Please accept my deepest condolences.

    Hugs,

    Kelly