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eibod
eibod CSN Member Posts: 160
in Colorectal Cancer #1
Thanks for everyones help these past months. I lost my sweet husband of 43 years at
3:30 this morning. It is so hard to believe, feels like a bad dream. His last hours
were peaceful, hospice was wonderful.
I can't begin to express how much the wonderful people on this site have helped me this
last year. You guys have encouraged me and helped me take care of him, thank you for
that. Brenda
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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh CSN Member Posts: 4,392 Member
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    Brenda
    Well, Brenda...Thank you for doing all that you could possibly do and for standing attentively by his side.

    If anything comforts me, it is that his "last hours were peaceful." That alone must have been some kind of comfort for you, given everything.

    We walked along the path with you - and you kept us close - together, we all experienced this tragedy and its effects, while much different from that of your own, it still strikes a resounding chord within each one of us who are out there fighting.

    May he rest now as he gave it all that he had - and may you in the days to come, find the peace and acceptance with this, so that you go on with your life, and live it as well as you can.

    I salute your husband on a brave and courageous fight - and I tip my hat to you for what you had to go through yourself and what you taught us here on the board. You are a true representation of what a caregiver is.

    I hope that at some point, you will keep in touch with us - everyone, myself included, will be understandable concerned about you - and it you can let us know how you are faring, once you find your bearings, I know we would all like that.

    My sincerest condolences to you and your family, Brenda.

    -Craig
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  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 CSN Member Posts: 6,744 Member
    #3
    Sorry
    Was just thinking of your both last night and remember what a struggle you have had the last year. So glad that he went in peace and sorry your heart is so heavy right now. I'm hoping that you will continue to post on this board to let us know how you are doing. You were a wonderful caregiver, one that your husband was undoubtedly proud of. May God be with you all during this trying time.

    Hugs! Kim
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  • mom_2_3
    mom_2_3 CSN Member Posts: 953 Member
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    Brenda
    Brenda,

    I offer my condolences to you and your family. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling with the loss of your lifelong love.

    I hope that the passage of time allows you to move forward in your own life, knowing that your selfless care of your husband brought him peace and comfort at the end of his.

    Hugs,
    Amy
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  • ketziah35
    ketziah35 CSN Member Posts: 1,145
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    I am so sorry for your
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    -Ktz
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  • lisa42
    lisa42 CSN Member Posts: 3,625 Member
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    hugs
    Brenda,

    I am very sorry for your loss. I'm glad the end was peaceful- that means it was for both him and you, too. Take care of yourself and I am saying a prayer right now that you will be at peace throughout this difficult and sad time.

    Hugs,
    Lisa
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  • wolfen
    wolfen CSN Member Posts: 1,324 Member
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    lisa42 said:

    hugs
    Brenda,

    I am very sorry for your loss. I'm glad the end was peaceful- that means it was for both him and you, too. Take care of yourself and I am saying a prayer right now that you will be at peace throughout this difficult and sad time.

    Hugs,
    Lisa

    Brenda
    Please accept my sympathy for you and your family at this difficult time. May you find peace in knowing he is no longer in pain and at rest now.

    Wolfen
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  • annalexandria
    annalexandria CSN Member Posts: 2,571 Member
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    Dear Brenda-
    I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your dear husband. My condolences to you and to your family. Ann
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  • th_in_canada
    th_in_canada CSN Member Posts: 46
    #9
    sorry
    I'm so sorry for your loss, Brenda.
    You were a wonderful caregiver and your husband was blessed to have you in his life. Thank you for sharing this past year with us.
    Tricia
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  • pepebcn
    pepebcn CSN Member Posts: 6,331 Member
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    th_in_canada said:

    sorry
    I'm so sorry for your loss, Brenda.
    You were a wonderful caregiver and your husband was blessed to have you in his life. Thank you for sharing this past year with us.
    Tricia

    Thanks to you Brenda For been a wonderful caregiver
    and such a marvelous wife, praying for you.
    Pepe.
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  • buckeye2
    buckeye2 CSN Member Posts: 428 Member
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    I am so very sorry for your
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Forty-three years is a long time. What a great gift to have married the love of your life. Lisa
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  • christinecarl
    christinecarl CSN Member Posts: 544 Member
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    My condolences
    I am very sorry. I know no one can know exactly how you are feeling, but many of us have lost someone to this awful disease. I hope you are able to focus on the great memories and can put the cancer ones aside. I also hope you will continue to come to CSN and I pray for strength for you. No more pain for him, now only peace.
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  • tommycat
    tommycat CSN Member Posts: 790 Member
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    Very sorry for your loss
    Very sorry for your loss Brenda.....cancer consumed so much of your last days together. Wonder what the future holds for you? My hope is for peace, health, strength, love and some happiness re-entering the room until you two can meet again
    Take good care~
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  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH CSN Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #14
    Brenda, I'm so sorry for the

    Brenda, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. May the fond memories of your many years together forever warm your heart.

    All my best,

    Cynthia
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  • karen40
    karen40 CSN Member Posts: 211 Member
    #15
    I'm so sorry
    Brenda,
    I'm so sorry. I pray you find peace while coming to terms with this unwanted transition. You've done a great job. You've been an excellent caregiver. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know how you are doing from time to time. Take care and God Bless.
    Karen
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  • steveandnat
    steveandnat CSN Member Posts: 886
    #16
    Sorry for your loss
    Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your husband. You were such a good caregiver. Peace be with you.
    Jeff
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  • plh4gail
    plh4gail CSN Member Posts: 1,238 Member
    #17
    So very sorry for your loss!
    So very sorry for your loss! Bless you for being his loving caretaker and wife! Peace and hugs to you and your family.

    plh4gail
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  • Buckwirth
    Buckwirth CSN Member Posts: 1,258 Member
    #18
    Thank you Brenda
    For caring for him, and keeping jus informed. Now celebrate his memory, as he deserves it and as only you can do it!

    :tears:

    Blake
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  • eibod
    eibod CSN Member Posts: 160
    #19
    Buckwirth said:

    Thank you Brenda
    For caring for him, and keeping jus informed. Now celebrate his memory, as he deserves it and as only you can do it!

    :tears:

    Blake

    I want to thank you all for
    I want to thank you all for your kind replies and prayers. This past week has been hard,
    but all of my family has been here. Everyone has gone back to their work and their lives now, Monday morning, and I know the coming days and weeks will be hard. But I am going to try my best to stay busy and let the days pass with good memories of the life we had.
    I appreciate you all and wish the best for you. Brenda
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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties CSN Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #20
    Dear Brenda
    I am sorry for your loss, but knowing he is now at peace must be a relief for you.

    As the days go by, please let your wonderful memories of the last 43 years help fill the void of his not being physically by your side.

    Please take care of you.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties
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  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea CSN Member Posts: 3,900 Member
    #21
    sorry for your loss
    dear brenda,

    43 years of marriage, thats so wonderful in this day and age.

    they say quality not quantity, well i believe your marriage had both.

    I am glad the end was peaceful. If you feel down, just look up at the sky and think that love never dies.

    hugs,
    Pete
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